Polygamy- does it work

[Inliytened1]

Just now, LordFall said:

Why not? Anybody can point out behaviours that seem problematic in their view.

If you have too much ego to take it to heart and reflect on it; that's on you. 

What's problematic? That i didn't think it through before I fucked them? A degree of recklessness is needed in my estimation so that you can say you've lived.  And I surely have.  If it ended today I would  be satisfied. 

 

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

"Problematic" is a code word for f a g g o t r y, similiar to all the other buzzwords describing someone's specific prejudice

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[Inliytened1]

17 hours ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

"Problematic" is a code word for f a g g o t r y, similiar to all the other buzzwords describing someone's specific prejudice

It's a code word for something. 

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[Inliytened1]

44 minutes ago, LordFall said:

I think it produces short-term results but medium term and long term you've built your life on a house of cards. I'm trying to push you towards deeper introspection so you can avoid repeating mistakes. This mindset has served me well personally.

I do enjoy your wild stories, I just want you to be able to build your dream dating life brother. That has been a decade plus long quest for me so I'm quite passionate about helping others achieve it for themselves. 

Yes when it comes to women I built it on a house of cards but not the other aspects.  And I did this intentionally.  Am I left with nothing now? Yeah. But I have also avoided the nagging. So now let's get a younger one.  Built on a house of cards.

Edited 21 hours ago by Inliytened1

[aurum]

Best argument for polyamory is potentially that it just allows for more people to help raise the children.

Raising children with two people alone can be very challenging. Usually you at least need some extended family involved, or maybe some hired help.

People in throuples often report it can be beneficial.

[Inliytened1]

36 minutes ago, aurum said:

Best argument for polyamory is potentially that it just allows for more people to help raise the children.

Raising children with two people alone can be very challenging. Usually you at least need some extended family involved, or maybe some hired help.

People in throuples often report it can be beneficial.

No the best argument for it is so you can stick your dick in two different pussys. 

Edited 19 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Asayake]

6 hours ago, something_else said:

I think that’s quite an idealised view of how that would work, the reality would not be so idyllic 

Exactly. I can think of a few problems at the top of my head:

1, coherent parenting, each person is going to have a different idea of how to parent, getting everyone on the same page is going to be more difficult the more people you have which is why in bigger companies for example you need multiple roles to manage, lead & unify the team.

2, jealousy / tensions within the group, some tasks are gonna be disproportionally less enjoyable and the person who has to carry that will breed resentment if you dont have some kind of task rotation system. Beyond this jealousy & competitiveness in between the women can grow and create dram. How are you going to have time maintaining connection & spending 1 on 1 quality time with multiple women while working and raising kids, if a woman gets downprioritized theyll suffer ans feel neglected and jealous.

3. Societal/cultural friction, almost no matter where you go, the kid will face judgement from peers when he tells his friends in school he has 4 moms. Other families will avoid your family and view your influence as potentially harmful to their child. Creates an innecessary bullying target etc. You also have to deal with the extended families of the women, whats cheistmas dinner gonna be like when your 4 wives families all are gathered together, how likely is it they will look happily at your setup? 

4. Money/logistical problems: if each woman works theyre gonna be away a lot most likely which defeats the purpose of the coparenting, if they dont work you have to provide for them which means you have to work more which means you have less time for the women and children which creates problems as mentioned above.

 

there are probably more problems but just at the top of my head

[Asayake]

8 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

So the secret to maintaining 4 girlfriends in America is ensure at least 3 of them don't own a car.  That way you're safe from them coming over while you're fucking a different one.  I couldn't control the fourth. That was Stacy. Quite wealthy.  I had to board up the windows to keep her out while I was getting busy 

Do you feel remorse about how you handled that? I mean you basically cheated on 4 women and tricked them into a relationship on false premises, that is the type of thing that can create a trauma in them that makes it hard for them to trust men again.

[Inliytened1]

19 minutes ago, Asayake said:

Do you feel remorse about how you handled that? I mean you basically cheated on 4 women and tricked them into a relationship on false premises, that is the type of thing that can create a trauma in them that makes it hard for them to trust men again.

Naw one was a swinger, one was married, and one just wanted to be taken care of.  They didn't care about the others because I played it right.   

