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Unfortunately won't be able to come since I am not from the states. However , I find this is a good idea. My advice would be to start with a small sample of 10 people till you are confident with hosting the event. You need some experience so I believe you need to start with a small sample.

Can you please elaborate more on how did you harm yourself ?

@theleelajoker Thanks for your contribution!

Hello Everyone, I've made this post since I can't seem to find a relevant post regarding this using the search function. My question is for you , Did spiritual work diminish your level of empathy ? According to google Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. I see that there is a lack of statistical research regarding this, so I encourage you to share your own personal experience. I'm going to share mine below. According to my experience I feel that spiritual work has made me NOT care , and somehow became aloof. which means my empathy levels have diminished , especially when we say that empathy is sharing the feelings with another. I feel I don't share feelings with other people so much like I used to be before doing spiritual work. So my concern is if spiritual work , has made a direct impact on my ability to share my feelings with others. That doesn't mean I feel like I want to hurt them or any sort of craziness, it just means I feel the bond between me and others are not that strong. I believe that when I detached myself a little bit from my thoughts with meditation, it made a direct impact on my relationships. Still there is an absence of evidence and even statistics that demonstrate that this is true , or if there is a direct correlation between spiritual work & empathy. (Of course I'm a little bit biased about my position) What about you ? How do you feel about your current level of empathy compared to before starting spiritual practices? Are you able to measure it ? Do you see a difference in your personal life ? Since we have chosen that the sample that would answer this question would be a part of the people from the forum , I believe that there will be a margin of error regarding the representation of this data since it doesn't represent the people who don't browse the forum anymore. However I'm curious to hear your answers. Shoot your shots.

For years personal help masters have given their advices on maintaining eye contact, How it is a powerful way to convey confidence and power. This post is quite different, I'm writing to express the power of breaking eye contact, to convey certainty and the power you have over your attention. Here are some scenarios , where breaking eye contact could be useful. break eye contact when you feel the other person is wasting your time break eye contact when the other person tries to mess with your emotions , taking your attention away will benefit you in this case break from eye contact when someone is trying to be sneaky or play a game on you break from eye contact in a situation where you feel your attention is being wasted, by nonsense, this shows you have dominance over your greatest and most valuable currency: Your Attention. Finally , I just want to highlight that breaking from eye contact can be a sign of weakness. But that is not what we are discussing here in that post. This post was about the benefits of breaking from eye contact, How you choose to apply that in your day to day life is up to you. But I just realized lately that breaking from eye contact does not only promote confidence, but dominance as well. When you show the other person you don't have interest when they try to get under your skin, you weaken their ability to dominate you. The more control you have over your attention, the more powerful you become. This was one if not the most valuable lesson I have learned in social interactions. I've never thought that taking your attention away from someone , can make you THAT powerful. hopefully this benefits all of you reading this post. Thanks for reading.

Hello, This post is one of the most interesting post you will see. I'm trying to do the opposite of what actualized.org teaches. I'm trying to quit meditation, I can't. I've tried to lie to myself and follow a belief system , I couldn't. I tried to quit the work several times , but every time I come back to either Actualized.org or Meditating. I'm posting this to ask you how to quit ? and why can't I ? I'm tired of not reaching Awakening, and at the same time being interested in Spirituality. I sit and watch my Breath every day, why do I keep doing it ? I thought like I've chosen this path at conscious will , but it seems now that the path got me in its trap.. I spend everyday at least a while meditating or contemplating about the nature of existence. I don't have problem doing that ,in fact my problem comes entirely from being tied to wasted effort. If I spend this time worrying about my future or my career , wouldn't I be better off ? The problem is I keep coming back to it , I come back to meditating , I observe my thoughts and don't engage with them , i try to contemplate. But at the end I'm not an awakened being , so Why am I wasting all this effort ? Did I choose the path , or did the path choose me ? I don't know. Does anybody suffer from the same problem ? I just want to live like a normal guy , but I can't ! I always come back to meditating , it's a form of addiction to me its embedded to my personality. What do you think my future will be ? Will I reach any kind of spiritual understanding ? Did you ever get stuck like that ? Is this a part of the process ? Sorry for the long rant, I am looking forward to see if someone relates.

I was contemplating today and became aware of something interesting. What if taking the spiritual route is choosing the route of least suffering ? Because maybe ultimately that is the END goal of everyone. But my question is now how is that the right choice to make in our current life. We live in a crazy world, a world full of possibilities. But I see myself here in the forum the last few years taking the route of least suffering. Which means I want to attain the spiritual enlightenment , but that's because I don't want to suffer anymore. The question here is .. in today's world , is that the right choice ? We all have experienced being in a state of deep contemplation, that state is blissful compared to a routinely programmed life. We feel that we suffer less. But what if that choice is not the right choice to do in today's world ? What if the point is to suffer , but find the right logical route to follow? This post is for us to adjust our orientations. Should we choose the route of least suffering ? Or should we Pursue something else? I don't know. At the end of the day , Who knows ?

Thanks for your reply. Just to clarify, my goal here is not to underestimate his value or minimize his worth by any chance, I'm just trying to understand Why Not ? Why not if you have access to a the higher dimension, the dimension of insights. Is he only successful in one sport ? Why didn't he prove himself in other branches and areas of sports as well. The same mechanism that got him an insight into judo , can work to get him an insight into Tennis ? No ? If I had this ability I would go subscribe into the tennis world and Beat Nadal, Federer , Djokovic combined just to prove my point that I can have insights into multiple areas of life. Again , I might be missing something huge here. But I'm still looking for clarification just to understand. Why didn't he do that ?

