Nick_98

My friend thanks for telling us your story. look you don’t need to have friends, like I said just a good morning when you pass by a homeless person in the street will make you instantly more social. I don’t mind if I do with you a quick chit chat over video. But I am not sure if the forum permits it. So better be safe than sorry Hahaha

I have been thinking about this question for a couple of days and it still doesn’t make any sense to me. In the most popular religions like christianity and Islam, you are encouraged to have sex as long as you’re married to the person that you’re having sex with. it’s even stated in islam that you can have sex with 4 different women as long as you are married to them and providing to them equally the same share of money/assets. it doesn’t make any sense to me that Prophet mohamed who was a religious person did have a wife and children. now how does religion not forbid sex ? How does it encourage sex instead through marriage ? I believe a person who is very close to god would abstain from Pleasing themselves. At the end of the day what’s sex more than pleasing your own self. i believe that a real religion would forbid sex and calls on abstaining from it permanently, that makes a lot more sense if you’re trying to be “religious” does anybody have any explanation how and why is that ?

Hello, i’ve wasted two years of my life seeking spiritual achievements. During this time I had almost minimal contact with people around me. Even my parents I spoke with Barely. After the end of this Period, I’ve started socialising again. I wouldn’t say that I’ve became social instantly but it was rather some gradual steps that made me today very extroverted. I started by stopping ignoring people and started by acknowledging their presence, then step by step I became social again. During the time I stayed away from people I faced existential crisis, suicidal thoughts and had almost no reason to live! I kept asking myself everyday why am I alive and what is my purpose. I had struggled with deep existential thoughts that made me almost hopeless, I felt during this time that in the future I would me homeless, because I almost have no contact with people and don’t care about their presence. Since I’ve changed and started being social I noticed a big improvement in my psychological well being. The truth is you need people to survive and feel good about yourself. Anyone who says otherwise does underestimate the human need, and probably there is a big chance they’re gonna face a lethal existential crisis that makes them question their reason to be alive. I don’t recommend that to anybody. if you can be social, start by taking small steps, like acknowledging the other person’s presence with the people around you. Just the fact that you acknowledge the other person’s presence will make you instantly more social and people would like to spend time around you. I just wanna say that I’ve turned from an extremely introverted person, to an extremely extroverted one. I enjoy telling people Good Morning every day, even if it is through a social media app. Be social, Avoid isolation. You need it for your health and well being. People can give you a lot of purpose to live. Even if you don’t share the same thoughts start by acknowledging their presence, welcoming them, or just say Good Morning when you pass by a homeless person in the street. Good Luck. Or better tho Good Morning 😁 A message for people who think that they are above being social. some people think that they are too good that they are now above being social, that they are too good to be with other people. i challenge you to test your limits, if you’re open minded enough test your ability to meet other people and just listen to them without judgments. if you are too open minded you can meet some people through an app and while you hear their ideas take a deep breath and don’t judge. if you think you’re way to good to meet another one, or you’re crafted with a power no one can understand then listen to others and don’t judge them. That’s your challenge. Build a connection with someone who’s opposing your thoughts. if you are non religious, listen to another person talking to you about the bible and how it shaped their life If you are not into sport listen to someone who talks about how sports are extremely beneficial for them. Don’t judge. if you are into meditation sit with someone that talks shit about meditation, about how bad it is for you. Be open minded. Don’t judge , acknowledge their presence. And that’s my challenge for you if you think you are too good to socialise with other people. goodluck😁

So you agree with me that you feel the same way ? should we stop the inquiry here or inquire further ? the question would be where is "there" located. The thing is , I feel like my mind is a lying machine, but I can't spot where it is lying. I can't catch it !

Hello , I was just sitting here self inquiring while I thought about something really interesting. I don't know if that's true or not. But I feel that my thoughts are coming from above not below. I mean that when I think about experiencing myself I feel my thoughts are coming from above , the upper part of my body, not from below, not from my legs. Why aren't my thoughts coming from my legs? And does that mean that thoughts arise from the brain ? or from inside the skull ? I will have to inquire deeper but I am having a hard time going past this particular thought. Even Chatgpt says thoughts arise from brain activity. Where do you suggest me taking this inquiry ? What questions should come up next ?

I highly agree. Even tho I have never taken psychedelics or can't claim I have a direct experience of anything. I have exhausted ralston's techniques in the books , meditated and self inquired and haven't gained any grasp of the truth. The question What is ? which you ask when you inquire doesn't make any sense in your normal state of conscious. For example if you ask what is a couch? Your mind will reply " A couch is just a couch you are so dumb to ask this question" , and if you ask " what is the universe ? " it makes no sense , the universe is just that. From a normal state of consciousness these questions do not provoke you to penetrate deep into the present moment and even if you did , you will not penetrate deep enough to grasp anything. At least I'm speaking about my experience. Ralston's techniques have failed Horribly with me and I have tried them a thousand times.

Unfortunately won't be able to come since I am not from the states. However , I find this is a good idea. My advice would be to start with a small sample of 10 people till you are confident with hosting the event. You need some experience so I believe you need to start with a small sample.

Can you please elaborate more on how did you harm yourself ?

@theleelajoker Thanks for your contribution!

