Galyna

We’ve already discussed this... Leo and other people have already answered your question that there is only one way to discover.

My problem is that before I let go I need to understand why things happen to me, this way I learn.

Nah, I do not think so, I am not a hardcore practitioner to have it. Who knows maybe the energy tries to balance itself since was in a low key mode. It comes spontaneously, yesterday came at 7 pm when driving back home. Sex? Something I want to achieve will never satisfy me with physical orgasm. Actually, when I am in passion or lust, it is sucks because at this time I expect sex to resolve my mental craving and think it will, but at the end you have an orgasm and feel unsatisfied mentally. On the level of body orgasm is great, can be very strong. On the level of "soul" (just using this word to describe inner perception) there is like a black whole. Nobody will never share your inner experience, never! with regards, even when sharing your bodies, read below, I love this narrative by Huxley: “We live together, we act on, and react to, one another; but always and in all circumstances we are by ourselves. The martyrs go hand in hand into the arena; they are crucified alone. Embraced, the lovers desperately try to fuse their insulated ecstasies into a single self-transcendence; in vain. By its very nature every embodied spirit is doomed to suffer and enjoy in solitude. Sensations, feelings, insights, fancies—all these are private and, except through symbols and at second hand, incommunicable. We can pool information about experiences, but never the experiences themselves. From family to nation, every human group is a society of island universes.” ― Aldous Huxley, The Doors of Perception

Thank you for the feedback, actually doing an exercise every day by letting go, reading Sedona Method.

Trying to achieve my dreams now, working on my second bachelor's, planning to start master's in September. Gosh, my crazy ego wants some approval for sure. But at the end, when thinking about it, who the hell cares about my career, degree, social status if other people are just the projection of my mind. I am not going to give up because "there is no other game in town" Lately, it has hit me that time is so fast and I will not have enough of it to enjoy my youth years. P.S. Learned how to make a new salad, ordered me an elliptical to exercise, since not sure if Y will be working in fall, working on my dream board. Higher consciousnesses people, hah? - this is the hardest challenge. Here in my city every one goes to the Church of Christ, three times a week. This forum is all I have.

@dimitri OR maybe I just need to let go of everything...and see what happens

@Inliytened1 I was joking...for the ego is suck since there is no one to cling to

@Preetom Please copy and paste it in the neighboring thread. "Are other conscious?" Just in case. @Someone here I like the way Preetom put it, maybe it'll help.

@dimitri LOL Yep.

Eureka! This makes absolute sense because everything is singularity, there can not be more than one, otherwise it will contradict the notion of singularity.

It sucks because nobody will cry on my funeral, and I would not have any funeral in the first place

wow, your pic is cooler than mine

@Someone here first of, from my focal point or POV you are the agent of my reality, I don’t need to prove you anything because I am the protagonists. This is so funny. Second of all, when I’ll get truly awaken , this would be probably silly and funny at the same time. I am not there yet. From your POV I am not real, I don’t exist, however when you realize that you don’t exist either this question will exhaust itself. Think about it for a while, my existence (For your POV) is predicated on your own existence. you can only verify it when enlightened, this is the only way out.

There is a way...ofc....it is exactly what we are doing here.

"Probabilities that exist in zero-dimensional space without time!"

@SamueLSD "Reality as we know it does not exist. And if it had any sort of existence, it would be an endless sea of static, of information in which all probabilities exist." Could be represented or visualized as following:

@dimitri Well, I think I am going to start a new thread. I have this inexplicable energy level like I am on a drug. This is the coolest thing I've ever felt in my life. Wow...very similar to that state when you are in love. Do not know what to do with it. Running on a treadmill helps to release it. P.S. I haven't taken any psychedelic.

Great discussion. Some food for my brain with a cup of morning coffee. Was on a very long road trip last night, and actually thinking about the same thing when meditating in a car. I like the lay out of your thought. I am not a pro....but helps to understand this deeper, however, I, myself, struggle with solipsism a lot. I still can not grasp this, it is almost unbelievable that it is all me and for me! Thank you.

