Razard86

Well your room doesn't need to be perfectly clean, just relatively clean. When I say room clean though finances and lifestyle is a small part. I'm mostly talking about things like abandonment issues, the need to be right, unable to assert yourself, accountability, knowing what you want in a partner/which is what you want from yourself so being the things you want in your partner.

That's not what I'm talking about Leo. I'm talking about long-term. If it's pick sure, but no guy wants to handle that burden for his entire life. He would like a woman that he can share the role of conversing with. I've met guys and been the guy whose job it is to do that in a long term relationship and the only time it works is if the woman likes to hear you speak, or you guys like to DO things together. Its called a relationship= Relate to each other. If two people cannot relate its not going to last. Either you like to converse (share ideas, emotions), or you are sharing activities. If you cannot sustainably do either and are only together for sex, that is not going to last. It will however be fun short-term. Booty calls are fun, but eventually you will want something more.

I believe this only happens with girls who are bad at communication. Some girls are pretty but not well read, thoughtful or opiniated. So even when you try to have mundane conversations she can't really offer anything. I've learned that you can bring up topics like family, or funny things you've notice about people, or even tease her about herself like funny things she does, but this is usually only good for short-term relationships. I've noticed when a girl is not as socially developed in conversation, but the guy is, outside of shared interests in activities that relationship is not going to go anywhere. I think guys need to stop trying to force relationships with women who they don't naturally connect with ( I've done this in the past) and the first thing a guy needs to see if the conversation flows. Now some girls are quiet and likes to hear a guy talk and that can work, but I prefer the back forth. With all that said, to each their own. This is just my opinion.

Exactly its one thing to realize something, its another to actually implement it. Its funny how things are set in place in life to make changing your pattern difficult. To change yourself is to kill the previous identity you had and that is the most difficult thing you can do. Nothing in life is more difficult than that. Because it impacts not just yourself, but those around you as well.

John was a young man who saw himself as honest, hard-working, and well-intentioned. His entire life he sought to keep his word to others to the best of his ability and often made promises with others he did not want too but kept his word to all those that he did. He prided himself on how congruent he was in both word, thought and deed. He enjoyed an impeccable reputation among those who knew him as an honest man and to the outside world he was. But John had one issue, which was related to him taking on promises from other people at times that he did not wish to make. John tended to put others before him often to his detriment. He believed that Sacrifice was noble and did it often, and would get frustrated when he saw the lack of this trait in others. He always believed that he held himself accountable, often looking for any aspects of himself he thought were unaligned and put effort to bring them into alignment but one aspect of himself eluded him for years. You see John did not realize that he did not keep his word to himself. Often he would make plans to do certain things, and then do something else coming up with an excuse why he wouldn't do it. He would do something else out of fear because he did not think he was capable of accomplishing it, which means he felt unworthy. This unworthiness is also why he didn't honor the promises he made to himself because he didn't think he was worthy of having that promise fulfilled, as a result others in his life would take advantage of him and break their promises to him just like he did to himself. Whenever he was angry at "others" for not honoring their deals with him, he was really lashing out at the feelings he held toward himself internally and projecting it out onto "others." John needed to realize he was worthy of respect, that he needed to honor his word to himself, and not allow others to take advantage of him. He must hold himself to the same standards internally that he would like to see externally. Your world just reflects back what is hidden deep inside, whenever something bothers you its an alarm to look inward. Our world is constantly our teacher guiding us to the deep recesses of our shadow beckoning us to bring it into the light. Reality is constantly enlightening you, bringing to light the darkness you house inside which allows you to ever shine more bright.

Yeah that was a typo thanks for that I was thinking of a generic name to use that most people have and was debating between John and Sam lol I'll correct it

Yeah Ego is ridiculously sneaky. Without it we cannot function in 3D, but as long as we identify with it we will suffer whatever the ego identifies with. Until we are rid of emotional triggers, we are still stuck in Ego. Ego will always disrupt our ability to be present and not entangled with whatever stories it is creating.