I have some questions regarding peter ralston and I hope that someone enlightens me. Ralston Claimed and Leo recently quoted that you can save 10-20 years of your life learning something if you just get an insight into its nature. Ralston claimed that this can be achieved if you seriously contemplate into the nature of something specific. So my questions are, if you really possess this ability to gain insights into different fields of life , and your whole goal in life which I assume is Ralston's goal , is to make people reach that. Why wouldn't you go ahead and prove it to people. In other words I mean. Why isn't Ralston now the best rapper in the world ? Why isn't he the best kickboxer in the world? why isn't he the best Tennis player in the world ? Why isn't he the best table tennis player in the world ? why isn't he the best basketball player in the world ? why isn't he the best Golf Player in the world ? What 's stopping him from achieving that. IF I ever possess this ability to get insights into the nature of something , I will do contemplate each day, gain new insights and implement what I learned. and More importantly Prove to people that I'm legitimately a Man with Superpowers. Because I have access to higher intelligence. So my Question is .. Why isn't he proving what he is talking about? Am I missing something here ?

First of all , thanks for taking the time to respond to the post , really appreciate you. Second thing is , if I am misunderstanding the concept , that's on me or on you ? I have no vehicle to implement the work outside from the words that you are saying. I read your words , your blog and other spiritual teachers. Your word guided me to do practices, at the end it didn't flourish. but the question is that's on who ? because if there is anything more I could've done I would've done it. I did the practice where ralston said you contemplate on what are the sensations of your fingers and not focusing on your thoughts but your active sensory experience. I did that 1000 times. Not one time I've gained any insight. I'm still doing this practice till this day and nothing. I'm just a human chimp, I'm programmed to "think" , Emote, and Respond to what I'm being prompted with from a second to second basis. I tried to dodge this ideas from my mind and focus on the Sensory Experience. Still nothing occurs , I have a limited attention span which won't allow me to focus on something for forever , Who can focus on something for forever ? Which words are you going to choose to guide such a student(me).

Hello, this post is for you leo & I'm sorry to sound disappointing. But your work isn't making impact. neither you nor the other spiritual people like peter ralston and even the Buddha. I've read ralston's book at least 3 - 5 times. It's not working bro.. Trying to explain infinity or god or consciousness or anything like that I've spent a lot of time trying and meditating and doing all sort of things like contemplating and meditating. Bro.. The net effect is negative .. What's the point of this work , if it doesn't help people gain any insight ? I'm still to this day not understanding anything of what you guys are saying.. so what's the point of teaching it ? Maybe it would be better if you decide to live normally like us, eat , sleep , work , repeat at least you will be more relatable to people around you. I've read ralston's book several times and man , I can't tell you how much i tried to dodge the obstacles the book is pointing at. I sat staring at the sky for hours trying to get to the "EXPERIENCE" ralston is talking about.. it's just not working.. so my question for you now is why do you guys keep leading people for this work even tho it's not going to work for most people.. and even worse it is going to be interpreted in the wrong way.. what's the point and I don't have access to psychedelics. I've read too many of your blog posts and still I'm not getting ANYTHING. Even worse I get the wrong thing each time I read because I don't have any sort of experience to relate to. So What is the Point why don't you decide to give it up and call it a day and live by any other moto than trying to explain to people the unexplainable. As it is not working for me I believe it is not working for millions of other people wasting their time to reach the "IMPOSSIBLE". We don't have access to psychedelics it is not sold in the store. So unless it becomes for sale to the public anywhere in the world we can debate whether your work is worth it or not. At the end , I apologize for sounding disappointing to you. But I'm a reflection to you Leo.. Your work.. I had huge will to figure out what you were pointing at.. and Failed.. which means your work isn't allowing a Person from reaching anything other than confusion. I don't blame you on anything. But you should question your work.. it's not reflecting.. it's not making people's eyes open but in contrary , it's making us more confused and at the end reaching nothing. Especially Peter ralston.. who wrote a huge book I read from the heart I swear.. and at the end after doing all the practices in the book.. life didn't reveal to me anything. Disappointing.

@Buck Edwards Thanks for sharing

@Buck Edwards There was a time in my life where talking with these people has caused me to feel judged, social judgement so to speak. Even tho it was their best intentions it still came about to me as judgment. That is the best I can put into words. Do you think that can help free me ?

Hello Everybody, This is a seriously interesting post. I've been experiencing the emotion of hate a lot whenever I encounter some specific people. I've been so patient with this emotion as a spiritual practice, but I'm afraid my reserve of patience reaches its end. When will I be Free ? I am an experienced in meditation Person that till now has not realized what people talk about to be Onnes , Love , God .. Etc even tho I've been very patient with the whole process. I think about seriously giving up. Every time I meet these specific Person or People , I witness the emotion of Hate, or a form of suffering. I keep witnessing it and witnessing it , Hoping that one day the Door will open and I would realize what spiritual teachers have Promised. Do I Consider Give Up? If I do give up I will leave a room to manipulate my emotions and make these experiences less painful. Did anybody experience Phenomenons similar to these ? Did you ever become Seriously Free ? Have you ever been trapped before in Hating someone? What would you advice me in this situation ? Still a part of me is not allowing me to give up.. I can not turn a blind eye on this somehow. But feeling stuck is the worst part, especially with such a painful emotion. Seriously Who would ever like to hate someone ? Before you mention it .. I considered questioning my assumptions regarding hate. I'm seriously doing the work. But still.. Stuck in that.

@Hojo maybe that’s also part of it