Edited 18 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Asayake]

3 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Naw one was a swinger, one was married, and one just wanted to be taken care of.  They didn't care about the others because I played it right.   

You said this “These weren't polyamory chicks.  Just regular old chicks.  Like you said. Winged it. Didn't do it right.  So here I am juggling four girls.  Did I lie to them? I don't think they asked.  But I surely didn't offer it up. ”

what do you mean by played it right, they never knew about the others? And btw what you described is lying by omission, just because they didnt ask if you had other girlfriends doesnt mean you didnt lie..

[LordFall]

3 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

It's a code word for pussy

I hope that you're a better man than backhanded insults. There is no need to get triggered. I was merely pointing to the fact that to have a chance in hell of making a polyamorous relationship work then an ethical non-monogamy framework is your best bet.

4 hours ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

"Problematic" is a code word for f a g g o t r y, similiar to all the other buzzwords describing someone's specific prejudice

You're clearly one of the smartest people we have on this forum. 

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

What we can say with utmost unshakeable confidence at this point, is that having a classicall, chuddy provider frame will definitely not get you to a real, actual polygamy. Neither will the loverboy frame

[Mellowmarsh]

13 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

What's problematic? That i didn't think it through before I fucked them? A degree of recklessness is needed in my estimation so that you can say you've lived.  And I surely have.  If it ended today I would  be satisfied. 

 

And that in my estimation is the only real and true authentic way to live. And as the end draws near, as you lay all shagged out and weary upon your deathbed, before you take your final breath, before you finally close this amazing chapter of your life, you will at least know you’ve gone out with a bang, 💥 knowing full well to the best of your ability that you certainly did live the most satisfying beautiful story ever written by yours truly, and that is was indeed the greatest story of your life. 

Good for you. 👍 And may you be filled with everlasting peace, love and light, forever eternal. Amen. 😉😇🥳

 

Moral of the story.. if you’re gonna bang, bang good. Make it the Biggest Bang ever. 🙌💯💥And go out smiling. 😊 

 

 

 

Edited 9 hours ago by Mellowmarsh

[Mellowmarsh]

I’ve changed my mind. In my next life I want to be a swinger, and go out swinging. Fuck it, I can do whatever I want, even if it kill’s me. Just do what you want whatever makes you happy, whatever brings you comfort and joy, and just let it kill you, because you only pass this way once, don’t waste a second procrastinating, just fuckin do it. 
 

Polygamy and Polyandry is on my to do list too, heck I’ve got the rest of eternity to please myself. Halefuckinluya. 🤩

 

My God, I feel so freaking liberated right now, I think I’m coming….round to everything, finally. 

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[something_else]

 

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To me it sounds like quite an interest way to live your life.

Oh I agree with that, if you wanted to try this out without kids being involved then go for it. But interesting lifestyles aren’t always great for raising kids. Stability is more important. I think you could make an argument for it being quite unethical from that POV.

Out of curiosity, what is it that drives you so much towards this harem setup?

[Inliytened1]

13 hours ago, LordFall said:

I hope that you're a better man than backhanded insults. There is no need to get triggered. I was merely pointing to the fact that to have a chance in hell of making a polyamorous relationship work then an ethical non-monogamy framework is your best bet.

You're clearly one of the smartest people we have on this forum. 

Yeah my bad.  But yes if you are going to date multiple women its better if they all accept it and are ok with the whole thing.

[LordFall]

6 hours ago, something_else said:

 

Oh I agree with that, if you wanted to try this out without kids being involved then go for it. But interesting lifestyles aren’t always great for raising kids. Stability is more important. I think you could make an argument for it being quite unethical from that POV.

Out of curiosity, what is it that drives you so much towards this harem setup?

I don't think you can make that point at all my man. I've already said that you can argue that it's just as good if not better for kids to be raised in a polyamorous household. Studies back there being no observed difference in outcomes for kids raised in either type of household.

I like to build communities of like-minded people since then we can elevate the quality of discussions, interactions and overall level of results compared to baseline society. I do it with my creative communities as well as some business clubs I run. I think the baseline of humans is quite low level and mediocre.

