Being an Abuse Survivor.

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10 hours ago, Preety_India said:

 

• Course 
• Proficiency Catalogue 
• 10 major branches 
• Dark Tetrad Influences (4 subset) 
• . Closure and wrap up for each situation 
• . Brainstorming Room (the quirky girl) 
• Accountability partner 
• Words, sentences from the universe and affirmations
• Survival guide 
• Tunnel water theory (finding the sweet spot) 

 

 

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7 hours ago, Preety_India said:

This time no joking. Serious meditation okay? Say om and breathe away the stress. Don't be a lazy ass. 

 

Be like this doggo.. 

Keep incense sticks, mat and candles ready. Arrange the pillow. 

Now start. 

Om..... Om...... 

 

 

Now look at this picture below. Stare at the gif. Breathe along with it. 

C'mon. 

 

 

 

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6 hours ago, Preety_India said:

These exercises help lessen anxiety. Try. Sync your breathing with these. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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5 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

            The power of now 

 

Focus on the now. 

 

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Focus right now on 

 

• Course 
• Proficiency Catalogue 
• 10 major branches 
• Dark Tetrad Influences (4 subset) 
• . Closure and wrap up for each situation 
• . Brainstorming Room (the quirky girl) 
• Accountability partner 
• Words, sentences from the universe and affirmations
• Survival guide 
• Tunnel water theory (finding the sweet spot) 

 

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Healing the wounds of being neglected by mom 

 

When I went to a psychiatrist, I told them that sometimes I was super needy in relationships.

They told me it's a symptom of child neglect. 

I tended to fluctuate between states of extreme neediness childlike neediness to periods of complete cut off and escaping and running back  into a deep shell. 

So when you are very needy in relationships, don't forget to look at how you were treated by your family. 

There are clues in childhood which lead you to do what you do in your relationships

Of course these subconscious patterns can be reversed and that's what a large chunk of self development is all about. 

Beware. 

 

The inner child is still not healed from abandonment and manifests itself in ugly ways and throws tantrums. 

So when you get needy, pay attention to your inner child, it's crying for help. 

Don't neglect it again. It's your shadow. 

Feed it with self love so it doesn't cry again. 

There's a heaven and earth difference between needing something very badly and crying when not getting it and demanding something as though someone owes you something in a very arrogant entitled spoilt manner 

Often people confuse these two because both tendencies exhibit or manifest in similar ways. 

But both have extremely different causes and roots and symptoms. 

One is because of having neglected by parents and the other is the result of having been spoiled rotten to the point of severe entitlement by parents. 

Confusing I know. 

 

Enmeshment trauma (not emeshment) is often caused by a narcissistic parent. 

Also trauma and abuse/neglect patients are looking for some sort of closure, period of emotional peace, emotional consistency, ending the endless chaos, and reassurance (sense of security) 

You'll often find abuse/trauma victims behaving in absurd weird ways and a lot of stuff they do might not make logical sense 

They also act random scattered, disconnected which might be visible in their writings. 

When the brain suffers serious trauma, it starts acting in scattered ways and gradually begins to suffer a gaping deficiency of self awareness 

 

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The trauma explains why a lot of my writing is random, chaotic and scattered. 

 

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Reversal of subconscious patterns. 

 

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I run my business in sales. I got huge commissions in an investment firm when I started out. 

I make my money. I have a small house of my own that I got on a loan. 

I am independent financially. I recently joined a marketing course to sharpen my skills even more. 

I don't want to be any man's servant or slave 

Thanks I can feed myself. 

Men had financial power over women for a very long time. 

Time for women to not give a damn 

 

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Long list of skillsets 

??Proficiency Catalogue ??

• Confidence 
• Motivation 
• Communication 
• Goal setting 
• Inspiration (I'll protect you, we will make this thing happen) 
• Empowering 
• Consistency and persistence 
• Feeling a sense of security. 
• Awareness (self and environment) and understanding. 
• Learning something new 
• Investment 
• Creativity 
• Passion 
• Expansion (knowing more, learning more ) 
• Crystallization 
• Elimination (something not serving your purpose, something hurting your goals) 
• Experience (important) 
• Wisdom 
• Adding to your kitty/building arsenal 
• Upgrading your database and updating 
• Growth /progress 
• Filling (filling cup with knowledge) and absorbing
• Organizing and structuring (connecting the dots, mapping, come together, confusion removed ) 
• Optimizing and streamlining 
• Implementing 
• Brainstorming 
• Flourishing (moving forward forever) 
• Power of the positive spirit
• Accountability partner 
• Being graceful and grateful 

 

?? Additional arsenal ?️?️

• Subconscious reversal of patterns 
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Edited February 5, 2021 by Preety_India

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This year I'm fully focused on work. 

I need to start and then learn on the fly as I go along 

 

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Copied this from some journal here 

Thanks to the person /user for posting this in their journal. 

 

 

 

Stanford educated therapist who specialized in family systems and early childhood trauma (usually parental abandonment, neglect, and abuse) and practiced for 33 years. I'd assume he would have a pretty good understanding of this stuff. He has an in-depth course that is completely free. The website is a little dated but I think the quality of the information is great.

 

I feel like early childhood trauma feeds into many of the psychological issues that people discuss on this forum. So having at least a rudimentary understanding of the basics would help to alleviate many issues at the root, speaking for myself here!

 

On the course overview, he says as much. The information covers inherited psychological wounds from trauma and the ignorance that is perpetuating the chain of pain from one generation to the next.

 

Here are links to the lessons in his course. His youtube videos supplement the articles and content organized under each lesson. I want to work through these slowly.

