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  1. Posted · Edited by Princess Arabia

    The illusion is not what's been said. The illusion is in the interpretation of what's been said. Reality is not an illusion. The Absolute, which is everything, including what seems to appear, is not an illusion. The I AM is the illusion. Separation is the illusion. The stories and interpretations of what's appearing is the illusion. What is, is not an illusion. Your body, the things that appear, the changes and movements, the sights, sounds, hearing, sensations are not illusions. 

    The only illusion is what the I AM, the individual and the apparent person interprets from what's seemingly arising. If there was no language, there would be no world, no interpretations, no agendas, no personhood, no life, no achievements, no seeking, no....you name it. Language was invented by humans. There is only what's happening. It's only humans that have a life, an experience. Without an experiencer there's no experience, just what's happening. Which is not an illusion. Everything is apparent, which means seeming to happen. There's actually nothing happening. There's no one that anything is happening to. The mystery is what is this that is seeming to appear, and no one knows because to know implies separation and someone to know something. That's the illusion. All knowledge is illusory and what makes the dreamer seem to be having a life. There is no life, no world and no one, only bodies appearing. It's all just a mystery, but not unto itself, because there is no self. Only This, appearing as a self.

    Here comes the naysayers.  

  4. Posted · Edited by Princess Arabia

    14 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

    70% of game is about being confortable in your own skin in the process of being sexual/funny/social with humans (whatever your sexual orientation).

    Knowing that you can give great experiences to people, share moments and add to each others lives.

    This doesn't even have to be the case at all times because a 5min quality interaction with someone can leave a bigger, more positive impact than a 10yr relationship that was filled with bitterness and animosity towards each other. Not everybody will give you a great experience and add to your life, but the more quality engagements we have will be great experiences even if just for a brief encounter because you're not looking at that person as a number.

  5. Posted

    1 minute ago, CARDOZZO said:

    @Princess Arabia Thanks for your POV :D 

    Guys need to start listening to women sometimes on these issues because we're the ones you're approaching and trying to date or whatever. I'm coming from a place where i'm not bitter towards men and have been approached many times in my life. I can say which ones seemed to be just a numbers game or who don't really care if I say yes or no to and those guys I tend to avoid because I can tell it won't be worth my time and energy. Not saying to not approach many times, but in the thousands is not worth it in the end if your main aim is to actually interact.

  6. Posted · Edited by Princess Arabia

    Guys it's not in the amount of approaching where the success lies. Success meaning the reason for the approach. If you're just approaching to get better at approaching, then yes; but at some point, that has to escalate into something more personal if the goal is to get personal and start interacting and to get better at your dealings with women and relationships. We are dealing with people here, not some job application where the more applications the better your chances of landing a job. When you get that job, you still have to go to work and engage in that job, even if you end up leaving at some point for whatever reason. You now have experience and can be more qualified for the next and so on. 

    Thousands of approaches, whether months or years, is burnout; and by the time you get that date or relationship you will feel entitled because of the hard work that was put into all the time spent approaching without landing. Like a plane approaching the runway but never getting to land for a while due to circumstances beyond its control, then finally everybody claps and sighs with relief then you're exhausted due to anticipation of whether you'll land or not. It's the same feeling. That 999th approach that says yes, you well be too exhausted to even enjoy the times spent because all you're thinking about is the other 999th times you're going to have to put in for the next if this doesn't work out.

    I say don't put numbers to it. You will get numbers and interactions, but not the quality ones you want; and it doesn't matter if it's just sex or whatever you desire from it, it doesn't matter, because you will be having sex with someone you're not attracted to just because she said yes, and now you're disappointed and low-self esteem kicks in for fearing you can't attract the type of girl you really want. Go work on yourselves inwardly and put yourselves out there and only approach women you really wouldn't mind dealing with on some level and let the ones you don't care to go by with just a mere smile or hello and small talk if appropriate.

    That's my take as a female and some will say you're not a man so shut up; but this isn't rocket science as it applies to other areas as well and this is why so many men are hating on women and the pills were formed because men are burnt out and have had it with rejections and not being able to have loving relations with women because they are concentrating on the numbers game while avoiding having quality interactions for fear of the next skirt slipping by that they could potentially score with. 

  7. Posted

    6 hours ago, DreamCryX said:

     

    If one's dating strategy is cold approach, it does require thousands of approaches to get good at it.

    I agree. Keep approaching for the rest of your life, to master the skill even better. Maybe get a masters while doing millions. When you're 80 you will have graduated with honors and receive a life-time achievement award for the art of approaching, maybe even write a book on the subject.

  8. Posted

    4 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    1) Not only approaching but all kinds of social interaction and dealing with women, dating, physical escalation, foreplay, sex, and relationships, inner game, confidence, humor, verbal skills, reading social situations, emotional intelligence, masculinity, and more.

