TurquoiseAngel

Greta T at it again reducing toxic emissions, trying to clean up the world

What discussion was that quote from?

Maybe this is what it is. They hear their own words said from someone else’s mouth with someone else’s voice and then realise they were harsh and unfair…so they backtrack to self correct. I will pay attention to see if I do this too. But I guess if this happens again I will just nod. Maybe ask questions. But never sympathise.

I’ve got a few examples of people talking about others that I don’t know about (family, exes, flings, friends etc) and they highlight these other people issues, negative traits, mistreatment of them etc and after listening when and if I agree with their plight / judgement of the circunstance, character flaw of the person they are bad mouthing they then backtrack and start either defending the person or / and making excuse for their behaviour or / and comparing their behaviour to worse behaviours so the behaviour they were first complaining about don’t seem that bad. Why is this? I consider myself a good listener and just repeat / reinforce what was said in the 1st place. Who also had this experience before?

Spiritual gatherings are crawling with broken, dysfunctional people. They are trying though…

I can't stand Sad-guru and TNH is the only spiritual leader I listen.

You can learn anything. Think about how much embracing math will make you even more smarter and soon you will love it.

I enjoyed great healing when I used to listen to him a lot but I outgrew his teachings somehow.

Cheech & Chong

https://youtu.be/ocFT9FDEF7Y

I do vacuum my mattress sometime, it makes me feel good seen all the filthy gone.

There is another documentary about Sheela, have you watched that one yet?

Society is actually not expecting anything from you. This is just your perception.

I've been into sacred geometry in the past, not through this guy but some other people. I used to be an obsessive seeker but now that I decided to have both feet firm on the ground and stopped looking for secrets and answers, my life have improved 100% and I am the happiest I have ever been. I still keep an open mind but what makes me whole at this point in my life is to pay attention and interact with the material, tangible aspect of life and being a human in a body more than an spirit having a human experience, god or whatever other spiritual woo-woo blurb. Sorry, I didn't watch the whole video you posted, few seconds is enough for me nowadays to know that is not where my time and energy should be spent and it feels so good!

How to get it in London? Only high quality stuff.

Simple terms, you don't know what you don't know. Even though I grew up with some members of my family struggling with their mental health, had no interest or understanding of mental illness at all, until it happened to my daughter. She is only 15 but started showing signs at 11. It is been a long road for myself and for her to accept and make sense of what is going on and I must say, it is making myself a better person but if I had a choice between an offspring with zero mental health issues like me or a daughter like I have, I would still choose no mental health issues...life is already hard enough, being human is already complicated enough...why throw more in? However as I said, like in all situations in my life, I make the most of it to exercise patience, compassion, open mind, resilience, trust and creative ways of doing things + higher levels of communication. For example. I just got a new job 5 days ago and joined a project that is nearly finished. It is to do with services for children who struggle with their mental health - complete coincidence. There must be 8 to 10 people involved in the project and none have direct experience but because I have, i was able to pick up a very small but crucial detail and highlighted it to them. Now, the project will have to be fixed and it will require some meetings and approvals (a very bureaucratic system) but it is for the better and will save a huge mistake that was being made. There was a general feeling that something was wrong and missing but nobody could envision a solution. New girl in the team solved it for them and earned a few brownie points.

Cool thread! I've had a brief interaction with someone at the beginning of 2019, a human, it was the craziest thing of my life. The person had many amazing and unique qualities but was also very troubled. I still haven't healed from that interaction yet and everyday still feels like going to war. sometimes I get a few days respite and believe it is finally over - until something unexpected happen: a sound, image, smell that makes me remember the whole thing and I am sucked back again. I have tried so many things to help me break free - it seems impossible. I am wondering if i picked up some form of 'spiritual virus' whatever it means and if there is a cure? I just want my old self, my heart and my life back. Could Crysty say something about this? Does she have any insight? Anything I can do to help myself?

I would end the agreement and get another therapist. Specifically one that focus on proven methodologies and doesn't mix psychology with energy healing, chakras etc...(but that is just me)...

