Help for Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)

[Ima Freeman]

Anybody here has a proper strategy for dealing with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria in case of a neurodivergent person having problems to communicate and contextualize rsponses from others.

 

I'm not a fan of pathologizing too much, but this morbitity just hits the nail on it's head for me.

I have the tendency of generalizing that others dislike me, with leads to hating others in general, withdraw and self medicate.

Edited Wednesday at 05:36 PM by Ima Freeman

[Ulax]

If its ADHD-related, consider meds

Learn frame-control

[TheCloud]

Part of my ongoing process for handling criticism is giving up on my various misconceptions that I either can control others or would at least be better off if I could.  That's ultimately what avoiding criticism is, is controlling other people in such a way that criticisms can't come out, whether it's through perfectionism or defensive reactions or total avoidance.  In the end, none of those strategies are enough to defeat the final and greatest critic that is myself, which means they fall fundamentally short in keeping me safe.

Acknowledging over and over that every time I fall back onto those methods, I'm falling back onto a failing method, a failure that I am presently going to experience, is how I keep driving myself forward in transforming my controlling efforts into connecting efforts.

[Ima Freeman]

12 hours ago, Ulax said:

If its ADHD-related, consider meds

Learn frame-control

I consider anti-anxiety meds. Empirically sedatives helped me the best. Maybe Buspirone. 
Stimulants make me too eccentric, especially if taken regularly.

Although I dislike taking drugs that change my brain chemistry for longer periods of time. 

[Ima Freeman]

4 hours ago, TheCloud said:

Part of my ongoing process for handling criticism is giving up on my various misconceptions that I either can control others or would at least be better off if I could.  That's ultimately what avoiding criticism is, is controlling other people in such a way that criticisms can't come out, whether it's through perfectionism or defensive reactions or total avoidance.  In the end, none of those strategies are enough to defeat the final and greatest critic that is myself, which means they fall fundamentally short in keeping me safe.

Acknowledging over and over that every time I fall back onto those methods, I'm falling back onto a failing method, a failure that I am presently going to experience, is how I keep driving myself forward in transforming my controlling efforts into connecting efforts.

I can see quite some aspects of my experiences in your post.

Back in the day i withdrew and self medicated with alcohol,...

Recently I tried to be excellent and get the respect from others this way.

At other times I split of groups of people, because I could not handle being around them, I was too agitated.


In essence, I hate my incompetent, handicapped mind when it comes to interact with my peers. 
I have the need to socialize, but it is such a strain at the same time.

Maybe I should take more breaks from others, with the risk of getting antisocial and pushing people away. That may lead to the strengthening of my psychological scheme and to missed opportunities for learning.  

[Hojo]

You have to take yourself out of social interaction for a period. When you feel like you want to share something dont. When you feel like you have input in conversation dont do it. Wait for people to ask you.

 

If you feel like you have trouble in basic communications then take yourself out for awhile. You will notice something very special when you do this.

When the pressure building up that you want to say something just let it go and the pressure goes somewhere else.

You are internally building pressure and expecting others to releive it. When you dont get the reaction you want you get upset.

The pressure you are feeling is a tool you can weild. It has a impact on reality.

Edited Thursday at 10:21 PM by Hojo

[integration journey]

A prescription of Guanficine 

[TheCloud]

On 11/12/2026 at 0:01 AM, Ima Freeman said:

I can see quite some aspects of my experiences in your post.

Back in the day i withdrew and self medicated with alcohol,...

Recently I tried to be excellent and get the respect from others this way.

At other times I split of groups of people, because I could not handle being around them, I was too agitated.


In essence, I hate my incompetent, handicapped mind when it comes to interact with my peers. 
I have the need to socialize, but it is such a strain at the same time.

Maybe I should take more breaks from others, with the risk of getting antisocial and pushing people away. That may lead to the strengthening of my psychological scheme and to missed opportunities for learning.  

Examine your contradictions;  you think of yourself as incompetent, but you want others to think otherwise and accept you.  If others thought of you the way you think of yourself, you would be rejected by them.

One question is;  are you right about how you are and how you deserve to be treated?  How incompetent are you, and what sort of treatment is appropriate for such incompetence?  Seek to be right in yourself first, then share that with others, rather than seeking an acceptance you don't (think you) deserve from others, then somehow hoping you will end up deserving it.