Dating as a way of networking

[ladelle]

Hello,

I am in a critical financial situation, I posted something about it on the forum but it has been deleted. I live in the countryside far from any job opportunity,  I need a car, but to get a car I need a job.  As I am single I was thinking about dating as a way to get out of this situation, what do you think about it? I am not confortable with the idea of using someone to improve my finances, I’m not talking about prostitution but maybe using dating as some sort of networking, if I am in a relationship with a man, he may be able to get me a job…

Edited June 1 by ladelle

[LordFall]

I would try remote income, there's a few types of gigs like customer support, data triage/labelling, virtual assistance, or content moderation that are fully remote. You could also try carpooling networks. If there's facebook groups near you try that or marketplace. If you enter a relationship in a financially vulnerable position looking to manipulate someone usually that ends up in a toxic relationship with perhaps abuse against you as people can feel themselves being gaslit. There are also jobs where coworkers can pick you up type of thing and you give them gas money. 

If you're asking this I assume you don't have family that can assist you but if so that would then obviously be the first thing to try. 

[Schizophonia]

@ladelle Désolé j'ai pas beaucoup d'argent 😹

[ladelle]

23 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

@ladelle Désolé j'ai pas beaucoup d'argent 😹

🥹

[ladelle]

On 01/06/2026 at 4:34 AM, LordFall said:

I would try remote income, there's a few types of gigs like customer support, data triage/labelling, virtual assistance, or content moderation that are fully remote. You could also try carpooling networks. If there's facebook groups near you try that or marketplace. If you enter a relationship in a financially vulnerable position looking to manipulate someone usually that ends up in a toxic relationship with perhaps abuse against you as people can feel themselves being gaslit. There are also jobs where coworkers can pick you up type of thing and you give them gas money. 

If you're asking this I assume you don't have family that can assist you but if so that would then obviously be the first thing to try. 

Thank you for your answer. 

I wasn’t thinking about manipulating anyone, I was thinking about dating new people while keeping in mind that it could potentially lead to meeting someone who would not only be a compatible partner, but also someone with whom a relationship could be beneficial for my career.

That doesn’t mean I would date just any guy I dislike or am not attracted to solely for personal gain. The attraction and genuine interest would still need to be there. I would say it would be a case of killing two birds with one stone.

Edited June 2 by ladelle

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, ladelle said:

🥹

How old are you

I immediately recognized that the name was French but it's not common either.

[Basman]

That's basically kind of how elites date. Very strategic (though maybe less so these days, not sure). The classic of forming alliances through marriage back when marriage was less about personal expression but as a means to survival. I think it's fine to treat relationships more like a business as long as you know what your getting into.

What that would look like nowadays in practice, especially since I think your a woman, is dating rich dudes. They are the one's with the most connections and leverage to make things happen. Though your not going to have your cake and eat it too realistically when it comes to both having connections and resources and looks. If your serious about gold digging you have to be ruthless with your results, which means you likely need to be flexible with your preferences. Past elite women would marry disgusting men for power and wealth (and then divorce them later lol). 

[ladelle]

4 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

How old are you

I immediately recognized that the name was French but it's not common either.

C’est pas mon vrai nom, je l’ai inventé de toutes pièces 😜, quant à mon âge, ça restera un secret 👀 

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, ladelle said:

C’est pas mon vrai nom, je l’ai inventé de toutes pièces 😜,

Oh ok eheh, je le trouvais curieux

1 hour ago, ladelle said:

quant à mon âge, ça restera un secret 👀 

Pas de problème ; )

[LordFall]

On 6/2/2026 at 5:32 AM, ladelle said:

Thank you for your answer. 

I wasn’t thinking about manipulating anyone, I was thinking about dating new people while keeping in mind that it could potentially lead to meeting someone who would not only be a compatible partner, but also someone with whom a relationship could be beneficial for my career.

That doesn’t mean I would date just any guy I dislike or am not attracted to solely for personal gain. The attraction and genuine interest would still need to be there. I would say it would be a case of killing two birds with one stone.

Si tu le voit choses comme ca je dirais que la plupart des gens se mettent en couple pour se construire le style de vie auquel ils aspirent, donc je ne vois pas le probleme. Je recommende au gens d'utiliser toutes les dating apps a la fois sa rend les choses plus rapide. 

[Hojo]

On 6/2/2026 at 3:32 AM, ladelle said:

Thank you for your answer. 

I wasn’t thinking about manipulating anyone, I was thinking about dating new people while keeping in mind that it could potentially lead to meeting someone who would not only be a compatible partner, but also someone with whom a relationship could be beneficial for my career.

That doesn’t mean I would date just any guy I dislike or am not attracted to solely for personal gain. The attraction and genuine interest would still need to be there. I would say it would be a case of killing two birds with one stone.

You want to date people so that you can date other people who will help you financially?

Dating has a wide variety of meanings.

Its before engagement. Its boyfriend girlfriend. Its just meeting. Its knowing eachother for 2 days or 10 years possibly.

But to me this sounds like you want to manipulate a scenario where you want to find someone and them make you money or give you money. 

If you are going to do it all you gotta do is be honest with yourself thats what you are doing.

Its what like 60-800 percent of woman do.

Its kinda how the system is put together. The man work and the woman gets financial gain.

The man gets to feel needed and the woman get a family.

Edited June 8 by Hojo

[Lucasxp64]

Bonjour! J'espère que ça va s'améliorer! 😊

lol. I'm a guy and dating is basically just talking to new people. I'm thinking of charging to teach English to some chicks that I've been talking to, actually, trying to teach English to them was a way of them getting to know me...

But I don't want necessarily to be making my money like that, it's just that I wanted to do in my area that I'm self-taught, but unfortunately those two things are unrelated, the best work I can get would be online and to american/european markets because it pays better, and dating has to be people that at least lives in my own country, obviously right now because I'm broke, it has to literally be in my city.

So it's not exactly optimized. For context, I'm a heterosexual male lol. For dating her looks and personality matter the most and her personal interests or industry is not my concern, for making money it could be an old dude and I'd gladly network with him if it's the direction I want to go.

Funnily enough, one chick once used to help me financially several years ago, and she was from asia, I'm from latin america. But she did more harm than good, because she behaved bipolar... So if you mix dating with monetary necessity, you could end up putting up with some shitty people, and breaking up with them might cause you problems if you don't navigate this well.

I don't like mixing the two, unless we are coming in as equals and we are both getting a goal deal and I could break up without being a burden to me.

I think it's useful when you're dating somebody that can share similar goals and mindset together.

I'm currently talking to somebody that we have been having some great conversations about professional life, spirituality and emotional stuff. It's nice, I think she would be a good gf that would be positive to my professional life, even if she can't directly help me.

Edited Monday at 03:35 PM by Lucasxp64