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  1. Posted

    Hi all,

    I hope you are doing well.

    I want to share an event with you guys which happened to me recently and I need your guys advice on what action steps should I take next time to prevent event like this happening to me again. 

    I live in an apartment with four other people. We share a wifi router with 5 sim cards. So each person gets one SIM card from the total 5 SIM cards. I have been using the SIM card from the last 5 months. Just last week, I figured out that I am the main card holder which means that all the wifi package comes to my SIM card and then from my SIM card, the wifi package gets shared to the other four SIM card. This is how the system of wifi works in China. I also figured out recently that the SIM card which I am using as the main card holder is not opened on my passport information but on one of the passport information of the other four people. The other four people knew about all this but I did not know about all this and just figured out about all this recently. The other four people actually hid this information from me. Some of the harmful ramifications which I could have face in the future because of this would be that the police could have caught me and put me in jail for using a SIM card on someone else information as you guys know their are many risk of an individual opening a SIM card on someone else passport/information and not his own respective passport/information. In response to this, I created my own SIM card seperate from the other five shared SIM card on the shared wifi router. My question from you guys is that what kind of action steps should I take next time to prevent situations like this happening again and I should not be made a fool again or get scammed again?

    Thank you for your responses

  3. Posted

    8 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    @sda Imagine if I came up to you on the street as you were going about your day and started asking you for pics of your family and house, and your address. You would be wierded out.

    What kind of questions do you think I should ask and what kind of action step do you think I should take instead of this?

    @Princess Arabia What does a girl signal when she always run away from me the next time she sees me?

  4. Posted

    8 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    Lol. Not so soon, buddy. Slow it down. It's nothing to do with protective of family more protecting of oneself. Not sure about Chinese culture, but somethings are just Universal. Nothing wrong with asking about the fam but there's a time and a place for everything and a first date just ain't one of them. 

    For Your Information, it was not even a first date. It was my first approach and my first time talking to her.

  5. Posted

    32 minutes ago, Girzo said:

    @sda My man, tell us first how did you get the idea to text her that? Maybe that would explain a few things and allow to give an advice.

    I was just looking for ways to engage her. After asking her all sort of questions, like what is her major and how old is she...I ran out of asking questions. So, I asked this question with the idea that it would engage her but I was wrong.

     

     

  7. Posted

    12 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

    I'll tell you what you did wrong. Don't ask a girl you just met to show you pictures of her family and inside her home. Why do you need to see all that. If I just met a guy and he asked me that, I would run the other way too. Guys even ask me to send regular (not nude), pics to their phones and I even deny that if I don't know them. 

    You might not understand how girls have to be over-protective of themselves because of safety reasons, not saying you will harm her or her family but she doesn't know that; and i bet her family were the ones who told her to cut ties with you. 

    She might not have been that interested in you but most girls won't even let you walk them home if they're not at least a little bit interested, so maybe it's because she was uncomfortable with you asking for those pictures. I'm saying this so next time you be a little more cautious in what you ask girls for if they don't know you and didn't suggest it first.

    These guys will blow that off as nothing, but as a female I'm telling you it was very inappropriate; and, not saying you have to be on p's and q's every time you're with a female; and believe it or not, asking for a kiss or a hug would have been better received than to ask for pictures of inside her home and family. The former is a regular occurrence and all she had to do was say yes or no, but the picture thing is not, and drew suspicion, that's why.

    Are girls very protective of their family? I have notice in my interactions with girls that whenever I ask a girl, especially Chinese girls because I live in China about their family then they get triggered and stop talking to me. Also, the next time when they see me, they run away.

  8. Posted

    Hi all,

    Yesterday, I approached a girl and I had a little chat with her. I asked her how she was and I was engaging with her. She seemed to be quiet interested in me and we were getting along. She even walked with me back to her home. For Your Information, she did not know English very well and I know English so we had to rely on a translation software in instagram. However, at the end, I text message her on Instagram to show me some pictures of her family and some pictures of her house from inside. She then text messaged me this:

    Your question today made me feel a bit invasive of privacy, and I don't really want to chat or meet with others while preparing for the exam, so I deleted your Instagram account first and don't add me. Wishing you success in your studies, thank you.

