Fernanda

Good to know that. Cheers.

Exactly. Past, imagined as it is, is a factor of understanding.

That's true and we have this habit of seeing separation and distinction where there is none. I feel I sometimes go back to an automatic mode of seeing separation which robs my joy for a moment. We have to unlearn, deconstructing the mind, layer by layer through direct experience. What a journey this is! ❤

It's beautiful to see each person as they are, where they are, lovingly no matter what. Truth has many layers and it is not linear, if you are awakened you will see how everybody is doing their best even in the midst of ignorance and suffering. The feminine has this capacity. That's being awake beyond holding rigid concepts of what is.

Beautiful!

Understanding is action, perception acts. Just notice that.

@Razard86 it's an interesting subject. I think about that dance between the masculine and the feminine within ourselves a lot. It's a beautiful energetic flow of energy. I think a really healthy integrated human being could have a deep and fullfilling relationship with anybody he/she wishes, despite the gender. It's about energy, not gender, I guess. I think it's a POV that embraces more possibilities and perspectives. All relationships present room for growth, because it's a mirror. The problem is that we create so many labels and identifications that really become a veil to true seeing.

Yes, pure magic! I heard many people tell me lately that I am so INTENSE and that's what they like about me. I was thinking about what this means and I think it is related of this quality of attention that pulls us out of time. You leave an impression, a trademark all around you without any effort. Sometimes a moment is so intense that you keep feeling its impression for weeks or months.

@Galyna when there is an impersonal sense of awareness time seems to pass neither fast or slowly, the moment seems to be totally out of time, it's hard to explain it in words. I mean...when you are having a great conversation which just flows and you get "lost" in the moment and in the reflection of "another", you can only make sense of time when you get back to the concept of time and try to make sense of it.

I do get it and thank you for this great post! I've been having similar insights about the TRUTH. Yesterday I was at a party and I simply realized how each thing happening was capital "m" ME/GOD doing it in real time. The realization deepens the quality of attention and non resistance, it's just you with yourself, loving whatever is shown about yourself.

Perfect advice! That will change the reflection. If you fear being hurt, love that fear to death, then the deception with people won't get your attention that much, it will still happen, but you will move on so quickly as though it didn't happen.

When is the right time to confess your romantic feelings for someone? We know each other for quite a while and we are friends. Never kissed, never had a romantic date, because we both were in another relationship, but we always hang out a lot in person and we do flirt. A few days before, after we had a wonferful afternoon together, He texted me..."I really adore being with you". I said the same, but it seems we are both afraid to cross the lines. Maybe you can help me with some insights on that. Thank you❤

Verbals are actually 8% of communication, as I was researching, the rest is body language. I guess I just need to show up and be authentic. That is something to be more aware of.

I'll check that. Thank you!!!

"Serial monogamist" might be a good term. The ties are getting so light that I can't even see any and I don't intend to spoil that

@gettoefl unsolvable dilemma, isn't it?

Polyamory seems to be an option, but I don't feel good with the concept itself. I can't handle more than one relationship at once, because it takes work to create and keep intimate with one another. I just think over the course of the years you could totally lose interest in someone and it can happen quite suddenly without warning. I think it stabilizes with maturity, though. We should take more time before getting married, definitely. Some people just don't work on their own development and emotional issues and can get really behind.

I think sometimes they try to communicate, but there is no resonance anymore, which is hard to admit and sad. I am saying all this but for me monogamy is a very important thing in a relationship. I just don't see it working well in most of the cases. It looks like something which is imposed and not a choice you keep making over the years.

Yes. I don't know why I have this habit of second guessing if the other is REAALLY getting my signs. I will work on that. I would never confess anything in public, for me it's even difficult to say any words with privacy ?

Yes, love has many languages, right? For me it's also touch. I began to kind of "fall" for him and see him differently when we shared a different vibe in a hug. It lasted more than normal and he kind of smelled me. It was really unexpected,I think even for him at the moment. So, I guess it goes for both of us. The difference now is that we are both aware of what’s going on and it's still confusing. Before, it was all very unexpected.

Exactly, and if you are in a self-development journey you might face yourself changing all the time (which includes your desires and life experiences). It takes a lot of maturity, admiration and communication skills from both sides to keep a relationship going, and even so it is not guaranteed monogamy will be untouchable. The moment you fall for somebody else you are already cheating and you will probably feel even more miserable if you deny that. This I am saying doesn't seem to match any good marriage standards we have in society today. I might be very wrong, though.

Sure! And how would that look like for you?

I will take this read. Thank you?

Yes. It's like a dance ?

I do see how words could mess it up. Thank you.