SeaMonster

Frankly, many of them are highly speculative and low quality imo. I was not impressed with the Immortality Key.

That IS very young in this context. A lot of college girls want to be free to have summer flings. Telling her she needs to decide is fine, but really if she doesn't decide quickly you need to, so you can disentangle yourself from a potentially sticky situation.

If there's an insecurity/insecurities, follow these easy steps to remedy the situation: 1) Figure out what the insecurity is, e.g. I would be more secure if I were/weren't X. 2) Make sure X is something remediable -- if it isn't, you've got the wrong X -- think deeper. 3) Methodically remedy X. Requires a shift in your lifestyle, usually. It's pretty much that simple. Sometimes you need psychedelics to have clear insight of X.

Maybe the problem is that you haven't yet adjusted your dating strategies to reflect your current values. If you know what you're looking for then you need a more practical way of determining whether a girl meets that criteria.

It "feels" what? Either it's an appropriate reaction to the situation you find yourself in or it isn't. If you're conflicted then either something in the equation is missing or something extraneous is present.

FIFY. What is it this behavior that you can't do anything about, I'm curious?

OK, I have a logical answer for you. If you don't believe in a full-blown relationship or legal marriage/kids, then you are committing sins of omission rather than commission, but they are still "sins." Yor are still being selfish and hence "immoral.' It's simply that you've arbitrarily drawn a line where this passive type of selfishness vis-a-vis society is acceptable to you, and the more active one of "ruining women" (I'm paraphrasing) isn't. But it is an arbitrary line and presents an irresolvable problem. The only way to resolve it is to realize that your morality is arbitrary and fix it so it is more coherent and doesn't create cognitive dissonance.

Maybe there is a pattern of behavior that turns women off that you're not fully aware of or don't know what to do about. If you don't know what causes women to react negatively to you then you put it into a vague, non-actionable box like "hated by all females." It smacks of blackpilling.

You both look awfully young. A lot of girls that age don't want a long-term relationship. So either find one who does or be ok with not having a long-term relationship with her.

I also experienced 1, 3 and 4 and not 2. It seems more of an intellectual realization than a state of consciousness.

"No self" as people pleasing = spiritual bypassing.

People believe that the ego is a source of their problems/suffering. This is the typical spiritual teaching, and is true with some caveats, such as that surrendering the ego doesn't automatically solve your problems but merely eliminates a weighty obstacle to solving them.

I've never had a problem driving in different states of consciousness or while dissociated. It's not the state itself but likely the emotional reaction to finding yourself in an unfamiliar state which makes it seems like it's dangerous to drive. I assume different personality types react differently as well (I tend to be less emotional and more cerebral.) In short, you're just not used to it, but there's nothing dangerous about driving in that state if you're used to it.

What are your "ethical reasons" for not having a child?

I mean, it becomes the new normal very quickly. That's kinda the point -- shifts in consciousness are like waking from a sleep, you don't go around thinking how abnormal it is not to be asleep.

It's a nice piece of CCP propaganda, and it has some truths in it, however it stretches them greatly. Let's talk about China's one child policy and the damage that authoritarian one party rule can do to a country. Sure, you can simply socially engineer the hell out of your society, but does it mean your ham-handed decisions aren't going to have potentially disastrous unintended consequences, such as a serious male-female imbalance as well as likely irreversible population decline that would otherwise not have been as steep? What about the insane policies of empty real estate as a form of investment that is, in essence, the largest pyramid scheme in history -- the biggest bubble in history about to pop? So while hiding behind the cloak of the public good, you've just created serious issues for your people. I'm not even mentioning the corruption and oppression in that system. Just that there is no elite that is so wise that it's not going to fuck up big time because it knows what's best for its people without proper feedback mechanisms. Let's see where China is in ten years.

Realize that you can't control what other people do. They may be loyal or fickle. Thus, don't build your life around one person. Build your life as you envision it and let other things be secondary or subsidiary. Don't be sad that this happened, because you can think of it as actually having liberated you to focus on yourself and your goals, which is a blessing in disguise.

Think of it as a feedback loop or vicious cycle. The self-image creates an undesirable result...which reinforces the self-image...which creates another undesirable result...etc. Moreover, the self-image has to do with unconscious beliefs, so it is the unconscious mind that has to be reprogrammed to break the cycle.

Well, people don't want radical social engineering. This has nothing to do with "level of consciousness," (unless you believe the commies had higher consciousness or something.) It's more like a bunch of ideologues who aren't really smarter or wiser than anyone, but believe a society should be organized a certain way. So even if a person is clean, if he wants policies most people find oppressive or intrusive, economically and socially, that's not going to meet with approval.

Delusional is not the right word to use in this context. If I believe I can fly if I flap my arms really hard, and try it and faceplant, clearly that's delusional. If I believe in my ability to get something done or achieve something, and I'm able to pull it off (or palpably come close at least), then it's clearly not delusional. Confidence is not necessarily delusional. It can be based on an accurate assessment of one's abilities and aptitude. The fundamental test of whether a belief is delusional is whether you can manifest the reality corresponding to that belief. If you never attempt to manifest reality based on a belief or try it and not even come close, then it could be or is a delusional belief.

That's pretty unfair, Leo. You can say the same thing about a thousand other things in the past, like "stop wasting so much energy inventing indoor plumbing." The two realms (of spiritual awakening and material progress) are not necessarily in conflict.

It's a legitimate question that can't easily be brushed off with a "turn on, tune in, drop out" type philosophy or bringing Spiral Dynamics into it. Because a lot of that stuff is simply fear that you have nothing to contribute to the world, or are not attractive, or any bunch of other neuroses. Besides, even if the mainstream culture is so bad, there are alternative cultures to participate in. We're talking about spiritual bypassing on the other thread, and these attitudes very easily play into that issue.

Certain psychedelics are really good for that type of work, but you have to focus your intention on finding them.

Dude, kindly stay in your lane, you have no idea what someone is or isn't experiencing or has experienced. If you're in love with your special language for describing these phenomena, realize that it's not the only way to do so.

That's the point -- to remove all crutches and let go.