I wanna become active in this forum

[jacknine119]

I feel lonely. I have no consistent friends. I realized that I block myself in it, because I don’t initiate texts and meetings. 

 

I don’t hope that I will find friends here or something but this intellectual interactions will help me in a social side.

 

Do you agree with me that forum can help me in some way?? 
 

 

[jacknine119]

Also I am trying to avoid using AI a lot but if my English is bad I will use it more to help me to express my thoughts. Thanks 

Edited Tuesday at 06:49 PM by jacknine119

[Vido]

Hey welcome! I think everyone feels lonely, i know i do. I'm also trying to more active in forum. I think just participating in any social situation helps you 100%

 

If you are busy like me, i usually just go the people profile i like like leo, Natasha or anyone really you like  and see what post they recently posted on, then if i have an opinion i would share it and leave.

That's takes like 5mins in day randomly. That's a easy way to dip your foot in. And honestly is super fun. You randomly come across perspectives that's super interesting.

[Heaven]

Socializing is a skill that one can develop by practicing it.

I was extremely introverted and now people are saying how extroverted you are🤔 haha that’s only because I practice it and force myself out of my comfort zone 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@jacknine119 The forum can be a great tool to dive into social realms, connection, intellectual debate and sparring. You can make it what you wish  (within the guidelines, of course).

You might want to think about a journal to offload any charged emotions that need an outlet, if you are unsure how to engage in discussions.

I find the forum has been an asset for my growth - through moderation, intellectual jousting & shadow work (egoic triggering). There is nothing else like the direct feedback you get from others in contrast and friction with your ideas and beliefs. This forum in particular has some very unusual thinkers who present ideas and alternative explanations you may have never considered (some are way, way off from truth and some right on the mark. Most are middling in between).

Sometimes to ease loneliness, we just need to allow ourselves to feel it. Don't avoid it. 

No one is burdened by you here  We love a good mind!

[Ramanujan]

dont shitpost. also dont get addicted. 

[jacknine119]

@Ramanujan okay 👌 

[jacknine119]

@Natasha Tori Maru Right! The best part about this forum is that no one judges you.:)

[bazera]

38 minutes ago, jacknine119 said:

The best part about this forum is that no one judges you

You'll have a rude awakening on this 

But that's fine, people judging you isn't that bad, it comes with any socialization. But this places encourages that to be more conscious activity.

[jacknine119]

@bazera why isn’t bad if people judge me? 
on the one hand I realize that i shouldn’t care about others opinion but on the other hand I can’t feel free in a places where i feel someone is judging me. 

[bazera]

@jacknine119 First of all, what you call judging could be coming from good intentions from someone. Even if it isn't, so what? You feel negative emotions sure, but you can still learn something from that situation. 

Of course constant judgement creates unnecessary drama and might distract you from more important things, so sometimes it's good to avoid it. But often times you just can't, if you deal with people long enough.

Why do you think it's bad if people judge you? Give me concrete examples.