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@Lila9 Nice, thorough answer. I would however be skeptical of claiming sex is not a big deal back then. And man not claiming females and getting jealous if they get fucked by someone else...Maybe if it were like orgies and multiple man would be fucking a woman at the same time. I do also believe rejecetion had to be a thing back then. A woman was surely not letting anyone fuck her. FROM A SYSTEMIC POINT OF VIEW sexual selection is an incredibly important evolutionary process. It is like evolution on steroids. Sexual attraction is not just fun and games. It was key for selecting highly effective genes.

@Dauntment This comment is completely out of place

My ex broke up 1 year ago (together 3,5 years). She wanted to stay friends. I care a lot about her. So being friends motivated me. She also is a very good person and great friend, as I had seen. However... it doesn't work. I think staying friends is especially bad for man. As continuing to fuck is especially bad for woman. (if the guy, is not emotionally invested anymore) So proposing friendship almost feels like a trap. The girl continues to get emotional investment from you, but stops giving you her sexual exclusivity. Thoughts? Bad and Good Experiences with Friendship after Break-up?

@integral no I was emotionally pretty messed up. Breakup was not the only problem I had. I had hard time even wanting to have something with someone else. She was still what I wanted. I valued her during the relationship and afterwards a lot.

@Thought Art no I have not read it, but I am not talking about culture, since this is more of a societal construction. What was the romantic relationship form in a tribe of 1000 human living in the wild.

@Leo Gura isn't intuition about relying on feelings?

I don't know if it is really one or the other (feelings or reasons). A reason is also always associated with a feeling. If you figure out what brings you the most money in 10 years, you are still deciding based on the movitation, that you associate with becoming rich (which is very much a feeling). But I heard this idea from succesful friends already so maybe there is some merit to it. Having some fixed (rational) goal can be useful to sustain yourself through motivational dips.

@Samsonov Lets get rid of the fear of having "lost it all". That's bullshit. Things just got worse and I am sure they can get better again. Maybe you haven't worked through all the lessons you needed to be permantly at your higher self. Or maybe you are just in a bad mood. I am sure a little bit of rest and kindness towards yourself, is a good start

I would not say so. The algorithm is extremly biased towards shocking, radical, aggresive statements. If you flood the zone with bullshit, you can't really created an intelectual space. Also short form content will never really be suited to intelectuality anyways.

In the long run it is usually better to be open and diverse. it forces you to base your identity not around superficial aspects such as skin color, but around deeper human values. It allows you to expand your identity and play a more uniting role in the world.

@Shawn Philips You should actually whatch what happened before judging: Watch it: https://www.lemonde.fr/societe/video/2023/06/28/adolescent-tue-par-un-policier-a-nanterre-le-resume-des-evenements_6179582_3224.html The looting and especially the fires are completely unjustified, but the protest and anger is.

@mojsterr there is video of how it happened. It is honestly inacceptable. Watch it: https://www.lemonde.fr/societe/video/2023/06/28/adolescent-tue-par-un-policier-a-nanterre-le-resume-des-evenements_6179582_3224.html There are surely better ways of preventing a car from escaping then to shoot the driver. That something like that happens, is definitly a problem.

@Leo Gura What could improve the epistemic ecosystem? Isn't it just more important that people become intelectually humble again. Realizing that they are not the smartest and that they have to trust smarter people to achieve the best outcomes.

But how is humanity supposed to evolve then? Can you be stupid, but spiritually evolved? Is the future of humanity still a bunch of stupid people, but there are all stage green and above? I would also be careful about normalizing todays time. Shit was different. In Austria, politics worked great since the second world war. But now far right parties are surging, there is 0 appreciation for the work that has been done, nobody votes for people who address the real problems anymore. It's crazy. People are avoiding the work, fabricating fantasy problems, because the real problems are too difficult. And it feels only some good old pain will wake people up to not avoid hardship and responsability. It has to become clear again, that working together and finding ways to trust each other may not be fun, but the only way to avoid pain. I have the feeling the way nations move forward is not by using their eyes. They just walk along until they hit a wall.

