Sincerity

An example of a post where it only gets worse as You keep reading. You should tell the truth to that poor "7" You're with.

Damn, that's really beautiful.

solipsism ?

❤️ You don't even have to carry "yourself"... Good point, You're right We have a very sweet and honest relationship. Sometimes she may respond in a grumpy way for no reason but I can take because I know she must be agitated because of something else. I don't need her to change that. I think I see your point though and it's true I want to fix her sometimes. I don't want her to make foolish choices, get in dangerous situations, not study for a test out of laziness, etc... Yea, I won't accept that and I'll urge her to act differently - because I care, and I think it's okay. I mostly do it in an uninvasive way though and later she's thankful for me being more strict with her. Sometimes she's a lazy slug (just like her brother) and she appreciates the motivation. But of course I don't accept a lot of things about all sorts of people so yeah your point is perfectly valid. I agree it's very challenging.

But You have it in You to let go That doesn't mean leaving them. And there's nothing wrong with loving someone. But You can sort of let go in your mind and surrender to the awakening more when the time comes... and accept death, or rather overcome fear of death, and the fear of leaving your parents, which I'd argue is part of dying. You might have to spill a lot of tears to get to this. I know I had to about my sister - A LOT. And it might be really difficult for You, but You can do it. It's pretty much about ACCEPTANCE. Last time I awakened 2 weeks ago I actually managed to finally overcome the attachment (it arose yet again), accept "death" and let go... and "the outcome" was indescribable. So yeah, it's possible for You too.

I can resonate too. For me, attachment to my sister has been one of the strongest forces keeping me from letting go.

I went to my dancing classes for the first time in 2 weeks. I had so much fun. This was the last song we danced to. It's so bittersweet... I felt really sad hearing it. It reminds me of my immature nature of wanting the good stuff and rejecting the "bad". I wish I could accept everything.

The more conscious I am (my state varies), the more motivated, disciplined, intelligent, creative, accepting, peaceful and authentic I am. I find that being more awake & grounded in that state actually tightens your grip on day-to-day reality. You're literally MORE AWAKE. And day-to-day reality is, well... REALITY. That's what You're awake to, after all. And yes, life is much easier. Note: here I'm talking about being more awake "soberly", as in not after intaking a drug. I'm pretty sure living from a state of being mindblowingly awake on LSD is not sustainable and yeah You do lose the grip on daily life. I recognize I'm making a distinction between sober and psychedelic-assisted awakening but well, to me sober awakenings have been the most grounded and allowing me to enjoy everyday life, so... sue me haha.

How accurate and charitable. ? Thanks dude, lol. Maybe we're all NPCs after all. (kidding)

A three letter word comes to mind, starting with 'Y' and ending with 'OU'. I won't bother elaborating. First You say You don't know, and then in the next breath You talk like You do: You've made so many obvious unfounded assumptions in your first post (especially about Leo) that initially I just rolled my eyes and decided not to say anything. But here I am, saying something... Well, my final message to You here: You have it in You to get serious. So do, if You care about knowing what You are at all.

No, I don't think other people are NPCs. That's an utter misunderstanding of what solipsism or Aloneness refers to. You've been told many times how to go about this work. Seek the truth of what You are - directly, in experience. Thinking and believing stuff won't get You there. Thus, get serious at last.

It's not about belief. Or "buying it". Get serious.

To be clear, I was joking... ...Are You joking tho?

Hard to stomach that Andrew Tate is more awake than Y'all? Accept the facts guys.

I reached such an utter low that it started spilling out of me and my family became worried about me. It was evident that I was not well. Later on during a talk with my mom I just kind of mentioned that sometimes I felt like I was going through hell, that I had terrible mood swings and was feeling hopeless in general. She said I should have told them sooner (I never did before) and offered to pay for my therapy. She gave me emotional support - as much as she could muster. I had mixed feelings after this conversation because I've never opened up like this before and everything was happening so fast. Me going to a psychologist?? Because of mental health problems?? What the fuck?? Next day my dad went to talk to me and also said that I should have told them, that they would pay without a problem... he also said that he's been treating himself for his own problems for years (wtf?) and that he had stupid ideas in the past (WTF????). And also he told me that he loved me. While feeling loved and a bit relieved, my ego also took a hit and I had a mixed reaction to all of this. I felt I should be able to take care of my own mind myself. I felt I should be above this. I felt I couldn't consider getting out of this as MY accomplishment if I didn't do it on MY OWN. I wanted to feel unique, I wanted to feel self-sufficient, I wanted to feel like it was MY journey, MY achievement. Me, MEEE, MEEEEEE!!! And then I realized where these feelings were coming from. I was scared. I was afraid of letting go, of dying, of being nothing. I tapped into that fear which I became oblivious to and stayed there for so long, driving myself crazy, going absolute fucking bonkers on myself and spiraling into a dark and hopeless void. And when I became conscious of all this... I felt truly relieved. For the first time in ~2,5 months, I felt some genuine peace. I've had moments of relief during these 2,5 months but this time it was different. It's like I really saw through what I've been doing all this time. I was so lost and confused... but now I'm hopeful it will get better and better. AND I will still go to the psychologist, obviously. I think it'd be stupid of me not to. It's an opportunity and I'm gonna use it. And yeah, after that day this peace has been pervading my experience more and more. Today was sweet. My curiosity has been reignited, I said some sincere things to my family members which warmed up our relations, I've been appreciating the beautiful day and my existence... Drank a nice coffee in a new place and contemplated there. Good stuff! I'm excited for what's coming. I'm bouncing back from the backlash phase. I will further awaken soon and it's going to heavily impact my everyday life. I feel it in my bones. And I'm going to work for it. And in the end I will accept EVERYTHING because, well... I am _____.