I've heard a lot of crazy stories about 4chan. That site is pretty infamous, too many crazy stories associated with them, from hacking, leaks, etc. stories.

You care, otherwise you wouldn't be on this thread and you wouldn't have said what you said. What we care about we pay attention to, what we don't we ignore.

Lol.....very funny.

Is this Ra speaking? Lol entity.

Lol who made this?

1. Not really doesn't prove anything. You are here because you are drawn to me otherwise you would pay me no mind. 2. A leaderboard of the top egos is only something an Ego would do. So not really laughably is not even a defense. 3. Why exactly should I follow your advice? I watch and consume a ton of content and personally reflect on different things and develop my own insights. If you don't like what I type you could just pay me no mind....but notice you are here.... so thank you for focusing on me I welcome your love.

You can experience it....because its you. There is only you. ONLY YOU. Read Leo's signature again. You are Leo. So stop arguing with yourself lol.

Right and Wrong doesn't exist. Right and Wrong is based on what you personally value and aim for. Everyone who is giving advice is usually aiming for you to choose good body health, good emotional health. So every answer they give is geared towards that. But to follow their advice you will need to change your current process and follow the processes they provide. Most people do not want to follow those processes because of their beliefs and preferences. There is nothing wrong with that but...you reep what you sow. If you do not take care of your health when you are young, you will reap disease and other health issues as a result in old age. That is fine if you are okay with enjoying your youth with abandon and dealing with horrible results at a later time. The advice given is sound if you want to aim for the highest well-being, but you don't have too if you want to have a little fun now, and suffer immensely later. You are free to choose to suffer later, you have that right.

1. What should my schedule be like is CO-DEPENDENT. This is a question you ask yourself. The proper question if you do not want to be co-dependent is to ask people what activities they like so you can choose based on their suggestions what sounds good. I'm not sure you meant it but the question implies you want someone else to tell you what do. The purpose of the retreat is freedom. You want to free yourself by taking ownership, absolute ownership of all your decisions. Meditation is ownership, Yoga is ownership. Journaling is ownership. It is the part of you that realizes that accountability to one's self is freedom from the illusion of things happening to you. So there is nothing wrong with looking for suggestions. But nobody should be telling you what your schedule should be like. Only you can do that. You are the President, we are just your Cabinet offering suggestions.

With all due respect you haven't made a case for originality on the relative level. Uniqueness exists on the relative level, but originality does not. Originality implies it was not influenced by anything else. A remix is not original it is just a unique take on what already is. Every single invention you see, was inspired by something in nature. How a computer was designed borrows many aspects of how the brain functions. Stories people write are influenced by personal stories and legends of previous times. You aren't going to find an exception no matter how much you try. Michael Jackson was influenced by James Brown. When they were both alive Michael Jackson and Prince both influenced each other. The list goes on and on. Astroy Boy was influenced by Walt Disney. So no, originality doesn't exist it never has. Everything is interconnected so how can it be original? It can be unique sure because it can express differently. But it cannot be original.

Originality implies separateness. There is no separation. So it doesn't exist. If I inspire something within you, if I influence you, which sparks something within which allows you to create something new. How is it original? If you look at what exists and it sparks you to create the opposite, how is that original? Its not. It never was. My perspective is built off of other perspectives. All creation is just an expression of what is and isn't. And all that exists, can only exist because the opposite doesn't exist. If everything was allowed to exist at once, we couldn't appreciate it. We confuse appreciation with originality. Sure I have a unique perspective...but it was built, off other perspectives and is influenced and connected by so many factors. If I bake a cake, I take components, put it through certain factors and it becomes a cake. Is it unique? No it was built off the components and the factors so it is connected. You can say it is just a different expression of what already is. But it has never been original, it is connected. You could take this further, everything comes from God. So everything is an expression of God. So if it all comes from the same source? How can it be original? It is all made from the same source.

