I'm fed up with this forum and I feel like leaving it

[happyhappy]

1 hour ago, Yarco said:

If you've got almost as many forum posts as Leo it's maybe worth taking a step back.

You've made over 50 posts here in the past 24 hours (I stopped counting at 50.) That's not normal. Nobody else does that.

Most people only ever make 1 ongoing post in the Self-Actualization Journals section in their entire time here and you've made at least 5 in the past 12 hours. None of them are fleshed out, just 1 or 2 lines each. Or you just make 10 posts in a row with random gifs you found online. Or sometimes you repeat the same thing over and over a dozen times like this. (There should probably be a general rule for that section of only 1 journal thread per person IMO.)

I'd challenge you to see if you can go 72 hours without looking at or posting on the forum. I really question if you're capable of that or if the unhealthy addiction is that strong. When's the last time you went a day without looking at the forum?

Mods / Leo - I believe preety_india is already violating a banworthy rule by having multiple accounts. Can you please do your detective work behind-the-scenes and see if the accounts preety_indiia, preetyfromindore, and indore preetyspoop also belong to her -- if so, please ban all 4 as per the Guidelines.

valid points dude!

 

@Preety_India i don't know what she expects from a journal when all her journals are on full public display here. and people do read. it is why it is set to public. if somebody wants a personal journal, they can find thousands of alternatives to that other than wasting server space . I pretty much respect preety and she has a good heart . 

even this thread seems like a attention seeking post of urs. 

 

[Gesundheit2]

12 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

Much lack of respect?

Look, dude. You said you want to leave, and I said it don't matter to me. Seems fair, don't you think? Or do you want me to cry and beg you to stay?

[Preety_India]

3 minutes ago, happyhappy said:

valid points dude!

 

@Preety_India i don't know what she expects from a journal when all her journals are on full public display here. and people do read. it is why it is set to public. if somebody wants a personal journal, they can find thousands of alternatives to that other than wasting server space . I pretty much respect preety and she has a good heart . 

even this thread seems like a attention seeking post of urs. 

 

 

No I don't have alternatives. If I had alternatives I wouldn't be here in a million years. 

The alternatives are shitty. 

Here journaling is much better. 

So stop complaining 

And I don't need attention. 

 

15 minutes ago, Cykaaaa said:

I think that many people here are simply not accepting what this forum is. But they are attached and want the forum to be some other way. 

If it was different, it wouldn't be the way it is now and again another group of people would be unhappy.

The problem is people's attachment. The answer is: let go. Find another forum if you're not resonating with it. It's like trying to change other people - this is a futile effort. You can't consistently make others change.

Yes, the forum is quite masculine, heavily due to Leo's style. Personally, I enjoy it very much. But I understand that others do not.

Some time ago I recommended Leo to my good female friend. After some time I asked her if she watched the videos and she said that yes and she saw Leo's wisdom, but also said that the teachings really didn't make her feel good (it was too harsh and masculine for her). She needed to be comforted rather than told that she's wasting her life, lol. And so I told her to stop watching Leo immediately and instead find something that resonates. And she did.

Btw, if I had to guess, much more people are content with how the forum is right now, but they're just not posting about it. Many people like the masculine style. Including me.

* * * * * * 

Having said all that, obviously trolls need to be dealt with. Sorry if my post was a bit off topic. People need to feel as comfortable here as possible... but also yeah, the masculine style is something I personally like.

So you mean to say that the masculine style should not be improved? 

 

[happyhappy]

farewells from the leaving users; MEGATHREAD

 

 

[Preety_India]

2 minutes ago, Gesundheit2 said:

Look, dude. You said you want to leave, and I said it don't matter to me. Seems fair, don't you think? Or do you want me to cry and beg you to stay?

Just show respect. Is that too much to ask. If someone said they are feeling bad, I wouldn't be so rude with them. 

Just let people be. They don't have to impress your moral eyes 

 

[something_else]

You made another post talking about being lonely. I am feeling that you might use this form a tad excessively as a substitute for not getting as much socialising in real life done as you’d like.

I recognise it because I also use the forum far more frequently during periods of loneliness. It’s an easy trap to fall into

I wouldn’t necessarily say it’s bad that you have a lot of posts, but it could indicate that you are using the forum as a substitute for human connection

I also know that you probably want comforting rather than being told a solution, but I really really would recommend that you try to build up a solid social circle in the real world and disconnect from the forum for a bit

I wish you all the best, whatever you choose to do 

[Preety_India]

1 minute ago, something_else said:

You made another post talking about being lonely. I am feeling that you might use this form a tad excessively as a substitute for not getting as much socialising in real life done as you’d like.

