Roy

Before Enlightenment - Chop wood, carry water. After Enlightenment - Chop wood, carry water. Whether you pursue it or not it won't matter anyways. It comes full circle and you'll always end up where you started. That leaves you with but one thing to do - live your life

Well, that may say more about them as people, or you might have done something wrong. Regardless, that's all in the past now. This mentality you have towards women is not a good one. Consider taking a step back from dating in order to re-frame your relationship to the other sex. Try to limit (or stop) all your exposure to modern dating culture and media. It is just reinforcing toxic ideas in your mind. Perceptions can be changed, but you need to be willing to fight back against your ego. All it wants to do is stay in homeostasis by continuing to judge women. Spend the next week observing and noticing your thoughts in this matter. Anytime they arise, just pay attention to their existence. How do they make you feel? Don't worry too much about changing them right now. Just get good at noticing them.

@Chumbimba You gotta drop ALL the labels right now if you want get anywhere man. They may feel good to say now, but they will hold you back. You have to realize that most people aren't really motivated to be authentic all the time, a lot of those girls are putting up "hoe" pictures simply because of peer pressure. They are doing it cause that's what their friends are doing. Once again you simply never know until you meet them in person. I'll give you the example of my own relationship. Her profile said "feminist activist" and had pictures of her at rallies and all that. I didn't think in a million years I'd date a feminist. I thought it would never work and we would clash on politics and that I would be too "logical" for her. But I gave it a chance........ Fast forward 1.5 years we are now living together, have excellent communication, and never get in fights about anything. We adore being together as much as possible. See what I could have missed if I let judgement have control?

Online dating is brutal as a male if you don't have model caliber looks, still there are some things you can do to help even the odds. - Spam swipe right and match with as many people as the apps will allow you to. It doesn't matter if you'd never date most of the people. You can always sort through it after. It's important to cast as wide a net as possible to increase your chances of landing an actual date. It's simply a numbers game. You need to be talking to as MANY girls as possible, even if conversations hit dead ends, which many will. Don't take it personally. If you want to get good at chatting up women........ you guessed it - you need to chat up a LOT of women. - You need to take your profile seriously. They will have no idea how awesome you really are from just your profile, it's all surface appearance online. You might be this "cool self actualizing dude with all these cool ideas and views about the world", they won't know ANY of that shit if they don't swipe to match with you. Make your profile quirky, interesting, and mysterious, but don't reveal too much that will make you seem too invested. You need to withhold stuff to get a conversation flowing later. Don't post egoic "bro" pics. Women hate that shit. On Tinder books are judged by their cover, so don't look like that douche-bag with his shirt off beside all his frat friends, or holding up a severed deer head and rifle in the woods. You want to have wholesome pictures of you with your close friends and family, and doing hobbies you enjoy. Show that you are an active person with things that keep you busy in life. Nobody wants to date a boring person. If you don't have the pics to make this kind of profile, go out and get those pictures. If you want results, you gotta take responsibility. Consider looking up guides on profile creation or some cheap coaching for modern dating. It can help a lot. - Very important point. Don't fuck around talking endlessly. Women will never ask you out 99% of the time. The ball is in your court. Once you start chatting and you notice a bit of a spark, simply ask her out on a simple fun date. Women love it when they see decisiveness in a man. Once you talk to a good number of girls you'll start to know the right time to ask is, but even if the language of the conversation isn't steering towards it. It works to just be blunt sometimes and say, "hey you are interesting, you are pretty, want to go do X?" Hope this helps cheers - Roy

Don't "choose". There is no right or wrong answer. Simply embrace your sexuality as it comes to you, naturally. Whatever it happens to be. All of the thoughts of shame, guilt, and confusion are cultural conditioning dictating what you "should" or "should not" do with your body. How absurd! You can deconstruct those thoughts and realize they are just egos trying to control other egos because of fear of the "other", or what they may have in themselves.

thank you @Villager Albert @RawJudah Any tips for quitting coffee? I'm addicted as fuck, been drinking it almost daily since April of 2011. I've gone without it for many days/weeks before but it's so ingrained within me. Like I can physically go without it and not have withdrawal, but mentally I'm like "my day would be more awesome if i had a coffee right now" lol

Although I don't necessarily agree with all the content and messages of some of the people that have been censored over the years. I can sympathize with their positions. YouTube, Google, Facebook, and other big tech companies are practically public utilities by all metrics, it would be intellectually dishonest to argue otherwise. Therefore they have a larger (but mostly unspoken) obligation to abide by certain freedom of speech laws of whatever countries they are operating in. It's a huge problem that they can completely crush peoples livelihoods because they don't feel the need to shore up extremely vague guidelines, or because it goes against their political affiliations. Most of which are clearly liberal/left leaning because they are based in silicon valley. It's just a power game that needs to be balanced a bit better, at least the European Union is doing something about it to protect their democracies. America on the other hand is in full fucking meltdown lol.

I know you just asked for Leo but an overall effective way to improve speaking skill is to watch a LOT of different speakers online and reading books from many authors. TED Talks and non-fiction books are great resources. Hearing all the variety of ways people use your language in written and oral settings will subconsciously imprint and develop a well rounded idea in your brain of how to speak. You'll notice your vocabulary becoming more diverse and your articulation will flow better without so much thinking about what you're going to say.

