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[blankisomeone]

On 04/11/2026 at 8:28 PM, pablo_aka_god said:

I never felt like I was carrying their energy. Is this a real thing? Can't you just decide to not carry it?

Yes, real thing. Can't decide, wait it out.

I actually can't grasp the concept of hooking up and then immediately being able to cut ties with the person on all levels (mental, emotional, spiritual) as you walk out the door, and then just go on merrily with your life. I'd love to be able to do that, sounds fun. Either I'm doing it wrong and/or have some emotional issues that I need therapy for OR I'm tapped into something wiser than the people who are able to do it are. I'm open to both possibilities.

Edited Friday at 02:41 AM by blankisomeone

[Joshe]

I can relate. As soon as I have sex with a woman, I have a soft spot for her. I don't necessarily want to be with her just because I slept with her, but after sex, if she comes to me and wants warmth or for me to listen to her or anything else, I'm very willing to be there however she wants. Maybe I feel like I owe it to her?

This often isn't ideal because you become emotionally invested in someone you really don't want a serious relationship with. This led me into bad relationships. 

 

 

Edited Saturday at 03:44 AM by Joshe

[aurum]

People desensitize to it over time, once they've done it a lot.

[Joshe]

56 minutes ago, aurum said:

People desensitize to it over time, once they've done it a lot.

I didn't. It depends on character/personality. 

[Atb210201]

It's better to feel pain than to act on lust.

Feeling pain and crying elevates your soul.

Acting on lust degrades your soul.

If it ever comes down to this choice it's always better to feel the pain.

[Olaf]

Well I had a one night stand 2 days ago, I kind of still feel weird about it, because it was amazing, but also I kind of felt love for her when she slept in my arms and it is kind of heartbreaking that I am not with her now. But even if I knew that it would break my heart a little, I would still do it again. But if you do this on a daily basis, I can see how you can completly lose contact with your heart, I also get now why they don't sleep next to her, because if they will sleep next to her they will feel a stronger bond with her and it gets intimate, which to some people is scary, to feel love for someone and makes it harder to then go on the next day to get some new girl.