Also, when trying to change the neuron connections in your brain prepare yourself for the storm as your brain will find any excuse and will be repulsive to any change. It is not inherently in its nature. Quickly and safely? Hm...it will take time. It all depends on your situation and motivation. Some people use hypnosis, some affirmations, meditation for sure....raising awareness should help as well, but it is rather a gradual process.

@sure Sorry if my answer is short, can’t type a lot now. I would study neuroplasticity and everything that pertains to this topic. Watching my fav psychiatrist and he says that you need more than 21 day to rewire your brain because habits are not some separate activities, they are your life style. Want to change your habit, start working on everything that is associated with that habit and rearrange your entire life setting.

Indeed ?

1. Learning from the environment, observing others, observing yourself, where ultimately everything will collapse into Oneness, where there is no you or others. IMHO observation is the best skill to develop wisdom, you can be booksmart but still not wise. Maybe the best knowledge comes with peace and stillness. 2. developing authenticity and avoiding any kind of authority. 3. Open mind is a must as well.

But why a person with a level above me would genuinely be interested in me!? Sorry if the question is stupid but I have been thinking about it for a while. How can I contribute or bring something to the table in this scenario? Perhaps, it always works in a male case, since guys ultimately leaders, but what if a woman a level above?

I have been on this forum for four years. I met a lot of interesting people and I’ve really grown. I feel very lucky to be here and I am very grateful for all my little friendships and people who coached me. However, there is one peculiarity that I have noticed, and I want to share it with newbies. People can take psychedelics, meditate, go on retreats, read books, and the most important thing!!! act like they really know what they are talking about, but most of them do not! They still lack some qualities that need to be developed to really self-actualize, to be that human being, that loving caring person. So, go ahead and read below, and if you are truly honest with yourself and screen your core for these qualities, eventually, you’ll find out that there is a long walk before you are done. Pinnacle is still far away. Like Emerald is saying: “your brunches can be very developed, but if your roots are not, then you have to take care of them first.” We can talk about the fabric of the Consciousness on and on, but if your roots are undeveloped, you have anxiety/fear/confusion, how can you share an “expert opinion” what Truth is? We think to self-actualize we have to mediate and take psychedelics, seat in solitude (correct!) but... by interacting with other people you will grow faster, because it is a good school to see what you need to work on. Here is a little guide you can screen yourself, your partner, your guru (or any friend) and see how much you/they still need to work on to become that person Leo is talking about in his videos. It is all about relations here, mostly for the intimate one, but can be applied in other spheres: Motives Being open about them.It's always good to start with motives. Because they fundamentally define the kind of relationship dynamics that you will have. And not all motives are obvious or conscious. Motives come in many guises… loneliness, or a sense of lack in one's life, or troubles and dysfunctions in one's life. Needs for attention, validation, understanding, companionship etc. Sexual motives are often present. Not necessarily in the sense of seeking sex, but more subtly in the way that forming relationships with the opposite sex represents potential. And although many would deny this motive, it is often present. It is human nature to desire intimacy. So, to seek opportunities and potential for intimacy is a subtle drive within all of us. What I call the 'pursuit of sexual potential'. Note that this does not necessarily imply intent. Consistency and integrity ...which lead to trust. The degree to which someone is consistent and has integrity directly relates to the depth of the connection. Consistency pertains to how much someone honors their own word, but also how much they deviate from one moment to the next in their words, motives or intents. What I mean by this is: does someone say what they mean and follow through on it (this is integrity). And, does someone behave in the same, predictable, way or do they change their mind, their ideas, their motives, etc. (this is consistency). The more integrity someone has and the more consistent they are, the easier you can learn about them, predict them, understand them and ultimately trust them. Openness and honesty ...both with yourself and with others. This is leads to depth and connection.This is another big one. Again, directly represents the depth of connection.Someone can only be as honest with you as they are to themselves. The more open you are with one another, the closer you can be and the more truth that can be built. Just open conversation and expression. Investment How much time do you invest in relationships (friendships/romantic)? And how much time do people engage with you?There is a difference. Just because someone gives you their attention doesn't