Where have you fucked a girl?

[something_else]

24 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Higher values are encouraged yet you spend most of your time in this section.  I have not seen you in the high consciousness area at ALL. 

 

I'm not sure how that's relevant, the 'higher values' point generally applies to all sections on a forum like this, it's the whole point of being here.

The dating section is the area I have the most direct experience in, hence why I spend the most time actually commenting here. I read the consciousness section but I don't have as much direct experience to draw from there so I don't comment as much.

[Ulax]

32 minutes ago, something_else said:

Just because lots of people do it doesn’t make it right. Especially on a forum where higher values are generally encouraged.

Care to elaborate on… why? It’s very comparable.

You cannot make exploiting someone's finances win-win

[questionreality]

52 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

We don't really have a way to make a men's only section, or maybe we should for this kind of stuff.  Because I didn't want to offend women. Ike you said, I really care about women but we're just guys having fun.  I guess it can offend people too.  But we're men.  So..

Majority on this forum are men. Certainly threads like this carry a lot of value for men. And as I said, nobody is forcing women or anyone else to read this thread. Why are they torturing themselves, I have no idea...

 If you notice also, a lot of those men that choose to get offended usually don't get laid at all and have serious troubles. Hence why they don't have the answer to the actual question that was asked in this thread.

Go figure 

[Inliytened1]

15 minutes ago, something_else said:

I'm not sure how that's relevant, the 'higher values' point generally applies to all sections on a forum like this, it's the whole point of being here.

The dating section is the area I have the most direct experience in, hence why I spend the most time actually commenting here. I read the consciousness section but I don't have as much direct experience to draw from there so I don't comment as much.

It sadly does not apply to all sections of the forum.  This area is the most shallow.  There are lot of higher consciousness areas.  Even if you don't have anything to offer you could chime in but you don't.  So don't lecture me on high conscoiusness when you can't even be part of the dialogue.

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[something_else]

4 minutes ago, questionreality said:

If you notice also, a lot of those men that choose to get offended usually don't get laid at all and have serious troubles. Hence why they don't have the answer to the actual question that was asked in this thread.

Speak for yourself

[questionreality]

44 minutes ago, something_else said:

Just because lots of people do it doesn’t make it right. Especially on a forum where higher values are generally encouraged.

Who made you the voice of truth? Who are you to say what is right, wrong and "higher values" are?

You must be a masochist for continuing to engage in such "low consciousness" thread and torturing yourself. 

[something_else]

3 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

it sadly does not apply to all sections of the forum.  This area is the most shallow.  There are lot of higher consciousness areas.  Even if you don't have anything to offer you could chime in but you don't.  So don't lecture me on high conscoiusness when you can't even be part of the dialogue.

I'm not even sure how to approach replying to this. You called women "whales" and "ugly bitches" which is indefensible regardless of how much you comment in the high consciousness areas of the forum.

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, questionreality said:

Who made you the voice of truth? Who are you to say what is right, wrong and "higher values" are?

You must be a masochist for continuing to engage in such "low consciousness" thread and torturing yourself. 

They wanna be the voice of truth, yet they sit and wonder how to get laid.

[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, something_else said:

I'm not even sure how to approach replying to this. You called women "whales" and "ugly bitches" which is indefensible regardless of how much you comment in the high consciousness areas of the forum.

You judge women too. You judge who you want to sleep with.

Edited 2 hours ago by Inliytened1

[something_else]

1 minute ago, questionreality said:

Who made you the voice of truth? Who are you to say what is right, wrong and "higher values" are?

You must be a masochist for continuing to engage in such "low consciousness" thread and torturing yourself. 

Again, there are parts of this thread that are clearly very insulting, and unnecessarily so. If someone is using terms which are both entirely unnecessary for their point and very insulting, it is hard to argue that is acceptable behaviour. You don't need to be an arbiter of morality to see that's not behaviour that should be accepted.

[Inliytened1]

4 minutes ago, something_else said:

Again, there are parts of this thread that are clearly very insulting, and unnecessarily so. If someone is using terms which are both entirely unnecessary for their point and very insulting, it is hard to argue that is acceptable behaviour. You don't need to be an arbiter of morality to see that's not behaviour that should be accepted.

You mean the part where i judged women just like you do?  All I really said was what my standards are.  I didn't say being fat was bad.  It's juts not for me.  So, you take it the way you will.  

