The Tension Before the Approach

[Natasha Tori Maru]

18 hours ago, Olaf said:

@Natasha Tori Maru yes so you say they observe theorise classify. Meaning they are missing both connecting as well as questioning. What would you say especially about connect? I think both me and some other guys might be a bit confused about that. 

If connection and the concept seems daunting - try thinking of just receiving.

Receive her. All of her. Her totality. 

[Olaf]

@Natasha Tori Maru intresting, I will try it out today

[Olaf]

btw this song helps me get into state

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gJYjbDnyx-o&list=RDgJYjbDnyx-o&start_radio=1

 

[Olaf]

While my wingmen is now on a date with a 9 who I pushed him to approached, I am having extra motivation to go out. Like now it feels like anything is possible and there is 0 competition. He told me that girl said to him she never got approached, probably because everyone is too intimidated to go up and approach, but this is an example of what can happen when you just go anyways. I could have been sitting on a date with her if I approached first, so now my mind is blown and literally is like, why the fuck do I sit at home? Lets go out and approach. Some motivation for you guys too, what the fuck are you doing at home watching Netflix for? Go out and have fun.

[LordFall]

5 hours ago, Olaf said:

While my wingmen is now on a date with a 9 who I pushed him to approached, I am having extra motivation to go out. Like now it feels like anything is possible and there is 0 competition. He told me that girl said to him she never got approached, probably because everyone is too intimidated to go up and approach, but this is an example of what can happen when you just go anyways. I could have been sitting on a date with her if I approached first, so now my mind is blown and literally is like, why the fuck do I sit at home? Lets go out and approach. Some motivation for you guys too, what the fuck are you doing at home watching Netflix for? Go out and have fun.

Keep it up! You seem to be gaining momentum, that's when the real fun happens and you start to get consistent results instead of just talking with strangers on the street. 

[Olaf]

@LordFall yes I was out for 4 days this week, I am really starting to get better at it. I am learning some stuff I will share on here too. 

[Raze]

On 8/12/2026 at 4:32 AM, Natasha Tori Maru said:

This is so weird. You have such a strange take on me based on your seperate beliefs and narratives. I just don't care about all these things. I know some of your values are status and acceptance (external approval). I can only guess you are projecting these onto others (and myself).

I suspect I operate so far our of your paradigm you struggle to make sense of me. 

Owen is so far away from anything I would want, desire or be satisfied with.

You are also constantly telling me how I feel and think in your posts. It's weird man. 

Owen himself discusses this 

1:05:37 - 1:07:00
 

 

Edited Monday at 08:56 AM by Raze

[LordFall]

6 hours ago, Raze said:

Owen himself discusses this 

1:05:37 - 1:07:00
 

 

Really good clip, men without abundance hit on every woman they encounter like a thirsty dog lol. You even see it here on the forum.

Being able to sexually transmute your energy into building a high quality life and then attracting women on your own term is the best counter to this. 

[Olaf]

Okay so I have gotten rid of the tension much more and the way I warm up now is very different. I used to pressure myself towards getting more confident and approach many, which is a big leap from 0, but actually I was setting the bar too high. What I am doing now is releasing all pressure and just say hi to people and make conversation with people.

Like today I went out and of course I am in flow state, because of last weekend. but I got to talk to some students about why they were wearing certain hats, I talked to some intresting female store owner about their store and how specially it was designed inside, I talked to 2 girls if they knew anything to do in the city and talking about the city, I made some comment about people with an VR glasses and blind sticks, I asked a girl in the train which way the train goes to, which is actually funny, because I got instant social proof, the other girl in the train kept looking at me the whole ride, being intrested in me. HAHAHA train game might be a real thing. LOL.  I asked someone about some tower in the city, approached a few more people, and also made some comment about someone eating an onion lol, like basically socialising with everyone and 0 pressure on myself, which made me open with such calm vibe, it felt very normal and grounded too.

It isn´t too many people like maybe 15 approaches of both guys and girls in total, but that was also kind of the point, to not put pressure on myself and only socialise when you naturally feel that desire or impulse to do so. Now when you are with your wingmen, you can put pressure on eachother what might be different, but alone if I put too much pressure on myself I get all tensed up, so I am learning to release how `effective` I am and just chat up people normally.

I did during the weekend, but I was alone today. The only rule I have is to just say Hi, goodday to many people I said atleast to 40 people Hi, so from there you naturally want to talk to others aswell. Now because I am in social state, when I go out with my wingmen tomorrow, I think I will crush it, because I am remaining social state and with my wing I will actually approach many girls, just as last weekend where I approached atleast 100 girls. It is crazy how much better I do with a wingman, maybe because it helps me to feel dominant, when I am trying to help him too and I am not just doing it for myself alone, its a kind of selfless thing, act of service. Unless you are the wingmen who only tries to take from the other, which is not me.

 

[Ulax]

5 hours ago, Olaf said:

Okay so I have gotten rid of the tension much more and the way I warm up now is very different. I used to pressure myself towards getting more confident and approach many, which is a big leap from 0, but actually I was setting the bar too high. What I am doing now is releasing all pressure and just say hi to people and make conversation with people.

Like today I went out and of course I am in flow state, because of last weekend. but I got to talk to some students about why they were wearing certain hats, I talked to some intresting female store owner about their store and how specially it was designed inside, I talked to 2 girls if they knew anything to do in the city and talking about the city, I made some comment about people with an VR glasses and blind sticks, I asked a girl in the train which way the train goes to, which is actually funny, because I got instant social proof, the other girl in the train kept looking at me the whole ride, being intrested in me. HAHAHA train game might be a real thing. LOL.  I asked someone about some tower in the city, approached a few more people, and also made some comment about someone eating an onion lol, like basically socialising with everyone and 0 pressure on myself, which made me open with such calm vibe, it felt very normal and grounded too.

It isn´t too many people like maybe 15 approaches of both guys and girls in total, but that was also kind of the point, to not put pressure on myself and only socialise when you naturally feel that desire or impulse to do so. Now when you are with your wingmen, you can put pressure on eachother what might be different, but alone if I put too much pressure on myself I get all tensed up, so I am learning to release how `effective` I am and just chat up people normally.

I did during the weekend, but I was alone today. The only rule I have is to just say Hi, goodday to many people I said atleast to 40 people Hi, so from there you naturally want to talk to others aswell. Now because I am in social state, when I go out with my wingmen tomorrow, I think I will crush it, because I am remaining social state and with my wing I will actually approach many girls, just as last weekend where I approached atleast 100 girls. It is crazy how much better I do with a wingman, maybe because it helps me to feel dominant, when I am trying to help him too and I am not just doing it for myself alone, its a kind of selfless thing, act of service. Unless you are the wingmen who only tries to take from the other, which is not me.

 

Hell yeahhhh