Scary... I am wondering where this will end.

@Jodistrict You seem to assume that being wrong and lying is the same thing.

@StarStruck comparing trump with hitler is not so random. If you haven't realized Trump and especially MAGA is increasingly becoming a fascist movement. Hard to tell where the limit is for MAGA, as they are so easily manipulated. If Trump works long enough on it he could probably justify offensive wars, destroying democracy, forbidding wokeness (forbidding free speech), promoting mob violance against LGBTQ and migrants. It won't come that far, but thats the direction MAGA is moving in.

I am getting so tired of all these people (including friends of mine) who are just completly rejecting all institutions and established journalism, and prefer believing tiktok videos made from people they don't know. All those fucking crazy conspiracy theories. Bad government here, bad government there. There are controlling us. LGBTQ some secret agend by the "elites" (cant even define what the elites are). Every evidence against them is fake. Not trusting science but trusting random joe on twitter. I WOULD LOVE to put all those people in a country with each other. No more communist radical leftists. No more establishements. No more academia. No more woke corporations. Just them and their beliefs. Because then they would not have any excuses anymore. They couldn't point the finger to someone else because its just them. And the carnage can begin. No more government to blame. All those disillusions running rampant, self destructing in spectacular fashion. And after many years of complete chaos, and pain. That would wake them up so hard, yet they would probably just go into fascism and fight until the bitter end. Scared so much of a totalitarian government that they created one themselves. There was a time when stupid people were to extent self aware of it, and admitted that experts were more knowledgable. Now they are themselves the "expert".

I am wondering what the WEF is supposed to be good for. It is not a form legitimate centralised power which could enforce global economic player into behaving. And if it were a form of centralized power, this could be even worse since it is composed of economic elites. Earth would basicly become one giant oligarchy. I don't want to completly rule out that this form of informal cooperation could lead towards a better way of adressing some global problem such as climate change. However until now there has not been any particular success by the WEF, right? Finally, when it comes to wealth distribution I would never trust economic elites to improve that (-> one giant oligarchy)

Early signs of orange before backlash comes. fascinating

Is it correct, that all life purposes, as selfless as there are, are ultimatly just a selfish desire? This would mean that all life purposes are just a way to burn through karma (of course much more developed than burning through the desire for sex, but still)

@playdoh sorry to hear that, but don't give up. Meditation also can take time, it's a skill, not a medication. You have to find some long term solutions and benzos are not. If you keep sticking to it, I am sure you will eventually find some things that can help you a bit. Don't let the hopelessness take control of you, there are so many people I ve heard, who struggled for years, to eventually get better.

I am going through depression after experiencing several losses and a lack of love. As life is feeling empty and I have difficulty feeling motivation for anything, I got curious about meaning. Is there something such as absolute meaning? Are all Life purposes ultimatly completly meaningless? For all those having a meaningful life, are you able to accept and be aware that your meaning completly made up?

I know the magic of benzos, they are really impressive, but they are basicly a cheat right. They don't act on our cognitions, they just turn off the anxiety neurons. But getting off benzos is apparently harder than gettin off heroin. You can watch the videos of Jordan Peterson talking about his benzo withdrawal and I don't think a lot of people will even manage to go through such a hard process. Try to find something sustainable. Meditation I think is very powerful for anxiety. You can overcome anxiety in other ways, I know it from a friend who managed to improve significantly on her social anxiety.

@Squeekytoy @universe Thank you for the answers! I am not looking for ego death. I am not in an emotional state, where I can handle instability. Also my life is a mess. So I don't think this is a good idea. I am looking for ways to feel more fullfilement in life. Get strong and healthy again. Be able to stand on my own two feet. Maybe find some purpose. Could you answer me some more questions I have regarding Leo's purpose. Is he pursuing his Life purpose just to feel love? If he doesn't believe, that there exists another perspective than his, than his teachings are in some sense pointless right, because there is not even an other perspective, that can reach enlightenment? There are basicly just made up character, that will appear as if they got enlightened? Am I wrong?