mr_engineer

If you're making it all about the woman, you're enabling her being in her ego. That's not what I'm talking about. I said that both sides must set their egos aside. And you make it about the relationship, or the collective of the two of you, which is a third entity.

When you thanked her for sharing her life with you and explained why it was time for you to go your separate ways, that was a nice way to end it. But then, when you back-track and say you'd like to fix things, she'll see that as a b*tch-move. Especially if this was how she rationalized ending it with you to begin with. So, you doing something like this further reinforces her rationale and she'll have no moral repercussions blocking you.

Your business-model sounds more like a high-end club-membership for people who are sick of the rat-race and who want to advance to Green. In that case, I'd advise you to do some market-research on that front. What is that industry competing on?! And what are the priorities of that marketplace?! My uninformed opinion is that in that marketplace, the competition will be on price. Because who wouldn't want these services if they're affordable?! Everyone would! The issue is that most people can't afford them. And this sets you apart. And the challenges with this work are going to be logistic. So, do it if you are the type of person who is very resourceful logistically and can be one of the best in the marketplace at handling the back-end of this thing. If that's you, go for it!

Very high-end. You'd have to charge thousands of dollars per year for membership, especially for the live bands. Apart from that, I like the idea in which people come to socialize and grow together. However, I also think that you're going to have to give that 'growth' some structure. Cuz if you look at a university-environment, yes, kids want to socialize and grow together. But, without the institution and the professors, all they really do is party in frat-houses. And I don't think the 'wisdom mentors' belong in a gym. Cuz the gym is mostly populated by testosterone-filled guys who are pushing each other to do '5 MORE REPS!!' Unless the gym-owner is Tier-2. Then, you can really design some good systems to execute on these plans! And you should probably not include the 'group training sessions' in a gym. Most silicon valley types will actually frown upon your idea for a very simple reason - it focuses on too many things. A system generally has one purpose and all the parts are aiming towards a common goal. It seems to me that you haven't clearly defined your 'goal' yet. So, I'd suggest that you identify the common thread in all of these things that's really motivating you and choose a simpler idea to make it happen. Let's not ignore the marketing-challenge of marketing something that does too many things. What is the one thing that you're good at that you want to position yourself as?! Which marketplace do you want to position yourself in?! What's the unique value that you have to offer?! In business, profitability is everything. Especially long-term profitability. HTH!!

Quit porn. Avoid it as much as you can. Masturbation without external stimuli is not too detrimental.

I won't spell out the implications of this statement from him. I will let you folks read between the lines on this one.

I'll give you an example. Movies condition us to want to go for women who are light-hearted and bubbly in nature. That is our image of 'feminine radiance' that we're conditioned with, so to speak. Now, this is where I was coming from. And, I see this girl who is really serious. My first instinct was to blow her off, because 'she wasn't making me feel good'. But then, I realized that I knew nothing about her personality. She looked pretty decent, I was just making assumptions about her personality without knowing what I'm talking about. So, what I did is that I listened more closely to what she said. And, it turned out that she had some real wisdom! I developed an irresistible crush on her. She turns out to be the exact personality-type that I'm into! So, very strong warning to you to not assume that you know what you want. All that glitters is not gold and in the case of people, often-times, gold does not announce itself to you. You have to discover it.

Do you have an issue with silence? Cuz that's your opportunity to really connect and get to know them. If you don't really know someone, what would your 'chemistry' or 'spark' be based on? My fundamental question to you is - are you clear about what you want? Cuz if you're not, then rejecting someone who would've been a good option will feel like a self-betrayal to you. When it comes to connection, you hold a lot of the power. To connect with someone, is to see them for who they are. You may not like what you see, which is fine. But, when you say you can't connect with someone, you're saying that you can't see them. So, this is something that you can fix on your end. I don't think this is a good reason. 99% sure about that. This will feel unfair to them and this may make you feel guilty.

Did you have good reason to reject them? There's nothing wrong with rejection itself. There is something wrong with not giving people a fair chance though. That's what you could be feeling guilty about.

India has a 6-day work-week. The lucky ones get a half-day on Saturday. This includes school-students. And banks are closed on the 2nd and 4th Saturdays of the month, so they get those Saturdays as holidays. Nobody complains about it, cuz everybody fundamentally understands that life is more of a grind here. When I was living in the US, I loved the 5-day work-week. As far as I'm concerned, you guys live in paradise relative to this issue. Now, I do understand the point about mental-health that you're making. This would make sense in a society that prioritizes happiness over survival. However, the problem is that the foundation of this society has been built by those who prioritize survival. The prioritization of survival is conditioned into us, it's unnatural and it's unconscious. But, just getting a 4-day work-week is not going to change that about you.

