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I think you're confusing something here. This sounds more like a simp, which is creepy.

In that case you can still focus on what makes people feel comfortable. I personally don't think it's easy navigating the thin line between being your authentic self vs. not scaring people. I don't believe your intentions are bad and it sounds like you want to get this handled since it causes you suffering. But you need to open your mind a bit more and leave women out of this debate, it has absolutely nothing to do with them. You have a sneaky mind. Why do you want all this? So you can get laid, I don't really believe it's for the men Let the simps simp, you wanna play at their level?

Most of society is unaware of why they feel the way they feel, they can't steer their emotions, empathy is the key. You're only shooting yourself in the foot here. If you let them know your intentions and they don't match your nonverbal communication then people are going to be wise enough not to risk anything. It's not a crime as as far as I know, but it definitely puts you in the spotlight.

Being creepy is being attached to an outcome. Your neediness is evident in that you want women and authorities to have a different image than the one you give off. People can sense you're hiding your real intentions, whether their guesses are true or not doesn't matter. What matters is how people (not just women) feel around you. Someone is creeped out by you if you inspire in them feelings of awkwardness, fear, guilt...basically if you give them an overall unpleasant interaction without being authentic. Going on a crusade against what society deems safe won't help your case, you'll just go further down the spiral.

- she shows signs of attraction - you notice but don't approach because you want to teach her a lesson

Taking the red pill simply means having your eyes opened to reality, based on the movie Matrix. You take the blue pill, you believe whatever you want to believe. And many want to believe this is about women... So what you get is the blind leading the blind, not remembering they didn't have the balls to take the other pill

It sounds as if he's got absolutely nothing to offer besides money...what's there to love? If he stops sending it to her then of course she's trying harder lol.

Men are practically jumping to help a woman out at work. Of course this depends on the profession.

Where's the gun?

Good share. I wish women appreciated this more, though I'm sure we're blind to many of their struggles too.

Acting stupid = getting out of your head, having fun, not being serious.

Then all hope is not lost

@ivankiss Totally off topic but I'm curious: is your MBTI type INFP (if you've ever done a test)?

@NoSelfSelf I see, I found the word a bit misleading, but thanks for clarifying.

@NoSelfSelf I might be the only one who never got that, but why do you call the relationship with yourself game?

I've never met a girl who expected me to pay for stuff, get out of your head. This is all of us btw, not just girls. You've bought into the manosphere's ideology, at least that's what it sounds like. Could be theses thoughts come up when you're frustrated (I know they do for me), but work on finding out what's beneath it. It's about you in the end.

@Princess Arabia Exactly, get out of your heads. No need to build thicker skin through rejections, there's other fun ways.

@Princess Arabia In this case I would have approached you cause I put myself in your view. It's not easy for guys to see when a woman seeks their attention. Most here wouldn't need to go through pickup and make clowns of themselves if they realised all the ways women make themselves visible to them.

@gettoefl Reminds me of this: for the Holy Spirit will teach you in that very hour what you ought to say.” Luke 12:12

It might be a language barrier thing, but putting yourself in someone's orbit is the approach in my eyes. And yes you're crazy, we all are 🤘😛

Since you're complaining about low LOC: where do overweight people appear and what might your interpretation of them say about you?

@Princess Arabia Actually it's the other way round. Women approach guys all the time. Even you, you're basically approaching Leo whenever you get the chance But I agree with the rest, good post.

Your parents are the opposite of wise actually, as their advice is leading you down a path that doesn't match with your personal values. You can always take their advice into account later, but first get clear on what it is you want. There is no right or wrong way, just you creating your own unique life story.

@PurpleTree You're making a correlation between people pleasing and wanting to make others feel comfortable. They don't necessarily have to be connected. I'd say you're a natural, just a little insecure about your skills.

Your mind will come up with all kinds of crazy theories after rejection. What this tells me is YOU think you're less than them for some reason, the story is just backing up your belief.