I recognise it because I also use the forum far more frequently during periods of loneliness. It’s an easy trap to fall into

I wouldn’t necessarily say it’s bad that you have a lot of posts, but it could indicate that you are using the forum as a substitute for human connection

I also know that you probably want comforting rather than being told a solution, but I really really would recommend that you try to build up a solid social circle in the real world and disconnect from the forum for a bit

I wish you all the best, whatever you choose to do 

Why is this topic being constantly churned into how much I use the forum versus how rude this forum is. How masculine this forum is. How in-gentle this forum is. 

Even if I used this forum sparingly, the problem doesn't go away, even if I come back after 3 weeks, the rude comments and complaining attitude is going to stay the same. 

I want the forum to be less vulgar, more loving and more compassionate, more tolerant and less personal attacks 

Why is this so hard? 

Are we going to have low empathy on a spiritual forum? 

 

[Terell Kirby]

1 hour ago, Preety_India said:

This is a spiritual community. It's meant to be loving and not hyper strict.

There is nothing spiritual about this forum lol. 

[happyhappy]

5 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

No I don't have alternatives. If I had alternatives I wouldn't be here in a million years. 

The alternatives are shitty. 

Here journaling is much better. 

So stop complaining 

And I don't need attention. 

go ahead and tell that to ur momma so u can pick another real fight!  JK

I didn't mean to hurt ya but, instead if trying to fix others for being masculine or too unfriendly, why not fix urself honey!<3

[Gesundheit2]

1 minute ago, Preety_India said:

Just show respect. Is that too much to ask. If someone said they are feeling bad, I wouldn't be so rude with them. 

Just let people be. They don't have to impress your moral eyes 

True, if they are venting on their journals. I respect the space people need and use to express themselves. Notice I never comment on your journals (I don't read them tbh), and when I comment on someone's journals I'm often supportive.

But, when you make a thread about leaving in the self-actualization section, then it is my right to point out that that's unnecessary drama.

[Preety_India]

Just now, Terell Kirby said:

There is nothing spiritual about this forum lol. 

Beginning to feel that way 

Look at the comments on this thread. 

It's depressing to say the least. 

 

[Preety_India]

1 minute ago, Gesundheit2 said:

True, if they are venting on their journals. I respect the space people need and use to express themselves. Notice I never comment on your journals (I don't read them tbh), and when I comment on someone's journals I'm often supportive.

But, when you make a thread about leaving in the self-actualization section, then it is my right to point out that that's unnecessary drama.

Complaining about how one feels in a community is far from drama. 

There is a wound that needs addressing. One cannot dismiss that wound. No point in keeping it private. 

A loving community will actually encourage open complaints. It's only a cult that will hush hush complaints.

[Reciprocality]

@Preety_India MAybe you can learn something from masculinity, such as having some distance from people and not share everything with them.

And also have some fair expectations of how people who do not know you will not care too much if you dislike their true sentiments.

[happyhappy]

something tells me ...THIS THREAD IS ABOUT TO BE LOCKED  maybe leo is asleep...zzz.z.zz.zz. 

if not, it would have happened by now..

 

[Preety_India]

1 minute ago, Reciprocality said:

@Preety_India MAybe you can learn something from masculinity, such as having some distance from people and not share everything with them.

And also have some fair expectations of how people who do not know you will not care too much if you dislike their true sentiments.

Rude behavior is just rude behavior. I can't call it masculine. Rather it's toxic masculine. Leo has even acknowledged this. 

Healthy masculine is protective not rude 

Healthy masculine is not pouncing to attack 

 

[Reciprocality]

Oh Leo acknowledged it? Well in that case....

[Reciprocality]

@Preety_India Write an essay about it, on government, namely how people should behave under your ruleset. I will be happy to read it.

[Preety_India]

Just now, Reciprocality said:

@Preety_India Write an essay about it, on government, namely how people should behave under your ruleset. I will be happy to read it.

Just expecting people to stop personal attacks and be more friendly, that's all. This place is way too harsh. And I'm not the only one who says this btw

[Preety_India]

I'm logging out. Enough. 

Keep attacking me guys. It shows how much attacking is allowed here.