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It maybe easier to look at it from a negative, so I could ask you 'what does a completely free choice look like?'

Well eating healthy, exercising etc are habits. Regardless of depression you can build in this habits, you have a habit for not eating well but you still have to order food, you could cultivate a habit to cook for the week or buy shopping to be delivered. So rather than looking at it like im fat and depressed should i just accept it, what you should do is think what habit can i start today that will slightly improve my situation. Might be going for a walk 10 mins a day, might be cooking 3 times a week, whatever it is just take control of your habits and let the depression be

Tough one as there are kids involved, but i think what has happened is that youve lost who you are, probably both of you have become defined by the relationship. At there best you shouldnt need a relationship it should be something to help you grow, but if you stop growing and try and keep the status quo of what you think your relationship should be you can run into trouble. Especially if it wasnt completely healthy in the first place. Either way you need a break, you need some time to re-evaluate who you are by yourself and what will make you happy, your partner will most likely need this as well. The only thing stopping you would be fear and thats never a good motivation for anything. It may seem like the loving thing to do is to stay and work it out but its counter-intuitive. Its like if your making a piece of music and have been in the studio 12 hours straight, it may seem like you really care if you just dont sleep and keep going, but actually the piece will be much better if youre rested and have a fresh set of ears to hear what you need to work on. The same with your situation the actual caring thing to do is to take a step back and give your brain time to rest. Always make sure youre in a situation that can make you content and if you are that will trickle down to everyone else, trying to do it the other way is always an uphill battle

Bro it does seem like everyone is getting at you, but its because you seem to have these rose tinted glasses on and ideas about love and all this. Im not disregarding your experiences but you have to understand that theres a reality of a situation and then theres what you want it to be. The fact that youve thought all this stuff and seem to be completely bought in to the point where you cant take on board what people are saying would suggest to me that youre living in a lot of illusion. Your projecting on this girl what you want her to be and what your idea of this deep relationship is. The fact is if youre living in the moment and present and all of that you wouldnt have all these ideas youd just experience it for what it was. Youre talking about ego but by saying no one gets it etc its a sign of a spiritual ego. People are giving you advice from their experiences of female nature, relationships and whatever else, many of whom probably have more experience than you. Not saying you should take everything wholesale but if everyone is telling you its a bad idea it might just be a bad idea

Enjoy the journey man, i was working shit jobs for like 8 years or something, working on a checkout in asda (walmart)! Just have your mind set on getting it no matter what

You need to look at where your potential subscribers are, for example im not a big youtuber but ive put out a couple of videos in the past on my channel around consciousness as well just to test the water i guess, the first one was about anxiety and it got 525 views which is pretty good for a first time video about a topic like that. The reason why it did relatively well is that i posted it in as many places as i could think of where people would be searching for help with anxiety, reddit, facebook groups, forums etc, this is where your traffic will come from and where you can reach out and get people who are into your content. You can also search instagram for hashtags and comment on other people in your niche, for example #enlightenment and give a meaningful comment so people may check it out and look at your stuff. Regarding your content obviously a lot of people on this forum maybe interested in it but its not mass audience thing, and even those into it have there own channels they watch it really has to be something different to grab them. One way you might want to do it is if you take something that is popular like movies for example and draw parallels with spiritual stuff, you could do non-dual breakdowns of films for example. Or you could examine the egos of popular youtubers, whatever you like but something that you know about and can relate to pd or whatever your passion is. Your delivery has improved but im not sure your fully there yet but it will come with time. Definitely dont give up if it really is your passion to do this, those that are successful stick it out the longest but also learn and adapt to what works. Good luck

No i think its that you dont have a direct employer, as in your future isnt in the hands of someone else. You are independent and work with people rather than for them. For example if you make music you can be an independent artist and hire studio time, marketing companies etc but you keep all the profits after that so its your business. Or you could sign to a label who sort all that for you and have the say so over percentages etc making you dependant on them. If you work for wal-mart 60 hours youre completely dependent on wal-mart for your wages you have no ownership, if you own a brand that sells in walmart you work with them, meaning that youre not dependent on them for your income and you dont have to work with only them or even them at all.

