Max_V

The Catch-22 of getting needs met

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@Max_V I'm in exactly the same situation, bro. Desperate to talk to the opposite sex but not really being able to because of the virus going around, with numbers of infections rising each day. Not to playtime victim though! I know if I really wanted to, I could go out and talk to girls, but it feels like a bad time to do it.

That being said, I don't think the inner game stuff works without taking ACTION. It seems the more girls you talk to and realise it isn't actually that difficult, the inner game fixes itself. But you have to  go out and do it, there isn't any way around it.

For me right now, I'm focusing on getting my body into shape, keeping fit, and getting more sleep. In a way, this is taking action, and it is giving me more confidence, but I know in the back of my head that the rubber really meets the road when you are out in the field talking to girls.

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9 minutes ago, RawJudah said:

@Max_V I'm in exactly the same situation, bro. Desperate to talk to the opposite sex but not really being able to because of the virus going around, with numbers of infections rising each day. Not to playtime victim though! I know if I really wanted to, I could go out and talk to girls, but it feels like a bad time to do it.

That being said, I don't think the inner game stuff works without taking ACTION. It seems the more girls you talk to and realise it isn't actually that difficult, the inner game fixes itself. But you have to  go out and do it, there isn't any way around it.

For me right now, I'm focusing on getting my body into shape, keeping fit, and getting more sleep. In a way, this is taking action, and it is giving me more confidence, but I know in the back of my head that the rubber really meets the road when you are out in the field talking to girls.

As a former PUA I wish I had focused on inner game.  At the end of the day if you can clear up your negative limiting beliefs, you will become way more attractive so when you do approach, you will not have a lot of resistance.

 

But most guys are all about instant gratification.

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@Thestarguitarist14 We all have different personalities. And yeah, if you aren't too creepy and have a mountain of trauma, then approaching girls shouldn't be too much of  a problem. 

Some men do it for different reasons, I would do it to make myself stronger and more resilient, but a lot of guys do it to sleep with 1000 girls. The latter  would take up so much time and effort, I don't know how any man actually achieves it.

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13 minutes ago, RawJudah said:

@Thestarguitarist14 We all have different personalities. And yeah, if you aren't too creepy and have a mountain of trauma, then approaching girls shouldn't be too much of  a problem. 

Some men do it for different reasons, I would do it to make myself stronger and more resilient, but a lot of guys do it to sleep with 1000 girls. The latter  would take up so much time and effort, I don't know how any man actually achieves it.

It isn’t.  I will say the more inner work you do, the less attached to outcomes you are. I started when I was 20 and did the thirty day challenge.  Before it was up I was already dating a woman that I had picked up from the mall.  Once I moved to L.A I started hooking up more consistently.  After three years I saw the limits and it felt empty to me that if I was going to get with 50 women in a year (which really is not a lot for a top notch player) then I would have to have no life, I shifted my focus more onto my career.  

 

A lot of guys are just empty and believe that this is the answer to all their problems.  Pick up is only there to show men that they have agency in their lives. At the end of the day, it isn’t even the most effective dating strategy.  Particularly if you desire high quality women. Social circles, social status and being a true high value man are always going to beat game.

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Thank you all for the replies on this thread. Whenever rules become looser, I am going to do my best to face the thing I fear most in my life. I will be referring back to this thread whenever I need to :)

All the best


your life is, your life.

don't let it be clubbed into dank submission.

Charles Bukowski

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41 minutes ago, Max_V said:

Whenever rules become looser

Does that mean you start to practice communication & being in social setting through online video chats after the regulations loosen up?


"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

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@Loving Radiance No, lol. That I can and will do right now :P 


your life is, your life.

don't let it be clubbed into dank submission.

Charles Bukowski

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Looking forward to hear how it goes ^_^


"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

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