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youtube is relaxation mode even though it is a great learning tool; relaxation is end of day activity; i schedule 2 hours for video content daily, if i watch a movie or a leo vid that will be it for the day; oftentimes early in the day i come across vids i want to watch so i put them in the queue and will watch later in the day/week; if a vid is 30 minutes or more long, i will scan the transcript to see if i want to invest the time and in particular read the conclusion two hours is the sweet spot for me, after two hours off to sleep

note that when you spell dogma backwards you get am god what you going to choose? universe is laughing here

reason breathing is a good anchor is as follows: are you breathing right now? yes; how do you know you are breathing? i can feel it either at my nostrils or at my stomach hold onto that physical feeling - no matter what else you are doing this is how buddha taught awareness

@Ayham am not big on Ralston but what i mean is become child like innocent sincere wondering ... imagine that you are a new person every day

strongly recommend breath anchor, it's what buddha taught ... study this vid and all the vids on the channel https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=giDJNVPs014

mindfulness is the dance between see hear feel and breathing meditation is the dance between thinking and breathing what is new that you see or hear or feel you hold onto for ten seconds back to breathing sitting in a chair you feel discomfort you move position, you look around you for ten seconds, back to breathing when there is change in world body mind hold it notice it savor it back to breathing eventually with mindfulness and meditation breathing becomes default

people who talk about people won't awaken write threads on how YOU are waking up rather than hurling stones everyone i see here is perfect no matter how awake they are and i am grateful for everyone's contribution i don't condemn you like this thread does, i embrace you i salute you i love you

put things in your own words, forget everything you have learned and become someone who knows nothing

is the converse true? if its exists am i conscious of it? no ... this is the world of spirituality and god thus consciousness is a subset of existence, everything is nothing part of existence, everything? yes ... nothing is just what i can't be conscious of in summary, existence, everything = consciousness + nothing

i am i am this is clear and all springs from this

if i'm conscious of it it exists sight sound smell taste touch thought

thoughts are pretty subtle, i do however find it helpful to count eye blinks with walking meditation, after you get settled they tend to zero

all is pointers ... do the minimum you can ... need and desire for movement decreases over time eventually to zero but takes patience body gets tougher and falls into line with what you want of it, crazy what it is capable of if you stick with it

god doesn't experience think feel know anything ... it would need to be human to do so ... you were never god despite what some teachers say ... you are god and god is you are different assertions with only one of them true as we used to say when i was a church-goer, i'm on god's team but god is not on mine

when self help ends self halt begins namely spirituality ... don't confuse the two ... broadly former is the first half of life other is second half

everyone is a budding narcissist depending on 1. one's suffering narcissistic abuse 2. one's talent at persuading 3. one's success doing it very easy to get swept up in this kind of devilry especially when you hear spiritual teachers telling you that you are god

ego is an actor and everything ego says is a performance trying to entrench its position ... yes we may escape its clutches to some degree but ultimately we are taking care of what's mine and we are not free to do otherwise we are all playing the game and doing what is best for number one and its interests, all around are friend or foe, colleague or competitor ... we do good stuff for friend and will do bad stuff to foe

awareness is potent prayer, can you hang out there for a minute in god's masterpiece thankful to know the hotline to heaven in your silence

good stuff ... to shut the mind 99% when out walking, count steps one til ten then repeat your mind is given a repetitive task which takes 1% cpu and you are free now to go bliss mode also look up now down, skwwards is where the god stuff is, the unawakened are glum ever looking down can do this in the home too, count breaths, same technique in one out two in three etc.

first thing is, every person you meet speaks the whole truth according to their level of consciousness therefore where you prove you are unawakened is by judging the validity of their truths which is what this thread is doing your truth isn't my truth quit saying you're wrong to people and start saying wow interesting, i can see where you are in you journey now

yes i feel this too how about define nothing? nothing is everything right in front of you that the mind is incapable of seeing or even imagining ... which by the way is quite a lot ... don't think she would be happy to state that ... words have to mean something in day to day life rather than be poetic dead ends

look where you wrote "most basic expectations" that's what i addressed you said you want all this stuff, i am saying this should be a first date conversation for compatibility not some afterthought 5 years later

narcissism is revisionism of history ... it is re-spinning everything per one's own lens ... its position defines what the truth is what makes a narcissist different from the normal person is many people believe a narcissist they succeed in getting the past rewritten normal person just gets dismissed as delusional since they are not as persuasive and smart what's the difference between fact and fiction? a good lawyer

don't have expectations and assumptions when you date someone be explicit if you need exclusivity or flexibility exclusivity means you see only each other and seeing another person terminates the relationship flexibility will mean either i do my thing you do your thing otherwise known as don't ask don't tell DADT or it can mean if one wants to see someone else its possibility is discussed and a joint decision is arrived at doing all this in the beginning saves a lot of heartache later on, it might be the most important subject in any relationship

polyamory gives structure support stability so you can be your fullest self, it is more driven by women than men, men are more pro casual sex and swinging ... check the reddit sub and you'll see it's 90% women who post