Is sex the most important aspect of life ?

[eTorro]

Romance is the most important thing in a relationship.

Sex is secondary.

[Roy]

5 minutes ago, eTorro said:

Romance is the most important thing in a relationship.

Sex is secondary.

I agree. All the sex I've had without romance is basically just masturbating using another persons body.

Casual sex is highly overrated, even when it's good.

[flowboy]

On 02/06/2022 at 11:37 PM, Someone here said:

as expected tons of rejections

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I know for a fact I won't have sex in less than 5 years because I have a university degree to finish

Why are you expecting tons of rejections?

Why are you holding a belief that you won't succeed at what you are trying to do by talking to these girls?

I can only assume that your mindset is working against you.

The built-in excuse to fail, we all have that mechanism.

Goes like this:

- I'm talking to girls, so I can say that I'm trying, but then also I hold this belief that I don't have time for sex because of university, and I expect to get rejected a ton, so that when I do, it will soften the blow.

I did the same thing for a long time, but I find it important to catch that.

Here's why: the reason you are getting rejected, is because you expect to.

If you go up to someone with the idea in your mind that they will probably reject you, they WILL (some of them will be friendly, but none of them will want to date) - exactly because that energy can be felt. It's the energy of not fully going for it. You can be sure of it that women can always feel it from you that you expect rejection, and will then automatically comply with that expectation.

Another way to say it is: you're not willing to get hurt. You can't win if you're not willing to lose.

Probably if someone would watch you talk to women, they would spot all kinds of obvious self-sabotaging patterns, that are just there to keep you consistent with your belief that you won't succeed TODAY, or in less than 5 years.

I'm saying this because I was the same, in a bad way.

I'd literally preframe my proposals with "you probably gonna say no, but would you like to have coffee sometime", that's how obvious it was in my case. I still cringe writing this. And of course it came with all these shifty looks, not holding eye contact, tension, nervous speaking, et cetera.

If you decide with your full being that you get laid this week, you will.

But maybe you find that you don't really want to - maybe you're not ready, maybe there's something scary about it.

Maybe it's really not a priority for you right now. And that's okay too.

But in that case, you can skip the talking to a girl a day practice - for if you're not fully trying, fully wanting to succeed, fully willing to get hurt and humiliated, all you're doing is teaching yourself how to fail with women. So you can also quit that, and spend more time on your degree.

Either choice is valid. But as long as you have this inner conflict, women will feel that you're not really in, and not really out, and it will make them unattracted.