[something_else]

1 minute ago, Inliytened1 said:

You judge women too. You judge who you want to sleep with.

Of course. I'm not above that. But a mindset of "I am not personally attracted to overweight women" is very different from calling someone a whale.

In fact part of the reason I feel fairly passionate about this is that I used to be quite callous in the language I used to talk about women until I realised the harm it causes. I would not want people talking about me or people I care about like that.

This realisation came from reading how women in places like FemaleDatingStrategy talk about men. It made me feel quite unpleasant and bitter, after which I realised that I was basically doing the same thing in reverse with how I was talking about women's bodies.

 

[questionreality]

8 minutes ago, something_else said:

Again, there are parts of this thread that are clearly very insulting, and unnecessarily so. If someone is using terms which are both entirely unnecessary for their point and very insulting, it is hard to argue that is acceptable behaviour. You don't need to be an arbiter of morality to see that's not behaviour that should be accepted.

First of all, he already retracted and apologized for anyone he already offended for those two terms. The fact that you continue to bring it up after he has apologized says a lot more about you as a person than it does about him.

Second of all, those terms were used for past experiences, and he didn't insult anyone in particular on this forum or someone he is engaging with now. 

Who appointed you to be arbiter of morality and truth? 

If you put as much time and energy into your dating life as you do getting offended over pity things, you’d probably have a lot more success.

Edited 2 hours ago by questionreality

[Inliytened1]

Just now, something_else said:

Of course. I'm not above that. But a mindset of "I am not personally attracted to overweight women" is very different from calling someone a whale.

In fact part of the reason I feel fairly passionate about this is that I used to be quite callous in the language I used to talk about women until I realised the harm it causes. I would not want people talking about me or people I care about like that.

This realisation came from reading how women in places like FemaleDatingStrategy talk about men. It made me feel quite unpleasant and bitter, after which I realised that I was basically doing the same thing in reverse with how I was talking about women's bodies.

 

Look man, i retracted that, let's let it go and move on.  

[Inliytened1]

7 minutes ago, questionreality said:

First of all, he already retracted and apologized for anyone he already offended for those two terms. The fact that you continue to bring it up after he has apologized says a lot more about you as a person than it does about him.

Second of all, those terms were used for past experiences, and he didn't insult anyone in particular on this forum or someone he is engaging with now. 

Who appointed you to be arbiter of morality and truth? 

If you put as much time and energy into your dating life as you do getting offended over pity things, you’d probably have a lot more success.

They're just hard up...I mean let go a little and you might actually get laid

 

[Ulax]

23 minutes ago, something_else said:

Again, there are parts of this thread that are clearly very insulting, and unnecessarily so. If someone is using terms which are both entirely unnecessary for their point and very insulting, it is hard to argue that is acceptable behaviour. You don't need to be an arbiter of morality to see that's not behaviour that should be accepted.

He already apologised for that

[something_else]

11 minutes ago, questionreality said:

First of all, he already retracted and apologized for anyone he already offended for those two terms. The fact that you continue to bring it up after he has apologized says a lot more about you as a person than it does about him.

It's not like those are the only examples of this kind of language in this thread, and I'm not targeting this specifically at him. It was a broader point about the language from several different people across the entire thread.

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Second of all, those terms were used for past experiences, and he didn't insult anyone in particular on this forum or someone he is engaging with now. 

I would argue that actually makes it worse, not better. If you're going to insult someone you should at least say things you'd be willing to say to their face.

15 minutes ago, questionreality said:

If you put as much time and energy into your dating life as you do getting offended over pity things, you’d probably have a lot more success.

I do just fine, thank you very much. In fact, I've actually noticed my dating life getting significantly better as a result of viewing women as human beings and not pieces of meat. Surprising, I know.

[Valach]

@something_else Why do you even bother discussing this with them at this point bro..

Edited 2 hours ago by Valach

[something_else]

Just now, Ulax said:

He already apologised for that

Again, this was not targeting @Inliytened1 specifically, there are many examples of that kind of language in this thread from several different users, hence why I worded it in a general way.

[questionreality]

5 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

They're just hard up...I mean let go a little and you might actually get laid

 

Their psychology is mind boggling to me. They are  struggling with getting laid, yet here you are with such vast experience in exactly that. Instead of learning from you, asking you questions, and trying to understand what works, they choose to engage in this petty bullshit instead.