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I have this ratio for taking criticism. 90 % of the case I think criticism you get is just a projection of the insecurity of the projector. It maybe contains some truth. You will passively-agressively hear it, just ignore it. I would call this criticism "let me give yoh advice you didn't ask for and I haven't even reflected on or purposely avoid reflecting on it, hence i am projecting to all of you" 9 % of the criticism is somewhat constructive and the person criticizing has some insight about the topic they are criticizing you. You can acctually engage back and forth. 1 % of criticism I take, and reflect. This is good news. I am criticized by somebody who cares about me and is smarter than me. Why I know he is smarter? He lives the lifestyle I want and is far more competent in the field. You can reason with him and he wants to help you. How to acctually deal with it emotionally, there are techniques, but you can direct message me and I will tell you.

Lack of addictive and unhealthy behavior that you know it's bad for you when you do it.

Here's my two cents. Never really got laid, never really tried also. Could have tried harder, few relationships almost fell in my lap, just had to be more physical. I am 27. I still really don't care about it. If I had a habit of drinking, would probably be a father right now. At around 19 discovered spirituality and I was pretty on the idea of enlightenment and it really resonated and forgot that I could live a normal life or whatever it means. Also in a sense my idea of loneliness kinda faded away since I understood that I will die alone. Yes, I feel lonely sometimes, I crave sex and all that. But I can't imagine that being as my dream life. My dream life would be (within my possibilities) is to live healthier, have a practice room near me or live in it, and play instruments after work and otherwise be as minimalistic as I can be. I don't rely on somebody's presence, I don't really share how I am, I just sit quietly to reflect and assume that nobody gives a shit about me. The most happiness I have found this way. There are still some women in my friends group or even work that I could make things work. But they are not interesting enough to what I could make my life than with plans and action that I do already, I guess. And that relationship takes time, effort and energy. She will also want pets, children, to renovate the house, to travel etc. but I am acctully pretty clear in my mind and I want none of that. All I want to do is in my free time is to be creative or to sit quietly (when i feel healthy mentally and physically and then I am out of addictive and procrastinating patterns which I am working on, then I just sit quietly at my lowest points usually). I guess my standards are high, and yet I am not willing to sacrifice a lot. If I will meet somebody then probably trough music.

I am being sarcastic, but in this century, what can't you replace? good luck, hope it works out!

Acctually, I think it's not that bad of a response. Death is a good thing to remember regularly when thinking about life. So it's good to integrate it in life purpose and then look for your values. Maybe it will help to decide what you really want to do, because life is shorter maybe? Or maybe the other end, life is infinite, don't worry, you will achieve it all at some birth, just relax and live. Both options are there.

Agree, but not fully. Sometimes you need that pep talk. All gurus do is to school adult children to do the work. You can be so good in one area in your life and do the work, yet be blocked, unmotivated and withdrawn in other areas, where you need to wonder, crash in a few places and sufferings to realize what you really need to move on. However yes, you can crash all your life without trying also.

I don't know to whom you are referring to as she, since this was an example I gave within a question you did not choose to answer. But if I currently had relationship, I would entice, talk and explore some kinks for sure, because the point is to satisfy the other.

I can't say anything good or bad regarding this particular retreat, but I wouldn't advise to a close friend of mine and show other sources and activities they can do that are working in this field.

For example, if I and woman agrees that I should be tied up for some time and we have sex, is this sick? Just curious.

What interests do you have? Do you like to see something, hear something, touch, take care of something? Do you have something that sparks joy? Do you have good memories doing something?

Same reason why you use substances.

Idk how it relates to this topic, but ai got this synth and it's amazing! It has long learning curve though.

But, Leo! What about the new products that you would like?

*If you want to relax, people will shout, what do you do? Why do you do "nothing"? Yes, if people don't see that you are emotionally distressed in some places you can get killed literally for that. It is a survival coping mechanism for the masses, you don't want to get your reality altered by somebody, because it's too comfortable where they sit, yet this comfort contains the things that poison them and acctually make them unfit for life. Psychedelics can either create the biggest uprising or fall of the society.

I don't find this fascinating somehow. Shrooms give electric impulses that are coverted to CV. What I find more fascinating is that a person comes who has mastered a hardware piece of equipment and give you coherent out of this world performance.

Really, do you think so that this is the reason? He's literally going clubbing every now and then.

I have a similar problem but for different aspect. I am too straight edge/overdo things overcheck things so that I can conclude that something really happened this way or was done therefore I work "slower". There is a deep psychological reason for that. I had grandparents who both told me that what I do is wrong and after failing them in some small things they basically bullied me. Due to this I have some sense of uncertainty and I just don't want to fail, therefore I will do everything in my power to make sure I don't, hence why this reason. Even if everything is going great, I expect the worst usually. This is not healthy, as well as for your bf. It's very similar pattern. I understand him very well.

Well, the real question is, do any of them like Meshuggah? If yes, then OK. I don't know acctually.

No, you are bliss itself. The moment you tap into it your delusions that suffocate you relaxes.

I feel the best when I am by myself.

Sadhguru also reveals what happens when you live for 4 years, 7 years, 14 years, 21, years, 28 years, 33 years, various karmic cycles and any other number of years he has talked about.

I was waiting for somebody to post about Nithyananda. I will describe my experience with him in few words. No guru to this day has so many techniques and sutras available on the net (Sadhguru maybe being far second), his akashik readings are out of this world (in a good way). He is probably the best guru to turn to today. Why I do not talk about him? I don't want be labeled as weird, cult like etc. and don't want to be involved in the battles he is fighting by association but Nithyananda is one of the most valuable people in my life. Same as some other mystics, but for different reasons. If I will recommend his teachings to someone people will think I am stupid and it will not solve their problems, but things like unclutching, nirbhaya dhyana, samsara daghana kriya, iccha shakti, third eye meditation just works. I tried it. There you have it. Not that I would join him or whatever, but he is very good at what he does.

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One thing that can reduce is buy honey and mix it with cocoa powder and some seeds or nuts. This much healthier if you are not diabetic.