argument with a girl

[Olaf]

@Joseph Maynor 100% but maybe I haven´t been clear in the post, this felt right in the moment, it is not that I say this in every argument. We had arguments before, but things got so heated that I thought this would legitimately not work out. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

16 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Natasha Tori Maru finally someone asking the right question. Yes I would have, that is why I am saying I am not using a technique

I think this answer is all you need to know the statement came from some authenticy / honest place.

[Joseph Maynor]

Let's get real.  In every real relationship there will be a degree of conflict and a wiser person will know how to deal with this Vs. a less wise person.  

[Jirh]

So, she folded quickly.

I think you should look into it instead of just being happy with the result and insight you got about abundance (even though you're right to be happy).

In general, if a girl folds so quickly just because she's afraid to lose a guy she just met, that must indicate something deeper, like scarcity or insecurity or poor boundaries or a combo of said things.

But in this case in specific, it seems like she was testing your scarcity and abundance, given her reply about clinginess.

Going forward, you should expect more tests and more manipulation from this girl. And I think you should decide beforehand if you are willing to put up with that kind of behaviour, and if so, you should ground yourself in healthy boundaries and not bend to her games.

[Olaf]

@Joseph Maynor elaborate

[Olaf]

@Jirh surely

[Joseph Maynor]

40 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Joseph Maynor elaborate

Every long term relationship is a compromise.  You are not going to like everything the other person does.  But you have a bond together.  Sometimes it may break too.  

Edited 3 hours ago by Joseph Maynor

[Olaf]

@Natasha Tori Maru Yes being authentic and congruent. Also, guys think you can fake stuff, when girls see right through your BS most of the time, or atleast that is what I expect of them.

[Olaf]

@Joseph Maynor Yes, agreed.

[Joseph Maynor]

Sometimes giving a little space can work wonders.  Or the opposite, one or the other might move on too.

Edited 3 hours ago by Joseph Maynor

[Mellowmarsh]

Hell is other people. Everyone knows this already. The only real and true lasting relationship is the one you have with yourself. This one never leaves. This one is never in tension. This one is the only true one. Everyone else is but a poor substitute.

Solitute is the only real and true contentment and happiness. 
 

That’s the only real and true value worth knowing. Everything else is a lie. Be true to yourself only, it’s the only authentic way to be. It’s the only truth. A truth that is fearless. A truth that lives eternally shining, unstained, and unstoppable. 
This one has no argument with itself.

Edited 3 hours ago by Mellowmarsh

[Olaf]

@Mellowmarsh I don't understand what this has to do with anything we are talking about here, seems totally off topic. 

[Mellowmarsh]

Just now, Olaf said:

@Mellowmarsh I don't understand what this has to do with anything we are talking about here, seems totally off topic. 

It’s off topic because you don’t understand that you are all just children with high libido’s consciously choosing molestation.By all means if that’s what you choose then don’t fight with it, don’t argue with it, don’t regret or resist it, just allow it to be your reality without complaining. 

[Olaf]

@Mellowmarsh I think it is better if you stay in the spiritual niche, I am not trying to have a spiritual debate here.

[Mellowmarsh]

3 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Mellowmarsh I think it is better if you stay in the spiritual niche, I am not trying to have a spiritual debate here.

It’s nothing to do with spirituality. That’s just another belief system that you are locked into by your social conditioning.

 

Its just a fact you’re not ready to hear, yet.

[Mellowmarsh]

15 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Mellowmarsh I think it is better if you stay in the spiritual niche, I am not trying to have a spiritual debate here.

Leo has already stated that these girls and boys are imaginary. Now it seems you want to pretend they are not imagined, you want girls and boys to be real, and you want to talk about them on a forum that advocates for imaginary others.

 

Seems like one cannot make up one’s mind about what is real or unreal here, so carry on , don’t mind me, I’m just a parrot too. 

[Joseph Maynor]

Spirituality is not inherently separate from relationship work.  

[Olaf]

@Mellowmarsh you sound like a parrot too that cannot read the room or in this case the forum. Like Ramana krishna singers in the middle of a square where no one gives a shit about Krishna. I am not gonna give you the argument that you want. I have better things to do.