Hello Everyone, I've made this post since I can't seem to find a relevant post regarding this using the search function. My question is for you , Did spiritual work diminish your level of empathy ? According to google Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. I see that there is a lack of statistical research regarding this, so I encourage you to share your own personal experience. I'm going to share mine below. According to my experience I feel that spiritual work has made me NOT care , and somehow became aloof. which means my empathy levels have diminished , especially when we say that empathy is sharing the feelings with another. I feel I don't share feelings with other people so much like I used to be before doing spiritual work. So my concern is if spiritual work , has made a direct impact on my ability to share my feelings with others. That doesn't mean I feel like I want to hurt them or any sort of craziness, it just means I feel the bond between me and others are not that strong. I believe that when I detached myself a little bit from my thoughts with meditation, it made a direct impact on my relationships. Still there is an absence of evidence and even statistics that demonstrate that this is true , or if there is a direct correlation between spiritual work & empathy. (Of course I'm a little bit biased about my position) What about you ? How do you feel about your current level of empathy compared to before starting spiritual practices? Are you able to measure it ? Do you see a difference in your personal life ? Since we have chosen that the sample that would answer this question would be a part of the people from the forum , I believe that there will be a margin of error regarding the representation of this data since it doesn't represent the people who don't browse the forum anymore. However I'm curious to hear your answers. Shoot your shots.

For years personal help masters have given their advices on maintaining eye contact, How it is a powerful way to convey confidence and power. This post is quite different, I'm writing to express the power of breaking eye contact, to convey certainty and the power you have over your attention. Here are some scenarios , where breaking eye contact could be useful. break eye contact when you feel the other person is wasting your time break eye contact when the other person tries to mess with your emotions , taking your attention away will benefit you in this case break from eye contact when someone is trying to be sneaky or play a game on you break from eye contact in a situation where you feel your attention is being wasted, by nonsense, this shows you have dominance over your greatest and most valuable currency: Your Attention. Finally , I just want to highlight that breaking from eye contact can be a sign of weakness. But that is not what we are discussing here in that post. This post was about the benefits of breaking from eye contact, How you choose to apply that in your day to day life is up to you. But I just realized lately that breaking from eye contact does not only promote confidence, but dominance as well. When you show the other person you don't have interest when they try to get under your skin, you weaken their ability to dominate you. The more control you have over your attention, the more powerful you become. This was one if not the most valuable lesson I have learned in social interactions. I've never thought that taking your attention away from someone , can make you THAT powerful. hopefully this benefits all of you reading this post. Thanks for reading.

Hello, This post is one of the most interesting post you will see. I'm trying to do the opposite of what actualized.org teaches. I'm trying to quit meditation, I can't. I've tried to lie to myself and follow a belief system , I couldn't. I tried to quit the work several times , but every time I come back to either Actualized.org or Meditating. I'm posting this to ask you how to quit ? and why can't I ? I'm tired of not reaching Awakening, and at the same time being interested in Spirituality. I sit and watch my Breath every day, why do I keep doing it ? I thought like I've chosen this path at conscious will , but it seems now that the path got me in its trap.. I spend everyday at least a while meditating or contemplating about the nature of existence. I don't have problem doing that ,in fact my problem comes entirely from being tied to wasted effort. If I spend this time worrying about my future or my career , wouldn't I be better off ? The problem is I keep coming back to it , I come back to meditating , I observe my thoughts and don't engage with them , i try to contemplate. But at the end I'm not an awakened being , so Why am I wasting all this effort ? Did I choose the path , or did the path choose me ? I don't know. Does anybody suffer from the same problem ? I just want to live like a normal guy , but I can't ! I always come back to meditating , it's a form of addiction to me its embedded to my personality. What do you think my future will be ? Will I reach any kind of spiritual understanding ? Did you ever get stuck like that ? Is this a part of the process ? Sorry for the long rant, I am looking forward to see if someone relates.

I was contemplating today and became aware of something interesting. What if taking the spiritual route is choosing the route of least suffering ? Because maybe ultimately that is the END goal of everyone. But my question is now how is that the right choice to make in our current life. We live in a crazy world, a world full of possibilities. But I see myself here in the forum the last few years taking the route of least suffering. Which means I want to attain the spiritual enlightenment , but that's because I don't want to suffer anymore. The question here is .. in today's world , is that the right choice ? We all have experienced being in a state of deep contemplation, that state is blissful compared to a routinely programmed life. We feel that we suffer less. But what if that choice is not the right choice to do in today's world ? What if the point is to suffer , but find the right logical route to follow? This post is for us to adjust our orientations. Should we choose the route of least suffering ? Or should we Pursue something else? I don't know. At the end of the day , Who knows ?

Thanks for your reply. Just to clarify, my goal here is not to underestimate his value or minimize his worth by any chance, I'm just trying to understand Why Not ? Why not if you have access to a the higher dimension, the dimension of insights. Is he only successful in one sport ? Why didn't he prove himself in other branches and areas of sports as well. The same mechanism that got him an insight into judo , can work to get him an insight into Tennis ? No ? If I had this ability I would go subscribe into the tennis world and Beat Nadal, Federer , Djokovic combined just to prove my point that I can have insights into multiple areas of life. Again , I might be missing something huge here. But I'm still looking for clarification just to understand. Why didn't he do that ?

I have some questions regarding peter ralston and I hope that someone enlightens me. Ralston Claimed and Leo recently quoted that you can save 10-20 years of your life learning something if you just get an insight into its nature. Ralston claimed that this can be achieved if you seriously contemplate into the nature of something specific. So my questions are, if you really possess this ability to gain insights into different fields of life , and your whole goal in life which I assume is Ralston's goal , is to make people reach that. Why wouldn't you go ahead and prove it to people. In other words I mean. Why isn't Ralston now the best rapper in the world ? Why isn't he the best kickboxer in the world? why isn't he the best Tennis player in the world ? Why isn't he the best table tennis player in the world ? why isn't he the best basketball player in the world ? why isn't he the best Golf Player in the world ? What 's stopping him from achieving that. IF I ever possess this ability to get insights into the nature of something , I will do contemplate each day, gain new insights and implement what I learned. and More importantly Prove to people that I'm legitimately a Man with Superpowers. Because I have access to higher intelligence. So my Question is .. Why isn't he proving what he is talking about? Am I missing something here ?