aurum

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  1. @Torkys I've chosen to live by higher consciousness values because it makes me happy and fulfilled. It's honestly quite selfish.
  2. @Vipassana Two really tough habits to maintain, you're going to be challenged for sure. I don't have any hacks to making them easier. You basically just have to plow through on brute force willpower. And if / when you fall off, understand that is part of the process and get back on it asap.
  3. @Keepmovingforward Millionaire Booklet by Grant Cardone. Simple, entertaining and gets to the point. But they're all amazing reads.
  4. @Adam M Occasionally I'll jump around if I make the decision that a book really just isn't worth pursuing. But usually I like to go all the way with one book at a time. It's a principle thing of finishing a job once you start it.
  5. And where's your investment into the educational system? Instead of speculating, criticizing and judging Musk, why don't you focus on becoming a billionaire like him so you can donate the money how you think makes sense?
  6. @DocHoliday Nice little trick to gain more mindfulness. The camera analogy definitely works well in modern times.
  7. @Charlotte My guy reaction is to say you're no longer attracted to this guy. Would you say you've maybe lost some respect for him as well?
  8. @F A B It could, it could not. It's not that simple. Realize that there's many different guys who do good with women and many different ways of going about it. So what that means is that there must be underlying principles that explain what is happening. Start seeking out the principles of attraction rather than trying to figure out what to do in every single scenario. That's what my last response was saying. Instead of asking "is it unattractive if I do X", ask yourself "what is a girl's experience like? What makes her attracted to some guys and not others?". Keep asking yourself this until you realize there's more to attraction than what is going on the surface.
  9. It's to shift what you're focusing on about him. If you do that, many of these problems will fall away.
  10. @K VIL You know it! @Nahm It's something David Deida talks about, I've found it really accurate. Many women don't express their full feminine side in a relationship because on some level they feel they can't. They don't have a man that supports it. When you're off your purpose or off your center, that makes her feel like she can't trust you to lead the relationship. She doesn't feel safe. So what does she do? She becomes more masculine to compensate. She can't surrender to you, because if she surrenders to you, you're gonna crash the fucking boat. It's really ugly when this happens. This is where you sometimes start to see bitchy, nagging girlfriends and wives. So you allow her to let go into her femininity by handling the masculine role. That means being on your purpose, setting boundaries and giving direction. You definitely should read The Way of the Superior Man. It's 10/10 for sure when it comes to this stuff.
  11. Get a feminine girlfriend. She'll bring that energy around you all the time if you know how to open her up. You can also development more of that in yourself by doing things like yoga or any other spiritual practice.
  12. @Omario Let me ask the same question a different way. Who constantly makes you angry? I'm asking this because inferiority is just the flip side of superiority. If you think you're worse than someone, you must also think you're better than someone.
  13. @Buba My gut reaction is to say you're trying to do too much at once. Pick one of those habits and start with that. I suggest meditation.
  14. @Omario You turn it around by becoming conscious of the fact that no one is better or worse than anyone. He's a tough question: who in your life do you feel superior to? Tell the truth.
  15. @thehero Don't talk about personal development with people who aren't into it. It's not your job to help them if they don't want it. Also, I'm giving you a homework assignment. For the next week, write five different things you like about this guy every night.
  16. @F A B I'm going to pick on you a bit and say that your question is way too broad. I've made out with girls without even talking and I've made out with girls after a long period of getting to know each other. There's really no hard and fast rule here. Here's some better questions: 1) What is attraction and what is the cause of it? 2) How do I know when a girl is feeling attracted to me? 3) What do women think about sex? If you answer these questions, you'll have the answer to your original question and more.
  17. @Frank B Do you pay yourself first? In other words, do you take a percentage of your income every month and put it away for savings first, before you pay your bills? If not, that's the quickest solution. But it's actually harder than you think because there's all sorts of psychological issues when it comes to money. Re: I'd also make a formal budget if you don't have one already. And then once you have it, STICK TO THE BUDGET. Must-Read-Books: - Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv Eker - It's Not About The Money by Brent Kessell - Millionaire Booklet by Grant Cardone - Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki - Millionaire Fastlane by MJ DeMarco I also saw that @Keepmovingforward recommended Money, Master The Game by Tony Robbins. That's definitely a good book, but not if you're poor and want to be wealthy soon. That book is good if you're wealthy and want to stay wealthy.
  18. @OhHiMark Nothing else to do but learn what to do better in the future and then move on. There's always another job, even if it means you don't get to be on vacation 24/7 while the rest of us work
  19. @Leo-Tzu Yes to all. He had me write down three names (of deceased relatives) and three questions I want answered on a tiny index card. Then I signed the card, folded it up and gave it to him. He got all three names and three questions I wanted answered. Then for the next half hour continued to channel these entities. He also told me things that were shockingly accurate to my life. Things I can't explain how he would know. I also have an distant aunt who is an outspoken medium / psychic that lives in LA. Since the start of my own awakening, we've started to connect a lot more. As far as alternative healing, I've looked a lot into Reiki and just recently got trained in it. It definitely helps people.
  20. @h inandout I'm reading Unscripted by MJ DeMarco (10/10 book) and he had a couple great points on this. 1) Your passion can get killed by making it a job. When it's your source of livelihood, it becomes something you have to do. And no one wants to do anything they have to do, no matter what it is. 2) Passion comes from positive feedback. Sure, we'd all like to imagine that we're enlightened beings that don't need external rewards. But that's not reality. Reality is that external rewards help generate passion. When I see a comment on YouTube telling me how my content is changing their life, that fires me up and reminds me that what I'm doing is important. 3) Jobs can sometimes be a place of training / discovering your life purpose. Many entrepreneurs started at a job they were probably less passionate about and then broke off when the time was right.
  21. @Hardkill It's not "either / or". The winning formula is mass approach AND analyzing what you're doing. If you're just mass approaching and not self-reflecting, you'll improve, but you'll make a ton of the same mistakes over and over again. Your growth will be slower than necessary. If you're just self-reflecting, you're not getting the tangible experiences you need to develop those social skills. That would have never worked for me. When I was hitting it hard, it wouldn't be uncommon for me to approach 20-30 girls a night. I see a lot of new guys in pickup. The guys who get good are usually the guys who just embrace the fact they're going to have to approach a ton. The guys who never get better are the guys still going out 1-2x week and do three approaches. Sure, once you've already got good game and a solid social circle, 20-30 girls a week would be more than enough. But that's not the level where you're at. You're at the bottom. And it's okay if you're at the bottom. But that means you're going to need a different strategy than guys who are a bit ahead of you.
  22. @Malelekakis That is definitely a freedom of yours to indulge in. However, should the dream ever turn into a nightmare, I'd conjecture that you'd start considering waking up.
  23. @NoSelfSelf Disclaimer, I can't see auras (yet ) but the guy I learned reiki from taught me how to do it. What he said was to squint your eyes slightly and look right above the persons shoulder. If you keep looking, you should see a kinda grayish haze coming off. Don't be looking for anything crazy, it's subtle.
  24. @benny I dabbled in it while in college, basically just using the stuff I was learning on girls at frat parties. But I really started to take it seriously when I was 23. Took me about 6-8 months from there to get to a point where I started to consider myself good. And I was hitting it hard, usually out every single night. If you're wondering if it was worth it, the answer is absolutely. Game is this awesome combination of fun + learning and growth. I'd do it all again.