Shadowraix

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  2. Posted

    3 hours ago, Barry J said:

    People don’t know what is up and what is down. People are deluded. 99.99% of people are walking zombies. 

    So why the fuck does it matter if they pick Buddhism over any other non dual teaching? 

     

    Well, I never said it mattered. Leo only argued about the general tendency of Buddhist teachings and notice he promoted more integral teachings. This post is about Buddhism so it makes sense to address about specific cautions and criticisms about Buddhism but you seemed to take that as some exclusion to other teachings.

    15 minutes ago, Emanyalpsid said:

    @Barry J there is almost no point in trying to get through to them, meaning non-duality believers. They strayed to far from reality, dismissing everything that is real. As they fully believe that their subjective world is the real world, that they created everything. Can't come back from believing you are god. :)

    Buddhism is different then non-duality though. In Buddhism they see that the ego creates a duality, but they don't see that it stands on itself. They see, through observations, that it is of dependent origin. 

    You sound like me when I transitioned from Christianity to Atheism. 

    Its very simple: Distinction creates dualities and so on. So its as subjective as morality. So really as a whole all you have is just everything as one thing. aka nonduality. Our "creator" is the most fundamental form/substance of everything. That is what those on the nondual path often defines as God which therefore makes you it. Separating you and God is nothing but a distinction you create.

  4. Posted · Edited by Shadowraix

    @eleveneleven On point. I acknowledged myself as polyamorous because I realized that I only thought I could love one person deeply at a time because society told me thats how relationships work. I eventually had the realization that I am fully capable of loving multiple people. That prior I was holding some form of ownership and expectations from them.

    I am currently in a monogamous relationship because I really do love my partner, but I am aware at some point feeling tied down to arbitrary rules will bite me in the ass.

    Sexual ownership in my case came from my desire to feel important by being the only person she'd want.

  5. Posted

    In the same way a person can call nondualists delusional, others can call Christians delusional, atheists delusional and so on.

    I can say Jesus was a nondualist, you can argue against it. There are explanations to both sides. Although cultures throughout history has expressed ideas that align with the nondual path in their own way. 

    Taking the nondual path isn't escaping reality at all. If anything it is the opposite. We often try to escape reality in our own idealized version of it. The nondual path often leads people to accepting reality. To bite the bitter pill and accept the harsh truths of it.

    I side that rules stated in the Bible was made for the people of that time to keep the unconscious masses in check since they needed rules to suppress themselves. At the end of the day pushing some divine form of good/evil is a reflection of who we are not actual divine law.

    As if a deity who created us and knows everything we will think and do would have some messiah around the roman ages (damning those before it) to spread divine law to one specific species and that one specific species gets damned to hell for some arbitrary form of wrongdoing.

  7. Posted · Edited by Shadowraix

    @Emanyalpsid If anybody is following Leo blindly without putting into the work to verify it for themselves then they are already doing it wrong.

    Leo has always promoted not to just believe him but to put what he says into practice and truly figure out if it works or not.

    Everything he has said is nothing new. Nonduality has existed for thousands of years.

    Yes spiral dynamics can be used to dismiss people because people stuck in a specific part of the spiral don't see the inherent problems with it while those above it do. Turquoise has problems too, it'll take rising above that to figure it out though. All SD does is explain their way of thinking.

    You don't need drugs to experience such things, they just accelerate the growth of it.

    If somebody has an either-or thinking mentality you'd likely dismiss that too because its a false dilemma.

     

  8. Posted · Edited by Shadowraix

    As a male who has dated many girls with plenty of guy friends (and I have plenty of female friends myself) I first acknowledged that if my SO found somebody better (Better in the sense of them feeling more in love and in tune with said person), then i'd want them to be with that person. My love for someone is my wish for them to be happy, not for me to feel entitled to them as if I own them. Physical attraction to someone is just that. Physical. It excludes all of the deep emotional bonding my SO and I have developed with each other. I can look at other girls and get horny in some sexual fantasy but thats all some surface level pleasure based desires. Once I get off and have sexual tension released, I feel nothing towards them. This also applies to people I've had casual sex with. Yet towards my SO I still feel a great deal of love and comfort and bonding when her and I have sex.

    Its these ideas that helped me let go or at least deal with any territorial side of me. I don't compete to be the reason she derives all of her pleasures in life. I strive to reduce her suffering which I am satisfied with whether it includes me or not. Even if somebody moves on it doesn't mean they don't cherish such memories shared.

  9. Posted

    45 minutes ago, Barry J said:

    @Leo Gura  I’m responding to you assertion that some teachings are fundamentally corrupt to begin with. The person/idea known as Buddha was not fundamentally corrupt. However, a corrupt person can take a teaching and make it corrupt. 

    That Buddha guy said that direct experience is the only source of truth 2500 years before you did :)

    A teaching is only as good as the teacher.

    So if a teacher is corrupt, their teaching will ultimately reflect that.

    You can give an overarching goal of Buddhism, but the implementation to achieve that goal will be what varies from teacher to teacher. 

  10. Posted

    Interesting first choice. I'd probably recommend LSD due to AL-LAD being more niche as far as the amount of people who has experienced it. (Then again how many lsd trips were actually RC lysergamides?)

    But if you still want AL-LAD then all the advices should be the same as is with LSD. Your first psychedelic experience I would recommend is to just get accustomed to it. Don't think you need profound insights off the get go. It took me probably like 10+ LSD trips before I even got something insightful out of it. Have music on hand, preferrably non depressing music. Make sure your life is in good order and you are in a clean and comfortable environment. I'll leave a trip sitter to your discretion. My first time was solo, but most would recommend a sitter for safety.