    2) Success in the field of dating and dealing with women. Other areas of success require other kinds of practice.

    Yes, I get that, but thousands of approaches leaves no time or very little time for these things. I mean, how much time does one person have in a day, week, month, year, including other aspects of life to accomplish and get good at all you've mentioned, while accomplishing thousands of approaching. It just seems like a numbers game at this point with not enough quality interactions and development. Approaching alone doesn't help in these areas, actual interaction does, which takes time, effort and energy,

  9. Posted

    2 hours ago, mmKay said:

    @mr_engineer 3 approaches per day is 1k approaches per year and 10k over a decade of your life , it's not ridiculous. Totally  possible , and it's It's a conservative estimate of what it takes to gtfo clueless hellish hardcase newbie zone into enjoying an abundant intimate lifestyle 

     

    This doesn't make sense in respect to the reason for approaching other than being successful at approaching. If you found a gf through approaching, why would one need to keep approaching. Plus at some point, gf or not, isn't there sometime in-between for interaction, dating, sex etc, 

  10. Posted

    8 minutes ago, mr_engineer said:

    @Consept Out of all the girls you come across on an everyday basis, how do you choose whom to approach? What's the ultimate goal here? 

    And, what are we trying to get better at? What is the KPI of our so-called 'game'?! 

    Your whole narrative on this thread is the most sense I've seen you made in this section thus far. (respectfully saying). I've seen where you've commented on other topics quite "sensefully"(sic), but the dating section is usually quite controversial with you. I can't agree with you more here, and even though I'm not a male, what you're saying makes sense.  

  12. Posted

    55 minutes ago, fopylo said:

    @Princess Arabia

    People who go to business workshops have the commonality of having interest in business and making money. Some differences between them and their personalities, but still relatively similar.

    People who are part of a cycling group that meets once a week to ride the bike have a common interest in cycling, fitness, health. There are differences between them but they still have this commonality which implies some similar ways of thinking.

    Both of those are choices. They come together because of a shared interest, and you get like minded people.

    This is different from people on the street who are complete strangers to you.

    Here on actualized.org you don't get "random people from the street". You get people with a shared interest to self actualize, otherwise they wouldn't be here.

    People that live on planet earth have and share more similar interests than those who live on Saturn.  Humans that have two feet share more in common than those who only have one. People who listen to rap music share the same interests and have more in common than people that listen to head banging music. I mean, I could keep going with this. This is a sameness VS differences situation. You have taken this philosophy or whatever you call it and twisted it around an it has lost all context.

    There are people here who never view the Spirituality section, some never comment on the dating section, the political section the intellectual section. Never ever. Some only comment on one section; and like me, are all over the place but mostly spiritual health and dating. There are people from different countries with different ethnicities, nationalities and race. People with opposite views on the same topics. The only thing in common that each and everyone of the users here share is that we are human and I'm not even sure about that, but that's another discussion.

  13. Posted

    5 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

    @Princess Arabia Yeah.

    I really like coffee, books, trails, meditation, running and gym.

    Just go to your favorite places, be decent, talk, lower your expectations and stop watching Red Pill/MGTOW videos.

    YT/Internet are fucking male's mind all around the world. 

    Hey, it's all about making money and these YT channels are surely cashing in, There's a female right now eyeing some of these dudes but their mind is on making it a special night out to do cold approach. Some of my best dates came spontaneously and without any formal approaching, just plain old sexual attraction and fun times.

  14. Posted

    On 4/16/2024 at 9:50 AM, MarkKol said:

    I don’t think Leo would like me, I don’t usually get along with grumps, he seems very grumpy.

    He said his biggest pet peeve is humans! Of course he’s a grump! My still kicking 98 year old grandpa said the same thing.

    omg, funniest comment ever. Leo just knows too much. He's not a grump. Too much multiplications, divisions, subtractions and square roots going on in that big forehead of his. Always thinking and contemplating, always skeptical about his own shit and his mind bullshitting him.

    Always mistrusting his own judgements and calling out the wrong kinda bullshit, and he'd be like, hey wtf, shut the hell up mind, i don't like you, you're always steering me in the wrong direction. I didn't wanna go there but you made me do this shit. So now he hates human bullshit 'cause he knows it's the collective consciousness that's responsible for his fuck-ups. Oh my! Now he's really gonna can't stand human bullshit especially mine.

  15. Posted

    29 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

    Approach 1000 woman if you want. It's more easy to join groups (yoga, trails, running, meditation), develop your humor, being fucking interesting/unique. 

    Yes, I very rarely take men that approach me on a whim Hoff, seriously. Most of my dates in the past came from just regular guys that were spur of the moment kind of thing. I'll give a few examples. 