Because they sound cool and mysterious and make you feel like you have things figured out. Like most things people believe in them because it makes them feel good.

Don't necessarily need them.

Leo has obviously thought about this himself, and how he wants to portray his message and content. It looks like he has opted for not really filtering his language or putting huge disclaimer sections in the videos (though it would probably do them some good, it's not like the videos are short anyways lol). It's just the way he's chosen to go about it. I know people may not like it but let's be honest, it's doubtful it's going to change unless there is some kind of serious drama or backlash, but even that is unlikely because he's insulated himself from the world pretty heavily. It all comes down to the individual - are you getting value out of the content and is it working for you? Depending on the answer to that question you either leave or stick around.

Strive for higher and higher standards and expose the corruption where it exists. That's the point of any great documentary, to raise awareness. Without awareness, change isn't possible.

Here is an answer most people aren't humble enough to give; I don't know.

What's even more sad is now all the environmentalists and leftists going after him trying to get the film banned for making "green" energy look bad. https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2020/apr/28/climate-dangerous-documentary-planet-of-the-humans-michael-moore-taken-down This is a great example of what Leo talked about with collective egos, if a leader or person in the group exposes the rot and hypocrisy or is too developed past the group they ostracize and burn them at the stake.

Here is an example of TOXIC Orange. If you skip to 21:46 in the video you can see this new young entrepreneur come up with a bunch of rationalizations and reasons to justify another online pyramid scheme that uses predatory tactics. The whole video is him getting confronted on this but he's always giving the good PR answer or twists his way around the accusations.

The fact you are only 23 and have tried all these different things should be a good indicator to you that you are much closer to discovering what you want to do than you think. You know what places NOT to look now, this is a tremendous time saver and puts you ahead of the majority of people in your age group. Realize the pressure, hopelessness, and guilt you feel from not having it all figured out already is just bullshit cultural conditioning. There is nothing wrong with living a nomadic sort of lifestyle. You are doing a lot of work discovering who you are, be proud of that Austin

Polarization is such a plague these days, ugh. Why is it always love or hate for every teacher? Nobody cares what you think about Jordan Peterson. Just take what lessons you can and leave the rest.

You seem to be taking it remarkably well, but still I hope you get your freedom back soon. Love you!

I'd still be inclined to say MMA, UFC, or football are more dangerous, but yea I wouldn't want to get smacked by most of those big Russian dudes lol. I find stuff like this really interesting. It goes to show you just what lengths humans will go to to express their creativity. I mean a community and league around turning slapping into a sport?!?!?! That's random as hell and awesome! Everything in the world at some point will be turned into a bustling community of some kind. It's like infinite expression.

Great exercise I like it! It should be obvious to most people though that Spiral Dynamics is too painfully simplistic a model to give an accurate view of people and the world. Too many people in this community throw this thing around as if it can explain everything and can get just generally dismissive of everything else. Even Leo is guilty of this intellectual laziness sometimes.

Now that's a healthy relationship, good on you.

With the coronavirus pandemic going on, obviously we are going through an unprecedented once in a lifetime event. It has massively changed, halted, or sadly ended a lot of peoples lives, and it's clearly not over yet. Naturally with all this disruption and seemingly negative impact it's having on the world economy, people are upset and looking for someone or something to blame. Considering the viruses geographic origins, a lot of that blame is being placed on China. Of course it did originate in China, and there are a lot of reports and speculation about how it could have been contained better or stopped right there, but did not because of negligence and corruption. That may very well be true. Regardless and in spite of what evidence may upend itself now or in the future, I want to issue a sort of spiritual challenge to everyone. I want you to love China, the Chinese people, and their government. Express compassion, kindness, and understanding even if it goes against your gut and your mind. If you see any anti-Chinese sentiment, don't argue with it, don't participate in it. Simply notice it, absorb it, then be counter-intuitive and do what no one expects put your love for China out to the world. Also happy birthday @Leo Gura, thanks for all your hard work and insights. I appreciate and love you!

No please stay @belen! If ever there has been a good reason to derail a conversation a horny woman is it! haha jk

I'm a guy and I've had instances of multiple orgasms before. It's extremely rare though. What I would give for some consistency...........

It affects the sexual marketplace for sure. Most men will have sex with anything that has legs or a pulse, while women are much more selective. This is not only true scientifically but it's anecdotally obvious as well. This causes imbalances where many statistics indicate that women are the "gatekeepers of sex" you could say, because there is excessive demand for sex (from the male side), and women control the supply (because it's their right to say no). I don't think this is necessarily a problem like many Red Pill sexists would have you believe. The "dissatisfaction" is mostly self imposed. Of course there is the biological wiring factor, but still young men need to be educated better on how to control their urges and respect women in healthier ways, and also taught that despite what our toxic culture would have you believe, sex is pretty low on the fulfillment chart on life. Once you have a lot of sex you realize while it can be really fun, it's not all it's hyped up to be. There are way cooler things in life.