rNOW

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  1. Books have influenced me immensely. There are some very few ones which I could go on reading and rereading and recommending to everyone I know. So I am curious to know if you have any such books on your shelf. Making this thread to collect and share recommendations for the best of our encounters with books. A) How many books have you read over the past 5 years? B) List top three that have influenced you and why Beginning with my own response: A) 150+ approximately B) (1) Conversations with God, Book 1, By Neale Donald Walsch because it made me realize I had collected so many false belief systems when reality is beyond all beliefs. (2) The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer because it showed me I'm living my life in contradiction, wanting it to be passionate and intense whilst simultaneously being afraid of passion and intensity on the other hand. Also it offers meditations after each chapter that are very effective. (3) A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle because it gave me a clear understanding of what an ego is and how it operates my mind and my life.
  2. I'm curious, if anyone who works in an industry that is seemingly an opposite from path of spirituality, something that thrives on consumerism, how do you blend the two? Or how do you keep them separate and why? How do you navigate through the conflict of values? I'd like to hear your story or if you know of anyone who's done that. For example, someone working in the fashion industry, coming up with an idea of long lasting fabrics and setting a trend of wearing the same thing over and over again as a fashion statement, and yet making monetary profit off it? I know of many people who keep it separate, but I'd really like to know if anyone has blended it well together.
  3. So I've been exercising and eating well for a couple of years, also intermittent fasting. However, none of this was a conscious choice. I could say I just started craving healthy foods and eating less as a result of exercising (?). I have zero desire to touch ice- creams and processed sugars of any kind. I had been feeling really good about my health, until now. Recently, I have been having weird cravings, of healthy food, but they are weird because I cannot seem to let go the urge to eat them. Or skip them. For example, I had to eat khichri (A very healthy mix of boiled rice and lentils) for 6 days in a row. Still have that often, like 3 times a week. Recently it is ghee (clarified butter). I want to put it in anything and everything. This same ghee which used to make me nauseous earlier. It's weird because I cannot seem to control it. Just like earlier I used to crave unhealthy foods, now I crave, really crave healthy foods, but I'm afraid it will go out of control or something? Rationally I know I need to have some variations, but I cannot seem to let it go until I've had the same thing enough for a few days in a row. People around me are going crazy because I cook for them and they get to have the same thing that I eat . Anyone experiences such cravings? If yes, how long they last or don't last? Or how to navigate through them?
  4. I do get this feeling of 'heat flowing out' from one sole or one palm or one ear ringing for a few seconds, and then it stops. Happens randomly but most noticeably when I'm not doing anything in particular or when my mind is calmer. I am not sure if it is some sort of Kundalini symptom or just something wrong with me. Either way, it doesn't feel bad so I try not to take it seriously.
  5. I find music in 'loops' useful for certain types of tasks, but anything that requires my full attention, I prefer doing it without any music. It just so happens that if you really focus on the task at hand, you won't even notice the music, so then there's no point of it. But if you need it, say to keep yourself awake or do some creative tasks (as opposed to intellectual tasks), I suggest you check out a channel called 'Meditative Mind' on YouTube.
  6. @Alex bAlex Yeah Litres of black coffee plus RedBull plus caffeine tablets, to keep myself awake I drink all kinds of tea, even find that some with caffeine have a calming effect, it just depends on the blend. Mainly I like mild flavours, even if black/green tea. I think tea has a lot less caffeine compared to coffee, so it helps. But I bet it is as easy to get addicted to tea as to coffee, I used to be earlier.
  7. Lived alone for 9 years, but I'm usually a solitude loving person so it was a welcome move for me. I've concluded that you learn a lot about the world when you live alone and learn a lot about yourself when you live with people. So if I have one advice, though, is to build some neighborhood connections, people whom you can contact in emergencies. It sucks when you're sleeping alone in your apartment, well over midnight and your room is flooded because the balcony pipe is jammed with concrete, your mattress is wet and you wake up not knowing what the hell just happened or where to begin asking for help. Then there is a time when thieves break in and hide behind curtains. OR when the bathroom gutter back-flows bringing a swarm of flying cockroaches in the living room. OR when your stove gives out mid-cooking while having someone over for dinner. Or when you have to clean the ceiling fan. Or when you meet with an accident and cannot walk. And such other tiny struggles, nothing much else. And one more: Try to be alone, really alone: without your phone or TV or anything to distract you from your own thoughts.
  8. Writing this as a 33 year old: Never done parties, drugs, or alcohol, not out of reverence for spirituality or morality, but because I had different interests. Twenties went in being depressed and one failed relationship. I've had moments where I used to feel I'm missing out in life, but here's the truth when it finally struck- you cannot miss out from your own life. You can only miss out from what an average person defines as life. Your life is your definition. Same about success, relationships, careers, etc. Set your own definitions, and change them when it doesn't suit you anymore. Nothing is boxed in life. You're never too late for it, nor too early. Now when I meet my friends, which is very rare, most of them are married, have a stable career, kids, etc, I sense I'm lagging behind. Or am I? How can I miss the life I do not want? I have great health, peace of mind (mostly), and I'm in love with the way I live. A lot of people laugh at me, make sarcastic comments, and so on. So? That's the life they choose. Do I regret my 20s? Nope. I used to regret them when I was not aware where it was leading me. When you realize the purpose your regrets serve you, they cease to be regrets anymore and become reflections instead. You might have heard the saying, "People regret things they didn't do more than the things they did." I find this very incomplete and untrue. I find people regret things that they did or did not do 'in fear'. So missing out is 'fear'. Try not to do anything out of fear. Choose love and truth instead, whatever it may be for you.