Enlightenment is a terrible word, tbh any word for it is terrible. A desire is a desire, if you have had no experience of enlightenment, you make up what you think it is, (end of suffering, amazing feeling etc), what you think it is is complete illusion but it offers you salvation, a way out of how you currently feel in this present moment, its something to be achieved. Its not really like weed or sex as those offer temporary relief of the present moment and are relatively easy to obtain. I would say enlightenment or the quest for it is more like the desire to become rich or finding 'the one', those that have never had those things desire it as a solution to how they feel now, it gives them hope. Once you obtain those things you feel only temporarily better, which is why rich people want more or you might leave who you thought was 'the one' for someone else. Enlightenment works the same except you almost have to give up on it to get it, its specifically not achievable, you are already there, the problem is you dont think you are. So by putting the enlightenment word onto it, it takes up the same role as wanting to be rich or whatever, it offers you hope that you can escape the present moment and the present you. If you realise this its more of a revelation, so there isnt a disappointment as you might get with the previous examples, theres just an acceptance

Just signed up to one and have blocked facebook and insta. It has been becoming a bit of an issue for me, spending too much time looking at this screen

I can see it's hard to take, obviously we don't know every little bit of your relationship, but from an outside perspective it looks like either she has some serious emotional problems which manifest in many of the ways you mentioned or she's just very manipulative. The answer is probably a grey area inbetween. If she has emotional issues, you can't fix her, she needs to do that by herself and it will only lead to a lot of problems and heartache for you, which you can see early on with this ex for example. If she is manipulative then obviously there's not much you can do about that, you definitely can't fix it. I truly believe that to get into a healthy relationship you have to not need one, what I mean by that is it can't be some kind of escape to cover up your problems, otherwise it's the same as any other addiction. If you can be happy single then you can have a good chance of being happy in a relationship, it doesn't sound like this girl could be happy by herself and that's a serious problem. Don't try and fix people it really doesn't work

By the way i saw your post on your other thread and mindset for me is probably the most important thing, in fact its the first episode of my podcast series. To me everything follows the right mindset.

No problem, I do wholesale and online arbitrage, so its really buying and selling branded products i have over 150 skus at the moment. For research i use a site called fbawizard which scans shops and tells you what will make a profit. I dont do my own products but i may start that this year and yes id most likely use jungle scout. But from what i know its all about the research if youre doing your own product. Yeah youtube, blogs and facebook groups are the best bet, reddit can help also the thing is its so fast moving that you just kind of learn as you go. I dont really learn about what i do now because i learn so much doing it, but if i was to start doing private label id use those sources definitely. Main thing is definitely just to start thats the best way to learn so well done on getting started, youll learn a lot even if it doesnt go the way you thought, the secret is really just to keep going even if it doesnt work at first. Like i said it took me 6 years before i started seeing just ok money, so you do need patience.

