Gentlemen, I'm officially TRAUMATIZED

[integral]

On 7/4/2026 at 2:25 PM, Zenterus said:

that last part, I came to when I excused myself to the bathroom this morning to rub one out in order to harness the divine wisdom of post nut clarity.

You need a good 3x in a row for a situation like this, dont hold a drop back 😂

[Ulax]

13 hours ago, Zenterus said:

"Hey its me, i just wanted to Tell you im in [home country] i Managed to stay Here for few weeks ill be back to [my city] when i get my Apartment and job. I just wanted to Tell you so you will Not worry and that you know. I miss you and i loved Every Minute we spend togheter thats why i wish you the best for your life your a Wunderful man. ❤️ thank you for the help you offerd an im Sorry for the trouble i brang. This all Gave me a lot of Pain but that motivates me to finally Work on my life. Thats all i wanted to say, keep going with your Channel and drawings you are Really Talented and i know youll be succesful soon. ❤️ i miss you really and im das that this all did end Like that but ill work on my life and you too be the baddest coolest which you Are already 🥰 take care of yourself and keep going im Proud how dar you have come already and you Should too. ❤️❤️"

LMAO this chick crazy af... and apparently... incredibly dyslexic.

Also why not do what girls do to recognise the crazy dudes

Edited 19 hours ago by Ulax

[Miguel1]

9 hours ago, Valach said:

It is very hard to develop this skillset if you are not forced by the world to do so. And young, attractive woman are simply not forced into that. It really is a curse for them. 

Yes. That’s why most people don’t do the work we do here. Because it is lonely at the top.

[WonderSeeker]

On 7/5/2026 at 3:25 AM, Zenterus said:

Y'all better strap up cause this is one of the craziest experiences I've had in the game so far and I don't mean that in a positive way.

First and foremost: I'm so done dealing with these girls, man.

Not only does dating take time away from my purpose and self-actualization journey, but the quality of women that I'm meeting are not even worth the sacrifice. There's always something fucked. Either she has multiple children at a very young age, or we're incompatible in our love-languages, or the sex is terrible, or she's just blatantly irresponsible, or she has some mental issue or crazy STI, or whatever. There's always something!

But this last situation takes the cake for one of the WORST experiences I've had in the dating game in the last 10 years, no joke. 

Funny thing is that I took the entirety of June off from dating in order to reground myself and build a lifestyle that felt good for me independent of outside forces. Come July, I decided to get back in the game again with this new foundation established and literally the FIRST girl I get involved with leaves me completely traumatized!

STORY-TIME -- literally shaking while I'm typing this -- 

Met this lady through daygame on the 1st of July. It was a short interaction where I found out that she was visiting my city from a nearby country because she wanted to check out the vibes and decide if she wanted to move here. She's beautiful, petite, in the mood for an adventure with the possibility of something more if she decides to stay, so "Sweet," I thought. We exchanged numbers and made plans to see each other this weekend when I would show her around the city. 

Unexpectedly, however, we spontaneously met later on that same day, after a little bit of texting, and she ended up spending the night (no sex, though, she was a virgin so we decided not to rush it).

Fast forward a couple days and I end up seeing this girl yesterday again but this time I spent the night at her hotel and also spent a good chunk of today with her, too. The vibe was very sexual, romantic, sweet, cuddly, adventurous, open, vulnerable, etc. I wasn't even thinking about sex much because we were having so much chemistry together. Awesome, right?

Well.. come to find out, this girl migrated to my city because her family basically disowned her, she has no friends, has a pending court date because she amassed MASSIVE debt due to using credit cards to buy shit for herself without the intention of ever paying it back, has stolen her parents' car without having a driver's license, has no money nor ANYWHERE that she could possibly go after she checks out at her hotel -- which basically means she might end up homeless yet seems very unbothered about that -- and keeps joking around that she wants to get married and have babies together.

As I progressively learned more and more of the above points of interest, I went from empathetic, to sympathetic, to worried about her, to then suspicious of her, then straight up afraid that I may have ended up with a girl who is looking to move in with me, to horrified that I am dealing with a very unstable person -- that last part, I came to when I excused myself to the bathroom this morning to rub one out in order to harness the divine wisdom of post nut clarity.

We had plans to spend the whole day together exploring different free festivals in the city but it was becoming obvious that this isn't a girl that I want to get super involved with but that I also couldn't just let her fend for herself. I literally had to reprimand her multiple times about the fact that she's not taking her situation seriously and that she should be coming up with a plan for what the hell she's gonna do when her checkout date (tomorrow, on sunday) comes!