mean that they engage with what you say or do. Balance Are your relationships balanced? Are you both equally invested in the same way? Or is there a clear imbalance in the participation of both people? Psychological mirroring Perhaps the most important one. This basically means: how well do both people in the relationship reflect one another? How much do they share the same worldview? The more similar your experiences of life, the more you will understand one another and see yourself reflected in the other. This is what we all seek but we don't realize it. Our counterpart, that person that psychologically reflects our own sense of life. Hence, mirroring, because you first must realize that everyone experiences life in their own unique way. We might all be human, but we don't all live in the same reality (as reality is subjective). So, the closer someone is to seeing life like you do, the closer and deeper will be your connection. Fear of hurt Hurt and leaving. No one hurts you, but they can expose your existing insecurities and fears and take away things that you want from them. However, no one is obliged to invest in you. They do so because it serves them in some way. If or when it doesn't, then they have every right to withdraw. They should, however, be considerate and respectful about it though.In reality, it is your own agenda and motives that are the source of any hurt. It is what you expect and want from them that they fail to deliver that hurts you. It comes from you, not from them.Yes, people can hurt you through deliberate intent. But that is rarely the case.My point here is that being wary of 'being hurt' by potential relationships becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The very fact that you have 'fears' highlights the potential and likelihood that you will in fact 'be hurt'. Because you have needs that you haven't addressed yourself and are expecting someone else to provide. These needs, insecurities, fears will fester under the surface of any relationship, and they also contribute to your motives. And hence will manifest in the dynamics and kind of relationship that you build with the other person.But like I said, people don't 'owe' you anything. They don't exist for your express purpose. They exist for their own sake, just as you do. Any relationship based on the 'utility' of another person to your own life will end in hurt and will also never be a deep and meaningful one. A truly deep connection comes from you not wanting or needing anything in particular from the other person, in fact just appreciating them and being inspired by them. Mutual growth. The mutual nurturing of one another and helping each other to grow for their own benefit. Permanence is an unreasonable expectation. Everyone wants permanence and reliability. But are people obliged to provide it. Is it realistic? Are you entitled to it? This is a big one too. The expectation of permanence. The indignation when a relationship ends as though it 'should not'. This is the faulty belief. The reality is that relationships are transient. They don't last. They can, potentially. But they don't have to, and the most likely won't. If you expect them to then you are never truly appreciating them. The real way to have a meaningful relationship is to appreciate it in the moment, while it exists. If and when it ends, that doesn't change the depth or meaning that was there while it existed. But many people don't see this. Relationships, grow, change and dissipate. It's the natural order of things. But this is a concept that most of humanity fails to recognize. Once it is recognized, though, it is liberating. And you will truly appreciate not only relationships, but everything in life, in the moment. And you will deal with 'loss' so much more easily. Meaning of deep connection. This is subjective. Genuine motives, good consistency and integrity, deep and honesty and openness, equal and deep mutual investment, equal balance, psychological mirroring and finally... dealing with your own issues and fears such that you don't take your baggage in to the relationship and sabotage it with anxiety of potential 'hurt' that you impose upon the other person. We all assume that things in life, especially relationships, will be forever. As though that is the expected case. The same is true of everything that we pursue in life. But that is the first mistake we make and the one that leads to a lack of appreciation and an ultimate disappointment and hurt. Most people probably don't fit all the categories I've listed. But I have found people that come close. And one way to find them is by exhibiting the qualities yourself. It's hard. You just have to experiment. Meet people, try it and see. But also learn to read people, to recognize the signs of each of the things I've talked about. But one thing I have found is that by being open and honest, for example, others will open up and be honest with you. So, if you practice the meaningful qualities, people might mirror them. Because ultimately, it's what we're all looking for, deep down. The hardest thing to find is our psychological mirror.

@MuriloPais emotions are something I need to work on as well. I am reading “Sedona Method” right now and absolutely love it. I recommend, at least there is a very good explanation about various emotions, implications, etc. when they arise I try to observe them like clouds, it builds awareness.