Okay, I see your points and I have nothing important to add. Thanks for a nice exchange of views!

Personally I think Carl is using the word too broadly, but I'd say that the concept certainly exists. Example: A guy cannot attract women, craves to but disregards it and doesn't work on it because of spiritual truths coming from the absolute perspective. That's avoiding the problem, that's bypassing. I agree.

Hmm. Personally I wouldn't consider consciously accepting an emotion without changing one's behaviour as spiritual bypassing. I mean, when You accept the emotion You face reality head on... AND I'd also say that the newly accepted reality does incentivize behaviour change. At least for me, consciousness and peace inspire solutions and growth. It's just that mostly there's no manual deconstruction and analysis, it's done on a more intuitive level and from a relieved state. But neither feeling nor behaviour change is avoided. I guess both approaches could be connected in a model like this: Situation --> emotion arises --> awareness and acceptance of the emotion --> emotion subsides & contemplation over situation. That's very inspiring! Seriously. And I agree that writing things down is powerful. Actually in regards to processing emotions I can mention that I'm completing these forms every day in the evening to be more aware and accepting of my feelings. Note that it concerns emotions in the now (although when I focus there often reappear emotions that I avoided and repressed during the day) and also the third question is about lessons from the day - which are often derived from how I feel / felt and why, so there's room for some analysis. I guess what I wanna say is we agree like 95% probably haha. I wouldn't consider accepting something You can't change as spiritual bypassing. If You can't do anything but accept and You DO accept, then what is bypassed?

Nice post! Perhaps I'll share my slightly different approach. I find that most often simply consciousness and acceptance do the work. For me (if I'm conscious enough) the mechanism is: problem --> emotion arises --> awareness and acceptance of the emotion --> emotion subsides. While analysis can be useful, I think that in regards to emotions presence in the moment and acceptance are the #1 thing and they dissolve all turmoil beautifully. AND I'd argue that with consciousness, You also learn for the long-term - without the need for "manual" analysis. It's just learning in a different way. Analysis and finding lessons are still great tho. Clarity about the situation and a commitment to respond differently next time are certainly empowering, relief-bringing and satisfying - especially if You're in love with that wisdom babyy. Like? I'm curious what You're thinking of because I'd lean towards saying that all forms of spiritual bypassing are, well... bypassing, running away. While it may have "uses" (depending on what your goals are), it's never facing the truth. And things that one absolutely cannot change can be accepted too.

Beautiful! ?

Please be more respectful in your responses to others. @Breakingthewall It's okay dude. Don't let others get to You too easy.

He's not in "the business of ecology". He's in business. Mostly. And even if he was that doesn't mean he couldn't be mainly orange. Perhaps ask yourself what SD really tracks and what it doesn't. I get the impression that people here often don't appreciate the intelligence of the """lower""" stages. To be at healthy orange is something really great. And it's easy to confuse intelligent orange people with them being yellow. So to clarify: I'm not saying Musk is primarily orange as an insult. Of course he probably does have some yellow in him too. Also I suggest You take a look at your biases against green. Our society's transition into green has BARELY started and being so critical of it and wanting to jump straight to yellow is simply a misunderstanding in my view. Which many are guilty of. In general if You're negative about green You're most likely below it rather than above, I'd say. Healthy green is going to be something really beautiful and no, it's not just about going to burning man and smoking pot - it goes way deeper than that.

Gee, that's a profound understanding of stage green. Kudos to You.

Just letting You know You've started 10 threads in the last 24 hours.

I'd say he's much more orange than yellow. You can be an amazing learner at any stage.