Terell Kirby

There are definitely toxic ways to do pickup. Essentially, you want to be honest with women about your willingness to commit. If you plan on keeping her around after having sex, she’ll eventually bring up the status of the relationship and where it’s headed. It’s important you don’t lie about your feelings on this point…a lot of guys mess up here.

Wise advice :-)

Some thoughts: no debt income exceeding your expenses Providing your own paycheck (though not limited to) Multiple streams of income / assets Robust savings account Robust 401k Which leads me to think that you can be very stable as a wage slave. But…does being a wage slave automatically make you not financially independent? Even if you have all other points going for you? Bullet #3 and #4 have been the toughest challenges for me…guessing because it requires exceptional creativity and hard work. I plan on using the next 10 years to obtain it.

Correct. The ego is one tiny aspect of existence. The mistake is to think your identity is limited to your human form. You are your human form, and everything else. Deeply grasps this and you will come to realize that your true "form" is that which is without form.

You are all of existence...every aspect of it. (take this literally...this is not a play on words). There is nothing that exists in the universe but existence itself. You are eternal.

It starts with asking questions, which you are doing a great job at. Keep asking and asking...genuine curiosity will bring you to Truth. As a teaser, the story ends with realizing that it was all a dream...including this very moment

Indeed. The physical body does have an expiration date, but at the same time, you are imagining it. You can imagine it away, the body dies...but who you are, the one who imagined it, doesn't.

When you die, you realize that death isn’t real. Quite a paradox. p.s. You can realize this while you’re still alive. No need to wait till your last breath!

Contemplating this. Organically speaking, bigger egos seem to be found in males in comparison to females. Consciousness can be measured by how much or how little ego you have. Could this been a sign that women are more conscious? (Not to mention their prefrontal cortex develops faster than men). Please don’t take any of this personal, I could be grasping at straws here lol. Thought it would be interesting dialogue.

Great question. Our sense of self is often tied with our positions on things. Going against that position means the death of ones existing way of interfacing with reality through various belief systems. This is threatening to the ego, and will often result in backlash in the form of denial, anger and projection. All of these emotions are rooted in the fear of realizing that you do not have the full picture of life.

@Consept thank you! This is helpful.

The answer is No, your current visual field is not the only thing that exists in the Universe. That would be known as solipsism, which is falsehood. There are infinite universes, but YOU as GOD are experiencing those infinite universes simultaneously…including yours, mine, everyone on the forum, etc.

Becoming the authentic you is a recipe to lose many friendships that are superficial. Don't mistake this as a bad thing, it's very good. Also, watch for the urge to hold onto friendships that have passed their expiration date. This is especially the case if you are a people pleaser.

Why make fun of them Leo? (Tier 1 behavior) Do you have an ounce of compassion for these people? Most are victims of a poor educational system.

You cannot intellectually understand what God is, as it transcends intellect. Also, just because someone takes 5-Meo DMT, or any other psychedelic doesn't guarantee that they will grasp what it means to be God. Understanding what is God is very, very challenging. You have to sacrifice a lot to do it, and be willing to lose all comfort in your life and mind to pursue. Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you really want this. If you do, you'll naturally come to understand. If you don't (but act like you do), you are in for more bad than good. Take this journey seriously, and proceed with caution.

You should not need spirituality to "solve" anything in your life. The egos primary motivation is to fix things so it can live comfortably. Avoid this way of thinking. Spirituality rids the need of solving anything essentially...this is the beautiful aspect of it.

In your mind, what is the distinction between the two? How does the transition from self actualization to self transcendence look like? For those into Spiral Dynamics, I look at it as a Yellow to Turquoise transition.

Sounds like you have thrown in the towel on your spiritual journey. Best to admit it honestly than to delude yourself

Be careful not to use this saying as an excuse for avoiding spiritual work.

Reality is infinite, there is no coming out of it. That's why it's imperative that you learn to love reality through your awakening. Else endless suffering will be the case.

You gotta start slow. Trying to change too many things about yourself at once will backfire on you in a nasty way (ego backlash). Start by making VERY small changes. If you eat like shit 7 days a week, try 6 instead. This is just one example of building momentum. Also know that you will screw up your progress here and there. You need to be able to screw up, learn from it and move on. Beating yourself up is only a mechanism to stay the same and not change. Self compassion is important as well. Read: Self Compassion by Kristin Neff

Look up some vids on YouTube from David Goggins...very good stuff about mental toughness. He also has a book called 'Can't Hurt Me'.

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