I did a shit ton of research on her behalf to find woman-friendly shelters and various organizations that could help her. When I finally came up with a plan for her, I took her back to her hotel room pre-maturely and basically let her know that this aint gonna work out but I wanna help her by accompanying her to the shelter and assisting her in getting in contact with the right people. She denied my offer, understandably, because she was hurt that I didn't want to be with her and after a fucking hour of trying to comfort her enough so that we can discuss the VERY URGENT PRACTICAL MATTERS AT HAND, I decided that we weren't getting anywhere and I should just leave and go home -- which I did -- only to receive a suicide note in the form of a whatsapp message from her, saying that she's gonna hurt herself and wishing me the best!

Holy %$^# shit.

Now I'm freaking out.

I call the police, asap, and give them whatever info they need to intervene before anything happens to her. After 20 minutes, they call me and they start asking me very specific questions about "my side of the story" and I'm getting a weird vibe from the officer. He's asking me where I live, my social security number, the nature of my relationship with this girl, the extend of our physical intimacy, etc. And I'm thinking to myself now "ah, shit... what did this crazy girl say to the police, man.." Anyway, I know I didn't do anything wrong so I answer truthfully and then ask the officer if there's any way he can assist the girl by getting her to a shelter or something. He's like "Nah, dude, we're police officers not Green Peace" (he didn't say that, but that was basically the subtext behind his words). Anyway, we hang up and now this girl is blowing up my phone freaking out about me calling the police on her, me not wanting to be with her, accusing me of manipulating her, then begging me to come back to her hotel and talk, then she switches back to anger and accusations and I'm like "Dude... What. The. Fuck. Did. I. Get. Involved. With."

I'm leaving a lot out because I could write a whole paper on the events that transpired but I basically ended up having to block her because she kept fucking texting and calling me. Before I did, though, I did send her all the info that she needs to find shelter and get help in case she does end up homeless.

And now here I am, in the peace of quiet of my room, with my cortisol levels spiked to infinity and contemplating my entire life.

I literally took a break from all dating and socializing in order to ground myself in love and build a life that fulfills me, which I successfully did, and the MOMENT I come back to the game, this shit happens.

I'm so upset, man! I'm seriously contemplating staying single for life at this point. Women may have brought out the best in me in the past and have been present during some of the best experiences of my life, but they have also been responsible for some of the absolute WORST and now that I have experienced the level of fulfillment that is possible when one is just doing their own thing in isolation, it makes no sense to risk ever dealing with shit like this again in the future.

If you read this far: Thank you, so much. I needed a listening ear.

You won't believe me but I went through something VERY similar 3 years ago. Psychopath that I lived with for 2 months (don't have time to explain why, just unfortunate circumstances). The longer we live together, the more tea spills.

She has an arrest warrant in Minnesota. She has slept with several 100s of guys. She got her fillopian tubes tied because she wants guys to bust loads in her. She's autistic so in her mind sex is just oxytocin (pure survival thinking) and if she doesn't get enough she gets super depressed. She's clinically diagnosed with a dozen mental disorders. She has a sandwich bag that looks like lucky charms (actually meds) and eats like 20 different shaped pills and chases it with bottle after bottle of wine. Can't get a job. Stays home all day and gets money from her dead granny's estate to survive. All kinds of crazy stuff. Again, too much to write out.

Eventually I get the police to take her as she says "I wanna die" on a couple of occasions.

She gets put (back) into the psych ward and acts like we're cool one moment, then goes nuts the next accusing me of all these things and threatening court. I eventually block her and change my apartment locks.

For a while I didn't date a whole lot. Brother, you will date again. You just need time to focus on yourself and take care of your psyche. Give it time.

I'd read LOA, get your mind into positive thoughts. If you really think this gave you trauma or triggered earlier C-PTSD from childhood, read Pete Walker's "Complex PTSD." He has a great 13-step 'how to diffuse the panic response' protocol to calm your nerves in the moment. Plus how to take steps toward healing long term.

Maybe your life needed a shakeup and this is bringing your awareness to who you are attracting. You can change this brother. You'll find someone good. You just need time,self-love, and a new strategy. 

Peace

Edited 8 hours ago by WonderSeeker

[Zenterus]

@WonderSeeker  

What a beautiful response, brother!

I will take everything you said to heart. I don't feel seriously traumatized by this, mostly just shook, but it did bring to my awareness all the ways that I sabotage myself from attracting an amazing woman to me.

I will transform into a new man because if this, mark my words.