    Be easy on yourself the first time, get accustomed to what things are like. Many people like to try out how enjoyable something is on psychs like games or puzzles. Treat it as learning another side of yourself.

    If you really want to get into self improvement then do what you already do for self improvement just on the drug. Meditation, contemplation etc. See where the thoughts lead you.

  12. Posted

    6 minutes ago, Shin said:

    In my experience it's quite true, the only moments I was tempted to cheat or I saw other men cheat is when they are very immature and have no self control at all of their sexual impulses, no long term vision of a relationship, or even what a relationship is supposed to be in the first place.

    Men who understood that to some degree just don't cheat, or simply don't get into a commited monogamous relationship.

    You're right though, I totally worded this sentence with that purpose, like 100% ?

    "even what a relationship is supposed to be in the first place."

    You mean what you want a relationship to be.

    My point is being weak relative to your standards is not an arguing point against cheating. The only arguing point against it is if somebody doesn't desire the potential outcome of cheating.

  13. Posted

    31 minutes ago, Baotrader said:

    what does math have to do with inability to read and speak? (Dyslexia)? Math is the ability to think logically. Logical understanding does not prevent creativity. It only becomes harmful when one think his logic is all there is. The truth is if you want to build a technology you will need logical steps, not just holistic grasp. 

    I'm not saying math is the ultimate standard. No way. But it is surely one of the reliable standard to identify dumb thinking

    That is only relative to that standard. That standard doesn't say much outside of it.

    See what you consider smart and dumb just comes down to your own idealized version of things. Dumb and intelligent has to be compared to something so it is relative.

    In actuality smart and dumb are 1 thing.

  14. Posted

    30 minutes ago, cirkussmile said:

    @Emerald A long term relationship is more deep and profound than new flings. It's hard, it takes determination and also integrity. The long term benefits of growing a relationship is, imo, worth more than surface desires.

    Do you think a relationship like that can include other partners or is transcendence of those desires preferable? 

    Generally people get out the surface desires young and get into more developed relationships later in life.

    There's always a potential partner you can work and settle down with. There's no magical one person so whats the rush?

  15. Posted

    7 hours ago, Shin said:

    Don't cheat, only weak men do that.

    Ask if she's ok to have threesome or if you can have sex with other girls , or make the relationship an open one.

    If you value having sex with as much girls as you want more than being in relationship with her, she's either not good gf material or you legitimately are in a phase in your life where you want to do this.

    Either way you should break up, or stay with her if it's the other way around.

    But don't cheat, only boys make women cry.

    "But don't cheat, only boys make women cry."

    What blatant manipulation of language to push your own ideals of what makes someone weak or strong. Attacking the ego to make them feel threatened against something.

  19. Posted

    Feel free to experiment and what not. 

    There's no one magical person for you so even if you give up a potential good monogamous relationship, there will be dozens of future potential matches. And with those future relationships you will have the satisfactions of having explored the open sexual route. One of the powerful tools we have is hands on experience. 

    I'm polyamorous myself. I've had a couple of casual sex experiences, they are pretty nice but I was very self conscious during them on how well I was performing. Being a 1 year monogamous relationship as of now when you have sex with someone for so long you get pretty comfortable. So make sure you're secure with yourself before such exploration.

  20. Posted

    5 minutes ago, CreamCat said:

    An independent contractor is still a wage slave. A contractor still makes things for someone else. Leo Gura is not an independent contractor.

    And wouldn't running a business just reassign the people responsible for your wages as the general public? Except with this your wage is never guaranteed.

  21. Posted

    2 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

    I’ve been a self-employed/ independent contractor for 8 years.  There are pros and cons to it — but I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily better than being an employee.  

    Correct. 'better' depends what you want out of it.

    I actually sometimes miss the social nature of my old retail job so im not cooped up in the house so often. But at the same time the leisure of working from home is pretty great. 

    I was mostly speaking in the severity of being a 'wage slave' that self employment can be a step above but doesn't inherently imply elimination of being one.

  22. Posted

    5 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

    Have you ever been self-employed?  I assume you’re speaking from your own actual experience.  

    Yes, I am currently self-employed. Of course thats a sort of vague term. I do contracted work as of right now, but im working on some independent projects so I can stray away from contracted work.

    7 minutes ago, Frog said:

    @Shadowraix Self-employment is a step above being a wageslave. After that you can climb higher and go for enlightenment. Or you could go live in the woods and go for enlightenment that way but you would lose too much time bootstrapping a comfy place.

    I would say there are severities of being a wage slave. Self-employment can definitely be way more ideal than working for some big (or small) corporation. More so if you can avoid contracted work.

    But all it really does is reassign who is "responsible" for your wages. You are still dependent on them. But as I said the amount of control and freedom you get can be much greater than being some employee. Not to mention a whole lotta diversity! Keeps the game interesting!

  24. Posted

    19 minutes ago, Frog said:

    @Leo Gura Joseph is right in this instance, for someone preaching non-duality and enlightment you sure are quite lost. Go deeper into your field of research and you will find that you can actually attract literally anything without working for anyone but yourself. All you need is a silent room and access to the internet to kickstart this journey.

    Self employment does not imply being free from being a wage slave.

  25. Posted

    27 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    It does not have to be that way. That's the way of lazy sheep.

    That happens to people because they never do personal development.

    Senility is not just some random affliction. It is caused by things like improper diet, improper use of one's mind and body, and improper lifestyle.

    You can postpone when senility occurs through much better ways of living, but it does not stop it from happening. You will eventually find the body no longer as capable as it was until the brain completely shuts down. Unless you've found the solution to living forever?

    I for one am for euthanasia for when senility happens.