Bit nervous writing this as i always feel like things could change any minute lol, but i think it will provide some value so ill answer your questions. So yes im financially independent, I do Amazon fba, Ive recently started coaching people on business, previously i sold on ebay, started entertainment website and put on entertainment events (club nights etc). The span of my first official business ventures to now is about 12 years, and i would say for the first 6 years i made little to no money, lived in a room in a shared house and had to work at asda (walmart) part time and claim benefits (welfare). During school ai always loved the idea of business and started some probably illegal businesses, one selling copied cds, but i was always interested in business, specfically having my own business. Im not entirely sure where this comes from as no one in my family really does that or did that when i was younger, but for some reason i had this interest as far back as i can remember, maybe from around 10 years old i specifically remember thinking of it. So my thing was i was going to make this work one way or another, it maybe that im quite lazy and dont like taking orders, but also dont like having such a set timetable working for someone else, it never made sense to me. My daily habits, well the thing its easy to get into a bad routine when youre working from home, so i had to really consciously get into certain habits, so i go to the gym 4 times a week, i meditate at least 15 mins a day, I try and eat as healthy as i can etc. Just to say as well i think what really helped me was when i started to get realistic with becoming financial independence, so what i mean is that before i wanted to create some ideal business for myself, i wanted to do something in the music industry that was cool and popular and made money and i wanted to say it to people and they be like, 'oh youre the so and so guy'. I realised this was all bullshit and unimportant, what was important was being able to make money and get that independence. So i basically just looked online for the best ways to do this, came across a strategy for ebay and ran with it. I learnt so much from youtube and blogs and all kinds of information and i think this really catapulted, so when a really good oppurtunity came along i had absolutely no hesitation, i was also broke so had nothing to lose. Anyway, i have a podcast on soundcloud where i go into everything in a lot more detail and break down actual ways to make money online - Any other questions just let me know, i am also doing coaching so if youre interested dm me, although its not that cheap just to warn you lol

Cool bro, do it for you though. Good luck with everything, sincerely mean that

Yeah exactly, you need to understand how woman work, red pill, mgtow etc is a good way to do that, however dont get too caught up in it cos a lot of it comes from pain on their part. But a lot of it is quite realistic in terms of female nature. One main aspect, although im sure youll disagree op, is that women can be quite manipulative (mostly unconsciously) as they, on the whole have a higher emotional intelligence than men, so they can use this to get what they want. As men we can also do the same with what we have. But in general it sounds like she doesnt really have respect for you and even you getting caught up how you have, saying how great she is etc is blue pill 100%. Youve given her so much validation she probably doesnt want to lose that

I don't believe there's free will, for the simple fact that no action takes place independent of anything else. For example, you could say the fact that you were born as far as you know was not your choice, so any choice you make after that can't be free will because you wouldn't have been able to make a choice without this foundation of being you have which was not your choice. On a smaller scale say you want to choose your breakfast, you might choose muesli because you heard that it was good for you, but then you're only making that choice because of what you heard, if you didn't hear that you wouldn't have made that choice. You don't choose to think thoughts, if you did where did the thought to choose a thought come from? So essentially free will is an illusion, by definition it can't really exist, as everything has to have a cause otherwise how would it come into existence?

Yeah you messed up, no one's sure of their feelings at this stage. Furthermore girls will say stuff like this just to test you reaction, to see if you're easy going or high status or whatever. If you're high status you would just kind of brush off her saying that, almost like she didn't say it, something like 'ok cool, when are we meeting again?'. Also it's not really an ex to be honest with you, more like a prospect lol. Anyway good luck getting it back, it's very possible to do so just be cool and laid back about it like it's not a big deal and just have fun with her

Listen, get out while you can! You've only been with her 4 months (4 days a month at that) and you're talking about all this unconditional love stuff. Did you ever think she's just telling you what you want to hear to keep you around? She knows what you believe and she sounds pretty dysfunctional so it would follow that she may, even unconsciously be manipulating you. There are some big red flags here, she's 30 and essentially the problem she has with you is that you're not developed enough yet she knows your 23, not only that her last boyfriend was 23, if she wants someone more developed, logically she should go with someone older but she doesn't as she wouldn't have the same control. Also she's saying all this negative stuff about her ex usually is a very bad sign, most likely if you do break up with her she'll tell the next guy how crazy you were. Even though he's crazy she still wanted to get back with him and said she can't control her feelings, lol ok. Well if that's the case what if she meets a new guy and can't control her feelings? There are a lot of girls out there, it seems like you have a scarcity mindset around this girl, but you really need to let this one go. If you want to test it, tell her you're leaving her explain why and see how she reacts. If she cares about you she'll be understanding and maybe say something like, let's take a break and I'll work on myself. If not she'll probably go crazy or try every manipulation tactic in the book