  9. I work in a creative field. Coffee is useful to meet deadlines, in keeping myself forcefully awake beyond normal human waking capability. I've been awake 6 days straight once- do not recommend. Coffee also makes me highly anxious and jittery. So I have tea instead. Tea is calming and soothing. My best ideas come when I'm relaxed not when I'm hunting for ideas or trying to meet deadlines. So then I decided to keep coffee for rare occasions. When I think of people who are extremely creative, I can only think of kids or adults who have learned to remain kids. Ever seen a kid need coffee to be creative? I think the most important thing for creativity is to lose your mind (mental chatter, judgments of right and wrong, good and bad, etc.)
  10. I have this persistent acne problem since years. Saw doctors and took medicines, nothing. One thing is clear though. I once went without sugar for 3 months. the acne disappeared. Here's my personal list of what causes me acne: 1. Sugar - processed white sugar or any products containing it. Brown sugar or unprocessed sugar in limited amounts doesn't. 2. Cold milk or cream of any kind. Warm unsweetened milk in small quantity doesn't. 3. Very spicy packaged snacks. Homemade spicy food doesn't cause acne. 4. Anything with preservatives. So I try to avoid all the four.
  11. - A physiotherapist can suggest proper exercises. Do them for the rest of your life. - If you are still working on the computer, use a high back chair so your neck and head have full support. - Make sure the center of the computer screen is at your eye level. Check out basic ergonomics for using a computer.
  12. I'm looking for business book recommendations specifically aimed at artists, designers, musicians, or anyone in a creative field. A lot of business books I find are largely written by people who have built large companies and even though there are lessons to be learned from that, I do not relate to it. Would appreciate any books/blogs or videos by other creatives who talk about business side of things. Also any books/stories about combining two or more distinct passions into a unique life story. Thanks much!
  13. BOOKS: 1. The art of communicating- by Thich Nhat Hanh 2. Difficult conversations: Sheila Heen and Douglas Stone
  14. Hypothetically, if your were moving to an island to live alone for a few years, and you were allowed to carry only one book with you, which book would you choose and why?
  15. I'm not sure of scientific data. I follow my experience. I drink tea/coffee without milk or sugar. And I had problems falling asleep for years. I was addicted to green tea, used to drink about a litre of it a day. Now down to maybe 300-400 ml. And stopped drinking it in the evenings. Black coffee raises my anxiety now, I get jittery and irritated and annoyed with minute things. So I avoid it. Tea I find calming. And I try not to drink it out of habit.
  16. Does anyone experience this kind of conversations in your head without chemicals? From my own experience, into over 2 years of rigorous journaling, I often find answers to my questions in a voice that that isn't my own. Sure it comes from my head, I write it down with my own hands, but it is weird and I can tell that some of it isn't in my own knowledge. This voice or whatever it is, has accurately predicted my grandfather's death, times of someone going or coming and other minor things. However, it doesn't answer questions that don't relate to my life and people in my life. I'm not sure why. It goes blank when I ask something regarding people I do not know or have little to do with. Also recently the voice has been up and clear even when I'm not writing in my journal, but just in general. The thing that is required is for my mind to be completely calm and present in whatever I'm doing. I like to paint, but most of my art is usually repetitive from something I've done or seen before and this time I decided to 'ask' this voice to help me draw. The paintings that followed are really abstract and pretty, but make no sense to me. But I can clearly state where my mind interfered with this voice and that's what blotched the paintings. I don't claim to know what this voice is: I've asked it, and the reply was, "Why do you want to know? Focus on what matters." Once I asked "How many people/voices are these?", as they tend to keep changing from singular to plural and different tones. The reply was, "This is beyond your understanding. You will know when you are ready."
  17. Read this somewhere - it's like everyone is a toddler. Toddlers love playing with toys, but as they grow. they outgrow those toys as and when they find better ones. So if you find something more interesting than 'looks', you automatically lose interest in 'looks'. I believe a high-consciousness person doesn't care about how they look, but they do care about their health, and that is automatically reflected in their looks, lifestyle and clothing choices.
  18. So I watched Leo's video on body awareness/relaxation and applied the technique. It is amazing and very relaxing. BUT, weird things started happening. One such thing is - I notice that I wake up while still being asleep, as in mind awake, body asleep. Often times, I 'see' things in my room. The most prominent things in my room are the ceiling fan, the AC and the window and I happen to see them with my eyes closed in this mind-awake-body-asleep state. It doesn't seem like a dream, because they are exactly in the same location as I see them from my sleeping position. I could also read the temperature on the AC and then confirmed it when I 'woke up'. Another time in this state, I was staring at the window and thought I need to turn my head and the window turned along with my head, but I couldn't move my physical head because I was probably in this sleep-paralysis state. This usually lasts only a few seconds before I realize that my eyes are actually closed and then I freak out and start rationalizing it - "How in the world is this possible", or "AM I GOING BLIND OR CRAZY OR BOTH?" And that is when I break out of this state and wake up. Now I've heard of people who can see with their eyes blindfolded but that is a voluntary choice they can exercise while being awake, but this seems to be different? I do not think I consciously choose it, it just happens when I sleep after being extremely exhausted. Is this 'normal'?