 

 

 

LESSON 1) WOUND HEALING. 

A high majority of average women and men are unaware of carrying up to six specific psychological wounds from early-childhood abandonment, neglect, and abuse (trauma). This lesson shows you how to assess for such wounds and reduce them. 

 

This keystone Lesson has four parts, following an introductory overview of addictions:

 

Learn about personality subselves and Grown Wounded Children (GWCs);

Assess yourself for up to six psychological wounds;

Evolve and work an effective plan to free your true Self from false-self dominance and reduce your wounds; and...

Learn how to spot and relate to other wounded people

 

 

LESSON 2) EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION 

Effective communication and thinking are essential for all relationships, families, and organizations - yet our ancestors and schools don't teach these basics and seven skills. Test your knowledge by taking this quiz.

 

This lesson has four parts:

 

Basic concepts - what you need to know about communicating;.

Seven powerful skills. If you can't name and describe the skills, you're not using them.

Useful communication tools and resources, and...

Key relationship applications of these basics, skills, and tools..

   

 

LESSON 3) LEARN TO DO "GOOD GRIEF" -

We all have losses (broken bonds) throughout our lives. Unawareness and ignorance of healthy mourning promotes incomplete grief. That promotes significant psychological and physical problems like "depression," addictions, obesity, and diabetes.

 

These four parts show you how to spot and finish incomplete grief and grow a "pro-grief" family.

 

Basics - what you and your kids need to know about bonding, losses, and healthy grief;

Assess yourself or others for incomplete grief.

Complete any unfinished grief, and form healthy new bonds.

Learn to support other grievers effectively

 

 

LESSON 4) OPTIMIZE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS 

The thriving counseling and therapy industry exists partly because millions of people "can't get along with" (relate to) each other. The primary reasons for this are widespread psychological wounds + ignorance of Lessons 1 thru 4.

 

      This Lesson provides effective-relationship basics and how to apply them to relationships with your subselves (inner family); Higher Power; your family members, and other adults and kids. To learn what you need to learn about relationships, try this quiz.

 

Lesson 4 has five sequential parts.

 

relationship basics

relating to yourself,

how to solve relationship problems

primary relationships, divorce, and ex-mate relations; and...

relating effectively to a Higher Power.

 

 

LESSON 5) IMPROVE YOUR FAMILY'S FUNCTIONING 

The wide range of personal and social problems suggests that the current family norm is dysfunctional. Use Lessons 1-4 to understand the ingredients of a high-nurturance ("functional") family. Then assess the nurturance level of your childhood and current families, and improve the current level as needed.

 

      To learn what you need to learn about families, take this quiz

 

Lesson-5 parts are:

 

Basic concepts you need to know about all families (like yours)

Traits of a high-nurturance ("functional") family

Identify and resolve typical "family problems" using knowledge and skills from Lessons 1 through 4

 

 

LESSON 6) EFFECTIVE PARENTING

Unseen psychological wounds are epidemic because of widespread early-childhood abandonment, abuse, and neglect (trauma). This Lesson outlines the developmental and special needs of kids and teens, and how to fill those needs (to nurture) effectively. Without major progress at Lessons 1-6, psychologically-wounded adults (GWCs) risk unintentionally passing their inherited injuries and unawareness on to their kids.

 

      Lesson-6 covers:

 

Normal developmental needs of typical minor kids,

Effective-parenting basics, including...

traits of effective parents

communicating effectively with children and teens, and...

guidelines for effective child discipline.

      Most of these ideas apply to effective grandparenting.

 

 

 

LESSON 7) STEPFAMILIES

Because divorce is so prevalent, millions of stepfamilies exist. Sociologists estimate that typical U.S. stepfamily re/marriages fail more often than first-marriage families. From 36 years' study and counseling over 1,000 stepfamily adults, this Lesson provides stepfamily basics and applies Lessons 1 thru 6 toward growing a stable, high-nurturance re/marriage and stepfamily. Sequential parts include...

 

Learn stepfamily basics, myths, and realities;

Essential courtship education - make three informed choices to avoid probable re/divorce;

Stepkids' special needs, and effective co-parenting (stepparenting and bioparenting); and...

Avoid or resolve common stepfamily role and relationship problems.

 

Edited February 5, 2021 by Preety_India

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Links

 

http://sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm

Lesson 1 

http://sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm

Six specific psychological wounds 

http://sfhelp.org/gwc/pop/wounds.htm

 

http://sfhelp.org/cx/guide2.htm

Lesson 2

 

Quiz

http://sfhelp.org/cx/quiz2.htm

 

Lesson 3

http://sfhelp.org/grief/guide3.htm

Lesson 4 

http://sfhelp.org/relate/guide4.htm

Quiz

http://sfhelp.org/relate/quiz4.htm

 

Lesson 5 

http://sfhelp.org/fam/guide5.htm

Lesson 6 

http://sfhelp.org/parent/guide6.htm

Lesson 7 

http://sfhelp.org/sf/guide7.htm

 

 

Edited February 5, 2021 by Preety_India

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Symptoms of child abuse 

Heal the inner child now 

 

 

 

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Happiness

 

 

 

 

 

Edited February 5, 2021 by Preety_India

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My childhood was stolen from me by a bitch. 

 

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Your mind or brain is like this cube.. It keeps morphing into something else. 

I'll call the mind the morphing cube and this is what allows us to change states of mind 

You basically completely bend the way you deal with reality through mind change 

 

 

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If a community is not loving its because the people aren't loving 

 

 

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I credit my life changes to Tony Robbins. 

He brought a big shift in my way of looking at things 

And it's only a week that I've been him.