To my eyes, what you're saying implies that if I just don't make this a big deal, my stance and attitude on this issue will change. In other words, I don't really mean what I'm saying. When I do. I found that offensive, because every single word here has been well thought out on my part. I'm not kidding around here, it's an extremely serious topic. I would ignore this thing if we were discussing something more casual, that doesn't matter so much. On this issue, though, because world peace is such an important value to me and I consider conflict-resolution to be a strength of mine, I felt the need to defend my credibility. With all due respect, this is not a light issue. I type with a lot of passion here, shall we say. Please don't make this mean that I'm not thinking clearly or that I don't know what I'm talking about. I may be wrong, but I'm not a fool. And it is very important for me to know why someone here thinks I'm wrong, so that I know what to correct in my worldview. And how to deal with conflicts in my own life. I have enough respect for this forum's intellectual wavelength to take your opinions seriously.

Again, you're making this about me. And you're assuming that I'm not chilled, that I'm heated. That I'm 'too triggered to have a normal conversation'. How dare you assume that about my sanity?! You are shit-talking me when you say that. No more shit-talk against me on this thread, or I report you. You got a problem with me, PM me. I will not tolerate you invalidating what I'm saying by making personal remarks about me. The problem isn't the personal remarks themselves, but the fact that you're using them to discredit what I'm saying.

I was over it during college. I went once at age 22 and felt too old for the crowd there. It's generally teenagers.

You got a problem with me? You want to talk shit at me, PM me. This isn't the thread for that.

Don't make it personal. You don't know what I can do for the world. And how important these happenings are for my plans for my life.

@KH2 I'm not saying that sitting back and doing nothing is the solution. You prepare better. And, internal factors were in Russia's favor in WWII. They weren't enough, there was an application of brute-force. But, systemically speaking, over-extension/diplomatic attrition is the way to take down fascist regimes. Cuz logistically, there's a limit to how much a certain administration can control. Expansionism and colonialism backfire on the regime, without a doubt. It's just that in this case, there was a history of Ukraine wanting to join NATO and NATO entering Russia through the back-door. Whether this is true or not, a large portion of Russia believes this, which is why the people support him.

The West has been harboring hopes of a regime-change in Russia. As long as NATO takes an adversarial stance towards Russia, Putin's position will get stronger, morally. So, that'll hurt the West's cause of Russian regime-change. But, if Putin keeps going nuts, his administration will implode. And then the US will have diplomatic opportunities to take him down. Even this happened with Hitler, by the way. He lost cuz of internal sabotage.

Human systems work non-linearly, not linearly. He could handle Ukraine. But, if he just keeps going, at some point, he'll over-extend! That'll be the chance for competing powers to stop him. This is what happened in WWII with the Nazis.

My bad. I agree. I can assure you that's not what I'm doing. I'm analyzing what I believe to be a very important attitude-issue with NATO that could lead to a major catastrophe. So that all of us collectively do something about it. Or at least minimize the damage to ourselves.

Well, I have control of what I tell you. And, of course I can't rescue everyone here, they're responsible for their lives. Don't be racist.

I don't really agree that Russia will kill all the Ukrainian civilians. But, even granting you that, I'd take that over sacrificing billions of lives. All of us should be scared of a post-WWIII world, in which the precedent of nuclear attacks has already been set. This is our chance to take a clear stand on the issue of nukes.

Yeah, but Hitler lost the war, right?! And notice how Russia beat the Nazis. Not by outright aggression, but by over-extending them. They're doing the same with Ukraine and the West right now. The whole world's economy hangs in the balance here.

It's not 'democratic'. But, if the rapist has a nuclear weapon, the best thing in the interest of world peace is to let it happen while it's happening and then strategize deeper as to how to catch them and punish them. And to not yell threats at the rapist when you're not prepared to execute them!

Ukraine and Russia have a shared history. The mature thing to do would be to let them do their thing and direct those billions into improving your own economies, which are, quite frankly, struggling. NATO loses all humanitarian grounds for intervening in this situation when they identify with Ukraine's problems. If you say that 'We feel sorry for Ukraine, the evil Putin did this to you', I totally understand. But, it's not your loss!! Why take it on?! Especially when, as you mention, Russia is an adversary.

This is highly irresponsible diplomacy on their part. This opens the door wide open for war-crimes on a level and scale we've never seen before. And we've seen a lot. We've seen what Hitler did, for example. Prepare yourselves.