High quality people have confidence in themselves period (nothing to do with their job, looks, status, money, age or whatever) - and it is very different from arrogance. They have a positive mindset. They are secure, know their values and make decisions according to those values. They know what they want out of life and why. They are open to learn from everything and everyone around them, so they don't look down on nothing or no-one. They always uplift others and add value to situations. They don't need to push people down so they can be on top and they are not takers, although their healthy self esteem will make sure they attend to their own needs instead of people please in order to be accepted or liked. They use collaboration strategies in every relationship and strive for win-win whenever possible. Curious to know why you think low value people are a pain in the ass? And what could you do to elevate them if you must interact? Or at least how to elevate the interaction level?

The better questions are: - Why I am using my time to investigate about what other people are doing with their lives, their bodies? - Why I am comparing myself and who I am choosing to compare myself with? - Why I worry about what other people think / believe? - Why I need to classify people in different colour stages?

BTW you didn't accidentally became someone's girlfriend. You kept going on dates and you said yes, so you deliberately co-created it together with him.

I don't understand why you both would want to close off all of your other options if you are not even going to be living at the same place? How long is your trip going to be for? I personally would video call him and explain that he caught you off guard and you were in a rush so you didn't have time to elaborate a truthful answer that reflects your feelings. Then I would say that it seems like there is a little something missing and although you are happy that he respects you and you are both on the same page regarding taking things slow, you are wondering if the physical aspect / the chemistry aspect of a relationship is not there and wether this can be built overtime or not...then I would ask what he thinks, how he feels and I would listen to him very attentively. Then I would suggest that we talk about this again once I am back from my trip and meanwhile we should be friends only and have no expectations. But this is just me. I don't like long distance relationships and i have tried a few times to be together with men I had no attraction or chemistry with and it is never satisfying enough.

You don't always need to link your passion to your profession. It is cool if happens but if doesn't it is also okay. It is okay to have a job just for the purpose to make money and pursue your interests and your fun on your spare time. Unless the job makes you utterly miserable and give you no free time at all, but that is another story. You are very young, have so much time and is already ahead of most your age.. You will figure as you go and don't be scared of making mistakes.

Yep, I think the truth is that I feel zero attraction for him and going on a 2nd date was to jut try and feel something, give it a chance. He seems like a good person, is good company, is successful, treats me right... but with no desire or sparkle I had to find excuses. I have been sober for 6 years, I am not an alcoholic, it is just my lifestyle. So hearing that a 57 year old man fell drunk on the streets turned me off even though I wasn't even turned on. I am not looking for someone teetotal but in my opinion enjoying your birthday is not an excuse to get hammered at 57. (but my dad was an alcoholic so there, this is maybe where the trigger is) Damn!