    Once I went to a facility and the guy at the desk was kind of handsome and we were just talking regularly chit chat and he asked for my number just casually at the end of the convo. Rest is history. Another time, just a regular guy in the neighborhood and we hooked up through just seeing each other on the street and exchanged numbers. He didn't approach formally approached and I wasn't looking for a date, just normal stuff. Another time was just through mutual friend and a house party, I mean just normal shit. Not when a strange guy says, hi, I like your outfit would you like to hang out sometime. Idk. How do I know that. I never even knew this was a coordinated thing amongst males till I got on this forum. 

    To be honest, I never even realized it was so hard for guys to get dates, it was always an assumption of mine that women were the ones finding a hard time because we don't approach men and there were so many women to pick from. Just like how guys are assuming shit about women, women are also assuming shit about the game. I always thought how lucky men were to have their pick because women had to wait until approached for not seeming pushy. 

    This shit is news to me.

  16. Posted

    14 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    To get good at any skill requires thousands of practice sessions.

    Thousands of golf balls.

    Thousands of writing days.

    Thousands of baskets.

    Thousands of rounds in the boxing ring.

    Thousands of music sessions.

    Yea, but in this case, you're only getting good at approaching. Nothing to do with success. Getting good at the type of women to approach and how to handle the approach is worth a lot more than how much you approach. No? Just asking. 

  18. Posted

    11 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    What am I to do about it? I can't take a heavy hand towards free speech because that would make me a tyrant.

    The reality of any social system is that people will fight each other, argue, criticize, and disagree. That's democracy.

    You did the best you could by limiting the amount of talk time we have on here per day, which I've come across a few times with my blabbermouth. Hehe. 

  19. Posted

    You go to church, same thing, school and college, same thing, neighborhoods same thing, political venues same thing, courts moderate the same thing, families same thing, clubs and bars, same thing. Name one place where humans congregate and it's not the same thing. Maybe in the library, but they're probably reading about it. Lol. Hospitals, they're probably sick because of it. Funerals, probably mourning about it. 

    I know where - in mama's womb......wait, the baby is kicking. 

  24. Posted

    3 minutes ago, Raze said:

    But if he cares if you respond or not isn’t that unattractive because it’s neediness? 

    No, that's not neediness. It shows that you aren't just approaching because you feel you should as a man. Most women get approached, it's nothing new or off or strange or even a turn off. It's when we can sense he's just approaching because you're a piece of skirt, and he wouldn't feel like a man if he didn't or he feels like it's his duty, or he feels like the woman is only dressed a certain way because she wants men to approach her, is when some when gets turned off.

    Neediness to a woman and when it becomes a turn off, is after the approach, after the phone exchanges, after the connection has been made and he is just constantly up her ass, constantly needing her attention, constantly needing her approval, constantly asking what she's doing, where she's going, who she's with......all that jazz. When a woman likes a man she likes a man. She's not going to find you unattractive if she sees you care that she "rejects" you. That's for child's play and high-school teenagers who are just starting out in the dating field, if that's even such a thing. Men are constantly viewing women how they see women. A man is more likely the one to be turned off if she's too into him not the other way around, as long as he's not as I described, because that's not "normal".

  25. Posted

    6 minutes ago, TheGod said:

    Yeah I'm human just full of shit haha

    But honestly I like and appreciate women, I'm bitter about them because I don't know how to relate to them due to lack of experience. Often I miss the time when I would go to sleep with my ex. I used to watch her falling asleep, she was so adorable. You know you right, I need intimacy it's not only about sex. It's everything. Conversations, watching movies together, holding hands, kissing. I've been lying to myself saying that I don't need this things. Psychedelics revealed that it's pure lies. 

    Women are such precious creatures of mine, pure beauty. 

    Yeah, you were lying to yourself, but I saw through all that, that's why I wasn't too hard on you when you were talking all that jazz. You get to a point when you can see through some of human's bullshit, especially when one has dealt with men through all these years. All the crying and bickering and hollering and hating and bitching and moaning from men about women and all that you seen them carry on with is just them really saying how much they love women but have seemingly lost control in their relations with them or lack thereof; and if it's not that, it's something close to that dynamic. I'm in no position to say exactly what that is but I know that people don't get emotionally charged over something they couldn't care less about. 

    Nobody craves sex just for sex's sake. Sex is no different than eating chocolate and when one craves chocolate it's because the body is lacking in certain nutrients. Same goes for just about every craving. There's something lacking in either one's psyche or mental state or physical body. Notice I said crave, so please no moral police please about my saying sex is just like eating chocolate. People seem to like to think of certain things as special over the next thing when all that is, is a bias and a survival agenda strategy. Existentially, nothing is more important than the next; it's all neutral.