I think the same thing can be achieved for a group relationship that produces a higher level of interdependence between the partners and I think if I look at my life over a 30+ years horizon if I can manage to have a few quality women by my side to build my household and later on dynasty I think we can achieve great things and have a blast in the process.

Also like our wise friend said here 

17 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

No the best argument for it is so you can stick your dick in two different pussys. 

I dislike the anti sex sentiment that the spiritual community tends to have. I have a high sex drive and enjoy exploring sexuality and BDSM so me and my women will have great times that's for sure. 

2 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

Yeah my bad.  But yes if you are going to date multiple women its better if they all accept it and are ok with the whole thing.

It's fine but I want to keep pushing on this because I think we unearthed some interesting psychology here. Clearly you dislike being challenged and tend to lash out as a result. You said that your dominance trait tended to become a problem in your relationships. Do you think it's related? 

Edited 1 hour ago by LordFall

[Inliytened1]

1 hour ago, LordFall said:

I don't think you can make that point at all my man. I've already said that you can argue that it's just as good if not better for kids to be raised in a polyamorous household. Studies back there being no observed difference in outcomes for kids raised in either type of household.

I like to build communities of like-minded people since then we can elevate the quality of discussions, interactions and overall level of results compared to baseline society. I do it with my creative communities as well as some business clubs I run. I think the baseline of humans is quite low level and mediocre.

I think the same thing can be achieved for a group relationship that produces a higher level of interdependence between the partners and I think if I look at my life over a 30+ years horizon if I can manage to have a few quality women by my side to build my household and later on dynasty I think we can achieve great things and have a blast in the process.

Also like our wise friend said here 

I dislike the anti sex sentiment that the spiritual community tends to have. I have a high sex drive and enjoy exploring sexuality and BDSM so me and my women will have great times that's for sure. 

It's fine but I want to keep pushing on this because I think we unearthed some interesting psychology here. Clearly you dislike being challenged and tend to lash out as a result. You said that your dominance trait tended to become a problem in your relationships. Do you think it's related? 

I don't see how I lashed out. I just didn't see what was poblematic about it and just gave you some shit.  But i went a bjt too far.  When it came to women I have been reckless and admit that. But hey, it all worked out. And I had some of the best sex of my life last night! That's why I disappeared for a bit.  Wow. I am still recovering and she is ready for round 2! 😉

Edited 33 minutes ago by Inliytened1

[LordFall]

10 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

I don't see how I lashed out. I just didn't see what was poblematic about it and just gave you some shit.  But i went a bot too far.  When it came to women I have been reckless and admit that. But hey, it all worked out. And I had some of the best sex of my life last night! That's why I disappeared for a bit.  Wow. I am still recovering and she is ready for round 2! 😉

You have a pattern of avoidance; Natasha described it in the sex post here. You clearly lashed out pretty belligerently after I called you out on being irresponsible last page and you did the same to a few other people on the other thread as well. 

I'm the wrong person to call a pussy, I'm happy to keep fighting to the death. Whatever comes after will surely offer me more entertainment. Competing with other males is one of my greatest joys in this life. Since you pivoted and apologized; I'm also fine with that.

Happy you got some good sex bro, that's one of the greatest gifts the universe has in store for us. Is that from the same bird you were telling us about the other day or you found another one? 

Edited 25 minutes ago by LordFall

[Inliytened1]

11 minutes ago, LordFall said:

You have a pattern of avoidance; Natasha described it in the sex post here. You clearly lashed out pretty belligerently after I called you out on being irresponsible last page and you did the same to a few other people on the other thread as well. 

I'm the wrong person to call a pussy, I'm happy to keep fighting to the death. Competing with other males is one of my greatest joys in life. Since you want to pivot and apologized then I'm fine with that.

Happy you got some good sex bro, that's some of the sweet gift the universe gifts us. Is that from the same bird you were telling us about the other day or you found another one? 

Here's what I think now, looking back at my age.  I think a healthy balance of leveraging strategy, planning and thought outweighs being wild and winging it. But I think a degree of that is healthy too.  That's what a lot of the guys trying to do pickup and failing are missing. That natural element. They are trying to make it too much into a science when it doesn't have to be.

Gonna keep which one it was to my chest. Suffice it to say it felt brand new and it felt great.

Edited 19 minutes ago by Inliytened1