Another from Teal swan - when to be emotional as a man

[Preety_India]

@Origins hah. That kinda went over my head. 

I understood a bit though. 

Maybe  I will try some self awareness. 

 

[Origins]

@Preety_India If you want to no longer be manipulated by men or even yourself (including other women), that's literally the only path forward.

Take the route as I've explained it. 

Only follow your awareness, nothing else. If you do that your awareness will improve overtime, over your emotions, thoughts, everything. You will forget a lot of the time too. 

It has to mean everything to you.

Before I thought someone could mean everything to me, I still believe that but now I realise I need far more boundaries in place so I avoid the manipulation I spoke about there.

Edited April 4, 2021 by Origins

[Origins]

@Preety_India I mean honestly, I don't get these games people play in relationships.

You have to be so insecure to do it.

I've learned my lesson by experiencing it first hand as an adult. 

Study the dark triad.

I mean, most of these losers aren't even dark. I mean, compared to me? Pfft. C'mon. And I'm not even dark triad material. 

A lot of them are just insecure people, can't be authentic, can't connect, need to play games, etc to get a petty dopamine rush and false sense of security.

As soon as you notice a red flag. End it straight away. I mean that. We've got too many cool people on this planet to waste it with people like that.

Edited April 4, 2021 by Origins

[Preety_India]

@Origins

I think there is more to it than just a false sense of security or rush.. There is the feeling of trapping someone into your games and web of deceit and the feeling of Victory, having this sense of power over someone, duping delight in secret,  being able to win someone's trust so easily and then the sense of power when the person is discarded, it reeks of temptation to power, a form of social power in taking pride in their prowess to hunt people recklessly and play with their emotions, because they lack personal power, personal power makes you humble and dignified, social power makes you predatory and greedy for more, that's when manipulation comes into place, there is also this false perception that such power gives them a lot of accolades and perks and a higher status in the sphere of relationships, they are incapable of thinking that others could be simple, beautiful and genuine, because they lack that beauty themselves, so it's harder for them to imagine what  this simplistic beauty can look like. 

 

[Origins]

@Preety_India Well like I said, as you've explained it.... that IS the dopamine rush.

They just create these delusional games for self amusement because they can't handle reality / can't perceive enough of reality.

It's nothing cool or Hollywood about it, other than for the village peasantry.