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I turned 20 last month, and honestly, I’ve never felt this ugly, lonely, jealous, or insecure before. All my friends have boyfriends. They’re so extroverted, confident, and seem to attract attention so easily. They can just talk to anyone, and meanwhile, I feel invisible. No guy even looks at me. I feel like an awkward and ugly hippo next to these cool, hot people. Every time I hear them talk about their relationships, I feel this weird mix of jealousy and sadness — like a weight in my chest and a pit in my stomach. I want what they have. I want love and attention too. I want to be able to talk to people without freezing up. I get so anxious even around girls, let alone boys. What’s worse is that even my parents are totally okay with me having a boyfriend — they want me to — but I just… don’t know how to connect with anyone. I don’t know how to talk. I don’t even know how to start. I feel so left out. Like life is moving forward for everyone except me. (I was anxious to post this here)

If women are driven by emotions then why are you voting for Kamala. Why do u want a woman to be your president? (Sorry ik it's out of topic...my parents are trump supporters and this is my first time voting and they don't believe a woman can lead this country)

When they force you to believe in what they believe or they'll blackmail you

If you have a gf, r u going to leave her after she's 25?

@Leo Gura Yeah ig ur right. The reason I've been thinking about this alot is because I heard a lot of men on YT and tiktok talk about stuff like after 25 a woman is expired and very hurtful stuff like that which made me wonder if men could ever actually love a woman and that should i even bother dating guys if it's not gonna last. Anyway thanks for ur response.

But I will obviously get older and i just need to know how men think and since men care so much about the physical appearance of a woman, can they ever see past that and still be "head over heels" in love with a woman? Do men feel the same love for the woman the way a woman feels about the man? Or does love (in relationship context ) work differently for men? I know maybe I'm too young to be thinking about all this.

I do understand that there are many happily married people but most of these relationships aren't really like "head over heels, infatuation" kinda love, these relationships are mostly just boring from my observation...... i could be wrong.

These are really good points, Thanks.

How to assess the quality of a person?

Umm...That's kinda creepy right and I don't think most older guys are going to be "developed and conscious" either it's probably going to be the same.

@Leo Gura the thing is I am an introvert and I've never went on a date or been in a relationship and I'm only 18 and i don't really think most guys around me are like relationship material. Studying rocket science sounds better lol.

Yes, most guys are not developed or conscious tho, especially people my age. Yeah, I think I've always been in love with the idea of love, but I think the love i really want probably doesn't exist in the real world. It's kinda sad.

Men say they want youth and good looks in a woman but ofcourse no woman is ever going to look beautiful and young forever. But loving a woman for her looks is not actually loving her And from a woman's pov she needs her man to actually love her, and be with her. So is it reasonable to want a man to love you am i completely delusional and men aren't capable of actually loving a woman?