    My question from you guys is that can you tell me what was my mistake and how can I approach much better in the future?

     

  9. Posted · Edited by sda

    Sorry for not being clear. What I mean is:

    On 19/01/2024 at 10:52 AM, meta_male said:

    @Carl-Richard His roommate tried to get him to leave his blanket outside so he his roommate friend  can sleep in it who stayed there when he returns, while @sda thinks it was meant for his roommate's friend who stayed there. who will sleep in @sda blanket when he returns.

    I apologize again for not being clear. 

    What I mean is that my roommate lied to me so that I can put my blanket outside because my roommate knows that I am loyal to him and if I had put my blanket outside then my roommate friend will sleep in my blanket. This means that my roommate is exploiting me with his lies because his friend is sleeping instead of him. My question from you guys in this thread and the thing that I need help on is that can you guys suggest me what measures should I take in the future to make sure that people such as my roommate for example in this scenario does not exploit me?

    For clarity purposes, I will share these messages which he sent to me after the call and I will provide translation to you from urdu to english language

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    ny apko key ne di mery kamry ki (urdu language)= He did not give you the key (English)

    Ab main kahan per saoon ga  (urdu language) = Now, where will I sleep? (English)

    Sleep kahan karon ga main (urdu language) = Where will I sleep? (English)

    Us ny kaha hai main xxxx ko key dy raha hoon (urdu language) = He said that he gave the key to you (English)

    Kindly apky pass jo pehly wala chota blanket hai woh to bahar rakhty jao (urdu language)= Kindly, leave the first small blanket of yours outside (English)

    Aj raat main us main guzara kar loo ga, kindly (urdu language)= I will sleep tonight in that blanket which you will leave outside for me, kindly (English)

  10. Posted · Edited by sda

    Hi everyone,

    I hope you all are doing well.

    I want to share a situation here that happened to me with my roommates and I want your guys advice on how to deal with my roommates. I am currently living with 1 roommate in a two bedroom apartment excluding a living room. For the sake of context, I will name my this one roommate T. It was late at night when I returned to my apartment with my friend and T friend was in my apartment. T called me and told me that to put my blanket outside so that T can sleep for the night in my blanket. However, T never returned that night and I know this because when I returned to the apartment early morning, I did not see my T in the apartment. For Your Information, I did not leave my blanket outside for my roommate because I was feeling that something wasn't quite right. After this, I realized that my roommate lied to me so that I can put my blanket outside and my roommate friend can sleep in it therefore making my roommate to exploit me. What can I do in the future to make sure that people such as my roommates cannot easily exploit me?

    Thank you

    Yahya Yousaf

  11. Posted

    20 hours ago, Salvijus said:

    You should've started with "Why your parents don't want you to finish uni degree". 

    Sorry for not being clear over their. For Your Guys Information, my parents don't want me to finish this university degree because they think that their are so many other degrees which are better than a Chinese medical degree and I think that they perceive me as a small baby who can't live alone by himself away from family.

  12. Posted

    Hi all,

     

    I hope you all are doing good.

     

    I want to share my current situation regarding my university education and I want your guys opinion on this. I am a second year medical student in China and my family is in Canada. My family in Canada wants me to come back to Canada from China to stay with them. However for that I need to quit my degree and all the money for my first year tuition fees and second year tuition fees as well as living expenses which I consumed of my parents for the first two years of my university will go wasted. So what do you guys think that what should I do? Should I come back to my family in Canada or should I stay in China to complete my six year program degree?

     

    Any opinion on my next steps will be appreciated

     

    Thank you

  16. Posted · Edited by sda

    Hi all,

    I hope you all are doing good.

    I want to share here a personal incident that happened to me in my home and I want your guys third person unbiased opinion regarding this incident. I am a student and I am living in an apartment away from my parents with three people. Two of my roommates are nice to me and treat me with respect. However, the third person does not treat me with respect and always scolds me who I will call S in this post for the sake of context.

