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How To Accept Something ?

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I can't wrap my mind around acceptance...  For example a therapist told me to accept uncertainty . He says acceptance is an undoing , not something you do.  So how do you accept something ?? What is Acceptance after all??

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Acceptance is simply recognition. 

For example, you spill coffee on the floor and you're thinking: "No, this is not happening!" See, this thought is a lie. A lie is the opposite of acceptance. On the other hand, acceptance would say: "Yes, this just happened. I'm gonna clean it up now." So, acceptance always says "yes" to everything that happened because that's the truth. But you see, acceptance is not passive, instead, acceptance acknowledges what happened and it reaponds with the appropriate action.

In other words, acceptance is the opposite of the denial of truth.

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1 hour ago, SQAAD said:

He says acceptance is an undoing , not something you do.  

He's right. Just stop pretending you know because knowing is resistance. Acceptance always seems to be there when you are able to let go of knowing. For me it sounds like the way he's wording it is problematic and it's causing you confusion. 

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To accept something implies you are resisting. Resistance is usually a strong force that you may not even notice because it is so subtle in the back of your mind, most of the time it has been there for years with your own upbringing and cultural conditioning. Most people feel resistant towards something, so it’s a normal thing. A good way to notice it is to exhale. You can try to let go or try the Sedona method. Try to see things from a different perspective by learning new ideas and you’ll realise why you were resistant in the first place.

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@SQAAD You cant accept acceptance, so drop the need to accept that. Just drop it. Let it out of your mind. When another thought arises, drop that one too. Repeat. 

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