  19. @Phoenixx Yeah, you may be right, it usually when I'm exhausted, but I'm not sure if it's a lucid dream? I am not aware that I'm dreaming. I am aware that I'm 'awake'. I've tried thinking of people, places or things, and I don't get magically transferred there. Also I don't see any random things or lights or entities. I just see prominent things in my room and the ceiling, not even the details. The timing of the day is messed up and I cannot say what time of the day it is, l usually very different when I wake up. I'm also sure that my eyes are closed as I like to cover my eyes to get pitch blackness when I rest. The only difference I can say between thoughts/imagination/dreams and this type of vision is that the thoughts/imagination/dreams seem to occur at the back of my head (physically) and this visual thing is right in front of my eyes, like 1 mm from my forehead.
  20. Okay I apologize for this title. But I'm not sure how else to phrase it. Have you ever been in a phase where everything you do matters, and doesn't matter both at the same time? This has been on my mind for a few days now and it needs some clarity. So there seems to be some shift in my value system, and the tasks that I used to put off, and the tasks that I used to look forward to, both have become leveled somehow. I'm not sure if this is a form of non-reactiveness or numbness to situations. It doesn't feel bad to be in this mode, but it doesn't feel good either. It is more or less 'bland'. I used to be highly sensitive earlier, sad things used to make me cry, now it doesn't. Sure I'm sad, but it's 'okay-sad' and 'okay-happy' when I'm happy. It's like my expression of my emotions have gone down. Also I seem to have no real goals in life now. I do have short term goals, or personal development goals or even an idea of the direction I want my life to go. But I'm fine if it doesn't go that way; either-way, I'm fine if I die tomorrow. More like I've lost the willingness to 'struggle' and it doesn't 'feel like a struggle'- both at the same time. (I'm not depressed. I've known that state up closely years ago, this is different.) This has come about a year after I had a fall-out with someone I used to be close with. I found myself being very resentful towards this person, and so I started observing my resentments and wishing them well instead whenever I encountered them. This said person often lies and manipulates people around them and it used to bother me a lot, especially when someone else was their 'victim'. However, now I feel it's not my battle to pick and it doesn't bother me anymore. I've learned to practice being non-reactive around this person. Is this what is spilling around in other areas of my life even where this person is not concerned or is it numbness? Because I do not want to become insensitive to everything and I've been in that phase before, but this time it seems more 'final' that I cannot seem to want to go back. Anyone with the similar experiences or have some insights?
  21. @Yog Sorry for the delay. Here's the video I was talking about- It has a small exercise in the beginning. Though I tried the exercise after watching this video when I was extremely exhausted. Possibly my experience has to do much with exhaustion as my mind is on very low capacity to think, and it doesn't really work when I am not exhausted. I believe could be OBE, I don't know, but I am still facing the same things I am facing when I am laying down. So I'm not really flying about, except it happened once. Even I can confirm with the blindfold, these visions, specifically come about when I have my eyes covered and not when they are easy to open and they flutter a lot before I can start 'seeing' the surroundings.
  22. @Truth Addict Thanks, yeah possibly, it has been a few days and I seem to be going back to getting sucked in the emotional drama around me, but maybe it comes in phases.
  23. I don't consider myself frugal, but I try to align everything to whatever I'm working on at the moment. For example: I need to work on a certain project. For the project to progress in the best possible manner, what should I be eating, drinking, wearing, reading, watching? When I started doing this, I realized how much of time I was wasting in maintaining my long hair of 20 years. It had to go. So it's gone now. Everything you own or consume is either fuel or a waste of time. So the next time you are exchanging money for anything, ask yourself is this fuel for my project or a waste.
  24. I've learned that everything I've learned needs to be unlearned and relearned over and over again.
  25. Sleep on a firm sponge pillow. Don't sleep without a pillow and don't sleep on too large or fluffy pillows. The pillow should be the exact thickness that is the gap between your head and your back when you are standing upright. It's 1.5- 2 inches at most. Sleep on the back and if you need to sleep sideways, then you need to add extra pillow because now the gap is increased. However, try to use firm material and not fluffy ones. (I couldn't find an appropriate pillow in the market, so I just bought a piece of sponge with right density, cut it to size and put it in a pillow cover). I know a few exercise that my physiotherapist taught me when I suffered the neck ache. But you may need to consult a qualified physiotherapist to recommend which ones are for you. My physiotherapist also mentioned that eating too much of fermented food causes spasms. So avoid that and drink hot/ lukewarm water instead of cold beverages. Also avoid chickpeas, kidney beans and other 'hard to digest' foods.