While values are very important, the most important trait I personally believe you need to look for in a man is ownership of his words and actions. If he is strong enough to admit mistakes, if he is consistent in his words and actions (congruence), and he is willing to work/talk through issues then you have found a very rare partner. But the first question you need to ask BEFORE you go searching for a partner is, would I date myself? Looking for a partner is like sharing a room. If your side is dirty you can't look for people with clean organized rooms. Clean your room first, then you can look for someone else with a clean room. The reason some people struggle to connect with people with clean rooms because they are boring, lol. Some people are addicted to drama and pain, and a clean room doesn't provide that. I'm not saying a clean room cannot be boring, but all it is missing is spontaneity and creativity. But that can easily be worked on and developed versus trying to fix a dirty cluttered room. So clean your room, find someone with a clean room and you both can work on decorating the rooms and living in those nice rooms together, the room of the heart.

There is nothing new under the sun, everything you have ever seen is reacting to itself. There is no originality. Originality is just an illusion. Progress just builds off previous ideas and concepts. We improve by learning from the past. That is what evolution is, that is what creativity is. Breaking and creating new patterns off the components that already exist. All questions point to what is not, by contrasting what currently is. You could not find what is not, without first observing what is. So yeah...this video...is hilarious. You cannot steal something that needs something else to exist. Even thievery is just mere illusion.

Thank you for this post. You have truly understood what is being point at. I have been where you have been but I can honestly say I have fallen from that place. I'll return, after I drop some more of my knowing conditioning. But yes everything you say is true. This should be state because ironically it is the baseline state of all that is. The foundation of all is silent being, and everything just arises from it. Thanks for the post man it was an honor to read your words!!! It is full of so much love and wisdom.

Thank you for that honor, I bow in amazement and thank you that you think so much of me. *gives flowers* The irony you don't even see, The height of Spiritual Ego is to make a Ego Leaderboard. Anyone who would do so....clearly they are Number One. Whatever you see in others, is just a reflection of what is inside. You cannot run from this. But hey....do you man I'm glad you see so much of yourself in me. Me and You are truly one.

This is true, how awareness works or devilry if you will. I can only call something out if I am aware of it, I can only become aware of something in others, if I am aware I possess the same quality. So of course I suffer from the same problem I just posted above, the difference is I call myself out on it. Also if I don't call myself out on it, something in my reality does and I get humbled. Its funny when I do it, and its funny when I see "others" do it too. So I'm not getting on a high horse, more ringing an alarm bell. But yes I completely agree. How would I rate Spiritual Ego? That is a good question. Maybe something we could all ponder about for fun?

1. You were never in control. You only suffer because you resist because you assume you are in control. 2. You only control your response to what arises, and what you focus on. Outside of that everything else just happens. Your body, which is just a reflection or mirror of your life is the same way. You don't control your heart beat, your mind, etc. It just happens. You can focus attention on your arm, and it moves where you direct your attention. You can focus on a thought which then motivates and inspires actions. You can focus on a feeling which can influence a thought that motivates and inspires action. Etc. Etc. So all you do is focus, and which is your response. So your entire life is your response-ability because it is based on what you focus on. What you focus on is your decision/Will. You are not the driver, you are the passenger and you are on a trip. What you focus on, becomes the direction of your life. What you see, is based on your belief systems and the level of belief/doubt you have. 3. You are perfect, everything actually fits. From our finite perspective we cannot see how everything fits so we always assume something is wrong. We also believe we are wrong and need to improve. You cannot improve what is perfect, your imperfections and limitations is what makes you the puzzle piece that fits. If you were any other way, you wouldn't fit. Its a tough pill to swallow, because we are CONDITIONED to not be unique, peculiar, weird, divergent, we are educated to be the SAME lol which doesn't make sense. Its like trying to make a kidney a heart, and a heart a brain, and a brain a liver. Talk about chaos. True self-development is just acceptance, surrender, and taking response-ability and ownership on what you focus on. What you focus on you ultimately become.

Exactly you get it!!! Every teaching always teaches that our power is in the present moment. You cannot think your way to the present moment. Which is hard for many of Western Culture because we are a culture of thought. Its why I speak that the Educated Man is the Deluded Man. He thinks that he can think his way to Truth which you cannot. All thought is projection. As long as you project, you cannot see what is actually there.