My Dating & Cold Approach Journey thread

[Olaf]

I am going out between 2 to 5 times a week and I talk quite allot about dating and approaching so I thought making one thread to talk about it. So this is gonna be the my dating/approaching journey thread. In this thread I will share thoughts that I have, daily reports, my opinions aswell as things I learn or things I am not sure on yet, but thoughts I would like to share. Winter is coming, but I am still planning to keep approaching in winter atleast 2 nights/days a week. Feel free to react to my posts on here. 

[Olaf]

Som notes after approaching 100 sets of girls in a day:

-Okay so what I learned was being disinterested and not being interested
-you are the king, the price and the men, they are just boring girls
-more abundance makes you pickier, don't waste time on shit that doesn't resonate
-we live on a wavelength and some girls just not on the same wavelength as us
-Don't force attraction, attraction should be instant, they either down to fuck or they not down almost in seconds/minutes
-don't try to correct a bad approach, experiment with approaches and some approaches will fall flat even when in deep flow, accept and go to the next (don't resolve a broken case)
-just because one girl doesn't like you, doesn't mean the next girl doesn't want to fuck you hard on the sink
-energy is everything, don't think, act, don't strategise, free flow and have fun
-make people do shit with photos, take a photo and tell them to hold the fries and tell her to give you a million dollar smile, self amuse with everything
-work harder, approaching is work, you work for success of the process not for getting laid
-the pay off from game is that you become a more high value indifferent men. Not that you know how to show your interest in woman, but how to get woman interested in you
-game is some voodoo shit, it is energy that can be projected, frame is energy, if you have the energy that you are the shit, they will treat you that way
-play games with them a little bit, not too much, they say really? you say yes, then they ask again really? you say no. 
-You have to make conversations fun by engaging with them emotionally and by engaging with them emotionally you will give them value, not by saying the "accurate" thing
-Girls are MUCH more focused on your energy and emotional engagement then they are focused on you
-woman love it when you walk away, especially if it is not out of fear, but out of being half invested in the conversation
-girls get horny when you are not interested in them
-when you approach so much, you become numb, which means rejections don't hit you, you don't cling to conversations
-you are focused on your self and your journey, from going outside, to going inside, doing your job and all these woman are just customers
-woman don't give a shit about nice guys, because they date UP, it is not that they need an asshole, they just need someone who isn't interested in them
-it is easy to attract less attractive girls, because you are not interested, but if you could be uninterested in "attractive" girls, it would be easier
-you don't need to be fun, because you are enough, you just need to be present with them, hold that eye contact and see if they want you. Because when they really want you, you can see it in the eyes
-The important thing is to keep the same frame throughout. Don’t go from enjoying the interaction to chasing someone’s validation just because you find them especially attractive. The mindset shouldn’t change based on how attractive you think the person is.
-When you are so much in lack with an unattractive woman and chase her, she will still see you more low value then her, even If you are more attractive, it is frame
-strength is simply not giving a fuck. You give fucks about her, why? She is just one of the 100, don't be so invested
-It is a numbers game, because one girl likes you another doesn't, even when you are in deep flow
-you will still fuck up, you will still make mistakes, even in flow, you will open wrongly, but that doesn't matter, next one
-it is harder to restore a bad conversation then to start a new conversation and do it well
-no pressure on doing well, because just find a next one to do it better
-why try to making woman like you who aren't interested, slightly interested okay fine, but not at all interested is a no go, as you will be chasing her and lower your value
-what you do in this set will effect your next set, if you first act low value and the next one high value, that doesn't work, high value all the way
-high value behaviour is not chasing, not putting her on a pedestal, having emotional connection instantly, have strong frame that you are the shit
-high value behaviour is to be disinterested 
-being disinterested means simply you are more interested in something else then her, aka the process, achieving a certain goal, a certain mission (not the goal of closing or attracting)

-feel an emotion and talk from that emotion instead of thinking/talking logically, feel an emotion and express it verbally
-walking away, talking with a walking set with your head backwards and body forwards, or almost walking away, all of these give the feeling that you got to go (physical false time constraint)

Edited 3 hours ago by Olaf

[Olaf]

I was out with my wingmen that night, who helped to push me aswell. What my wingmen noticed about my energy during the 100 sets (I translated some of the stuff he wrote down in dutch)

1. grounded & congruent

2. emotionally & energetically connected with woman

3. Not outcome dependent 

4. Giving more, needing less

5. Better vocal projection

6. Easier opening, it felt very natural and easy

7. Abundance, ready to leave if you weren't interested, unconsciously qualifying her, not needing anything and just giving

8. You could see the attraction in their eyes

Edited 3 hours ago by Olaf

[Ulax]

[LordFall]

If we fast forward 1 year from now to the day so October 3rd 2027, what are a few goals you would like to have accomplished in game by then and what do you think could stop you from achieving those goals? 

Also, are you happy with your current progress so far? 

Edited 2 hours ago by LordFall

[Olaf]

@LordFall interesting, I would say, be more confident, better inner game especially, but also understand game better, be able to not stand in my own way and have more girls both interested in me and being able to pull. I don't really care about a certain numbers of girls that I pull this year, but just that I get to have the possibility more often to pull. And a big thing then also is again to not stand in my own way (self sabotage/fuck up)

[PenguinPablo]

You dropped this 👑, king.