Leo Gura

I'm working on part 2 of the How Fear Works videos and wanted to solicit your questions. Is there anything you still don't understand about fear?

Obviously not normal, but seems normal for you. People have different brain chemistry and wiring.

That will be different for everyone. The limit is the point where it becomes too disturbing to dose any higher.

To admit idealism is to admit that reality could all just be imaginary. What serious intellectual wants to do that? The whole appeal of being an intellectual is to take one's mind seriously. So it's a problem of the fox guarding the hen house. An academic cannot admit idealism because that then leads to mysticism and that then leads to the end of his career. People who discover mysticism either leave academia or don't enter it in the first place.

So in other words, he's teaching you exactly what you need

Not for many years.

Alcohol is the most dangerous drug.

You are really misunderstanding Ralston. All that stuff is your projection on him.

This is where psychedics can do wonders. Hope he gets better.

@Tiny Nietzsche If your soul loves music, decouple that from piano itself. Create a LP around your love for musi, not piano. This is a much broader notion than mastering piano. Love of music might not require you to play the piano at all. Think more outside the box. What are new ways you could sharing your love of music. Like maybe you could invent a new musical instrument, or whatever. Get creative here.

I don't see how one could be in a hell realm otherwise. If you were fully conscious of no-self, you'd be in heaven, not hell.

Bibi gonna fight like a cornered animal cause he might end up in jail. Now it gets personal.

Keep in mind that you can also just have hobbies. Perhaps playing piano is a hobby of yours? In which case you gotta keep looking for your LP.

I have never experienced a hell realm.

Suffering IS the loss of self. Suffering is what it feels like for the ego-mind to get crushed.

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Fear of being rejected, fear of blowing the chance. The hotter the girl, the more you put her on a pedestal, the more you feel you need to impress her. The trick to attracting hot girls is to treat them as if they are nobody special. And being a strong leader. This requires lots of practice.

@orpheos Take ownership of the problem and start acting with more passion. Fake it a bit till you make it. Be more playful, more flirty, more proactive. Rub up on him, tease him, put your hands on him, etc. This isn't rocket science. Don't ask how. Just do it. Learn to turn yourself on with your mind, and learn to turn him on. If you need to watch porn, watch porn and take notes. Although really this stuff is pretty obvious. A deeper issue you might have is shyness or fear of intimacy. Or perhaps you were raise in a family/culture which taught you to be ashamed of sex. In which case you're sexually repressed. How do you fix that? By questioning those old beliefs to death and pushing your comfort zone and exploring sexuality. Many books have been written about sex. Being good at sex isn't natural. It requires practice and training. Don't be afraid to practice and train. Go suck on a cucumber until you figure out a good way to do it. This kind of basic stuff is what women avoid, but it necessary if you want to get good. Don't expect good sex to happen automatically. You have to put energy and intention into it. You have to be interested in doing whatever it takes to make it good. This might mean buying books, videos, toys, courses, attending classes, watching porn, practicing, visualizing, talking with your partner, training with your partner, etc.

Of course not. Male and female attraction is asymmetrical. They fantasize about some knight in shining armor whisking them away. Read some cheap romance novels from Walmart to understand how women think about sex/relationships. That cheap romance novel from Walmart is a woman's version of porn. Much less important. A woman is looking for strength and leadership qualities, not looks. Of course if all else is equal, she will pick the guy with better looks. But in practice all else is never equal. This is why a guy with below average looks can attract girls with above average looks. He compensates for it with strong inner qualities. The nice thing about this is that it's possible to cultivate these strong inner qualities. The bad thing is, this involves serious emotional labor. In a sense being a hot girl is easy because you don't have do anything. You wear your value on your sleeve. The downside of this is that if you're not a hot girl (and definition most girls aren't), it's almost impossible to change that. So men have more flexibility in this department. But in practice very few men actualize this possibility. Most people end up settling for someone at roughly their level of reproductive value.

It's both

Infinity is not a something you can reason about. Realization of infinity requires a new state of consciousness which you have not yet had.

Of course that can happen.

The simple fact is we just don't know. We need more detailed research. And even if vaccines lead to some problems, that needs to be weighed against the lives they save. And that's a tricky calculus.