Asking this because I used to have a history of not trusting my gut and give people endless benefit of doubt, yet I know my past hurt bias could also play tricks on me: Would you consider these a red flag? I was on a 2nd date with a man, just an easy walk by the river before dinner when he received a message from his daughter saying the her grandmother from the mother's side had just died. He said it was not a surprise since she was very sick anyway and said he would call his daughter later. A few minutes pass and his daughter sends another message ranting that "no one cares about her and her feelings, and she can't rely on the two men who should love her the most" (referring also to her live-in boyfriend who at that very same time is on a business dinner meeting - on a Saturday evening (?)... apparently the daughter wanted the boyfriend to leave the meeting immediately and go home but he refused). So the man is now upset and I re-assure him that there is absolutely no problem in him taking time from our date to call her or message her or leave her a voice note or whatever he needs to do, but at the time I feel like I shouldn't be teaching a man how to be a man and a father how to be a father, but anyway we are all humans who sometimes get caught in unexpected situations... so I take a few steps to the side and sit on a bench to give him privacy while he tries to communicate with his daughter... but she now has turned off her phone and is unreachable. So he messages and calls the boyfriend a couple of times while we keep our walking, but the BF is still refusing to leave the business meeting and go home because of course he is working and needs to close a deal or whatever. Apparently the BF is also trying to communicate with her but getting nowhere. Anyway, the man is still trying to provide me with a good time but obviously things are now weird and tense, not light and fun anymore. I sense he is worried about his daughter and I start feeling drained so I tell him that is totally okay if he wants to cut the date short and go visit her or stay available for when she turns the phone on or whatever but he insists that he wants to carry on with the date and take me to dinner as planned and he can't go and see her until she turns her phone back on and talks to him. But I assure him that I would be okay if he needed to go and I totally understand if he needs to change plans. We walk more until we reach the restaurant and before going in I ask him again if he is sure he wants to carry on with dinner. He says yes. We go inside and we order the drinks and then he orders his food first (not what I think a gentleman should do but anyway) ... when I am ordering mine, his phone rings and it is his daughter. He goes quickly outside to talk to her and I am there on my own which is totally fine. The drinks arrive and I wait for him to come back before my first sip. I didn't track for how long he was gone, maybe 10 minutes. When he comes back, he says that everything is okay, she is okay now but he told her that he was willing to "go and visit her right now if she wanted to" but she declined. This made me raise an eye brown because we were already seated with drinks waiting for us and food ordered, being cooked in the kitchen....and besides, I gave him openings to do this before he took me inside the restaurant...Now I am not sure if he really said that to her or if he just said that to me thinking it would impress me (since it was my idea anyway), if this would show to me he is a good father...but if he was he would not ignore her first message in the first place?? I then asked some questions: Was she upset more about grandma's death? Or was she upset for not getting the support she needed straight away? He said it was a bit of both, definitely upset because grandma died although she didn't even have a strong relationship with grandma and she had actually visited her a week before after a very long time not seeing her just because she was sick and almost dying. They don't live far from each other but the relationship between them was not even close at all.... We then starting talking about my daughter (15) - who has some serious mental health issues that I briefly mentioned during our 1st date - he was the one asking lots of questions and details - and after I explained to him my daughter's issues he proceeded to say that he was "very lucky" that his daughter doesn't have and never had any mental health issues and he was extremely proud of her life and her achievements - basically comparing both our daughters and feeling good that he had a normal one while I had a 'defective' one... I am just there listening, digesting and heeding this red flag when then he offered me some sympathy which seemed genuine - but I couldn't shake off the fact that the sympathy didn't come first after I spoke about my daughter's struggles...the sympathy came after he compared our daughters - but I just chalked it up to the drama he had just experienced with his. Anyway his daughter is 26 and completely independent! And maybe I was being a bit callous but as I am there watching that drama unfold I can't help but think his daughter was massive over - reacting and is or was a bit of a drama queen and manipulative of her father and boyfriend... Especially since she was not close to grandma, saw her a week before and knew she would die any minute...plus she is apparently mentally healthy woman who is 26 years old. I was bewildered...but again I know that I am very resilient when it comes to death, even in my own family, it is just the way I have always been. At the same time I was thinking good for her in asking for support, voicing her feelings and wanting the men in her life to be there for her. My dad was absent and I had many uncommitted boyfriends and a toxic ex husband so there is a part of me who sees my bias in judging her. Anyway, what made me uncomfortable and the two red flags I see are: 1 - He didn't take any time to reply to her message when he saw it and left her on read - (he said she saw the read receipt and got angry)...but during our 1st date I excused myself and used half a minute to read and reply to messages with my own daughter so he should know I would be okay with him doing the same. I was just a woman from the dating app. Family comes first. He just needed a few seconds out of our date to reply to her. Sure that would be what a high value integrated man would do? If he treats her like that, how would he treat me down the line? Is the daughter overreacting because her nervous system is fed up with being gaslit or stonewalled or not made a priority? Or is she a manipulative drama queen spoiled brat? is he trying to set boundaries? Or is he not as good father as he likes to think? 2 - He didn't want to cut the date short when I suggested but after we were sat at the restaurant with drinks and food ordered he then offered her to go and see her immediately. What would he do then? Leave the place and leave me there to eat mine and his food on my own? That was super weird. By the way, he is 57. And I know I am overthinking this but I am curious to hear different opinions. However what made me completely turned off is that he told me he got super drunk, falling on the floor, on the streets kind of drunk, a few months ago on his birthday. And blamed his friends for giving him too many drinks. Even if the daughter drama never happened, I would not see him again anyway. I t is crazy to me...57, successful (yes I checked, his job is easy to verify online, his name - photo -profession - history easily comes up and he offers links as proof of who he is) ... Am i too picky or expecting too much? Maybe I will die single...