     

    I mean that S always calls me bad words like ass-hole and dumb ass person. He gaslights me, interfere in my personal life, touches me uncomfortably on the face/neck, tells me bad things about myself, he is very manipulative, he takes my things without my permission and he tells me to bring his things for him such as a glass of water or mobile phone which he is lazy to bring. I got so frustrated and heart broken with his behavior so I complained to my parents regarding this who are back at home. I gave S phone number to my parents and my parents sent a voice message to S on WhatsApp.

    In the voice message my parents basically told S that he should not talk with me and that I should not talk with him neither in good things or bad things. My parents threatened S that they will not spare S and they will come to S wherever he is living. My parents told to S that my parents should not hear any other complaints from me regarding S otherwise my dad will not spare S.

    After the voice message, S called me to his room and told me that we both will not talk with each. S told me that he did not forward this voice message to his family and if he did forward it then the issue will be much bigger. S told me that my parents did not talk with manners and his family is much more well mannered than my parents.

    At the current moment, my dad is asking me the principal number and my two other roommates number to talk with them regarding this incident. Can anyone give me advice or suggestions for what I should do regarding my situation.

    Any response will be greatly appreciated.

    Thank you

    Have a good day

     

  17. Posted

    Hi all,

    I hope you are doing well.

    I wanted to share a scene that happened with me recently. Today, my roommate asked me if I am hungry and if we should cook food. I said that we will begin to cook food when my friend arrives because my friend told me to let my roommate know to not cook food till he arrives. Then my roommate asked me the same question again and I gave the same response again. My roommate asked me the same question the third time and I gave my roommate the same response the third time. After this, my roommate yelled at me and told me to,"Mind my language and to talk with manners. " I ignored him.

    I want some third person opinion on this scenario and let me know whether my reaction was a healthy one or not a healthy one.

    Thanks

     

  20. Posted

    Entry number:116
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    Grade: N/A
    Age: N/A
    Who: Dad

    One day me and my dad were walking to the mosque to pray Isha prayer. My dad told me to walk with him but I could not walk with him because I was slow. As a result, my dad gave me a punch on my bladder. Then I somehow managed to walk to the mosque with my dad. After I returned home, I told to my mom that my dad hit me on the bladder. My mom fought with my dad that night that why did he hit me on the bladder while my dad was in denial about him hitting me on the bladder.


    Entry number: 117
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    Grade: 6
    Age: 13
    Who: Mom

    It was a Friday. I spent a lot of time after prayer in the mosque while my family was waiting for me outside the mosque to go to a supermarket. I came very late to the house to go to the supermarket with my family. My friend was on the other side of the house watching me. When I came in the car, my mom asked me that why was I late and then she hit me on the back of my neck. My friend watched all that happened.

    Entry number: 118
    Date: N/A
    Grade: N/A
    Age: N/A
    Who: Dad

    Their was a labourer working in the fields. When the labourer came outside the field, I took my one arm and put it around the labourer. I walked the labourer towards the other end of the street. My dad watched all of this happening. This then my dad took his hand and grabbed my neck all the way back to the house. Everyone in the street including the Islamic Imam of my local mosque saw my dad grabbing me by the neck and taking me to the house by grabbing me by the neck. My dad told to my mom about this.
     

  22. Posted

    Hi everyone,

    I am currently living in Pakistan. However, now in the future, I am moving to China because it is a more developed society and I got admission at a university their. Also, the environment in China makes it more easier for an individual to self-actualize than the environment in Pakistan. However, I am confused on the list of items or things I need to take with me when travelling from one country to another country. So, can you guys give me a list of items or brainstorm a list of ideas in this thread which would be about things an average would need to take when travelling from one country to another? This would be pretty valuable and useful to me for my travel from Pakistan to China. Also, this is my first time travelling from one country to another country alone so if you could give me some advice when travelling from one country to another country then I would appreciate that. 

    Thanks