It's to do with abundance and scarcity mindset. So the guys sleeping with loads of girls have an abundant mentality when approaching new girls, essentially if they meet a new girl that won't have any qualms to move on if they don't like the girl or for whatever reason. Whereas because you have a scarcity mindset you're more attached to the outcome and it's more important to you that the interaction goes well, meaning that you're less loose, less present etc. An example is if you're going into business with someone who has already done well business, looks like they have money etc you'll feel more confident working with them than someone who's desperate and never had a business work, looks broke (think Gill if you watch the Simpsons). So the trick is to get yourself in this abundant mindset, either by getting lots of girls or by loosening your attachment to outcome and realising that it's not that important if however many interactions don't go well. This mindset is probably the best thing you could do to attract women

Yeah that's a cool example and explains why most people live the lives they do. Why else would you be in a job you didn't like if you didn't fear for survival? But I would still argue that most fear we experience is false, you only have fear because you think about it and also because you have a belief of what's undesirable. Because we are attached to thought in that we think we are what we think and also our brains are fined tuned to seek out fear so that we can avoid harmful situations, we can't distinguish what is real and what's not. I would say 99% of our fears are bullshit but we're so accustomed to it we can't live without it

You could look at the literal translation of fear as resistance. So in which case fear is needed sometimes, if someone attacks you physically you would want to resist that. But in most cases I think fear isn't real (False Evidence Appearing Real), or rather the input of fear is mind made and not a thing that is happening now, in which case a resistance to this either thought or emotion is usually what we call fear, but without the resistance there is no fear

Yeah trust me i was playing on Achilles tendonitis for years, i just didnt want to stop, which probably made it worse But it showed me that anything in life can be taken from you at any moment and you have to accept it which im quite proud of myself that ive done. I do weightlifting as well so its a bit of a substitute. Man Utd for me since i was young, but liverpool are looking good i have to say

My point with that is that avoiding situations will not really work out your social anxiety and thus you won't achieve enlightenment. Also to think of enlightenment in those terms really won't work, it's not like you log a certain amount of hours and then become enlightened

Its interesting, a lot of what hes saying i would agree with and essentially i think most religions have this idea of God baked into them, the issues usually come with interpretation, but he has interpreted it well i would say. However, this is one aspect of religion that most dont get, where problems come in is when they use this 'truth' to justify other morals or rules in this case it gets a bit murky, but i believe there is a lot of truth in religion. If someone is sufficiently intelligent they should be able to bring it out but they should also see the flaws in religion and not use this kernel of truth to promote an ideology Another video i watched recently which is similar -

Hey man, so you've got the right idea, it is about making yourself solid and focusing on yourself for now esp as you're only 24 you have time. Also don't be friends with her at least not initially, that can just lead to yo yoing with her which is pointless. I think where everyone kind of goes wrong is that they think they need a relationship to complete them, as if their life's not fulfilled without this, really see that these are beliefs that you have learnt and are embedded in you from society, media etc. For example you stayed with her for 6 months, 33% of your relationship even though you knew it wasn't working, so in that case you thought it was so important to have a relationship that you put your happiness second to that. Ideally you should go into a relationship already being happy and not really needing it, not needing someone to fix you, if you go in with this state then it puts let's pressure on the relationship and also on yourself to keep it going, which counter intuitively may make it last longer. Obviously it helps if the other person is that way as well, although that is hard to find. Also you don't necessarily have to have a 'girlfriend' you could have girls that you see or a girl that you see doesn't have to be a long term thing yet. Again you're 24 so there's really no rush. Having a friends with benefits situation can work well if you can handle it and teach you a lot about women. But either way I think a breaks a good idea, which I'm gonna do my self, but just to conclude don't revolve your life around women, always put your happiness above everything else, not in a taker, arrogant kinda way but love yourself fully and first way.