Dating as a way of networking

[ladelle]

Hello,

I am in a critical financial situation, I posted something about it on the forum but it has been deleted. I live in the countryside far from any job opportunity,  I need a car, but to get a car I need a job.  As I am single I was thinking about dating as a way to get out of this situation, what do you think about it? I am not confortable with the idea of using someone to improve my finances, I’m not talking about prostitution but maybe using dating as some sort of networking, if I am in a relationship with a man, he may be able to get me a job…

Edited yesterday at 01:18 AM by ladelle

[LordFall]

I would try remote income, there's a few types of gigs like customer support, data triage/labelling, virtual assistance, or content moderation that are fully remote. You could also try carpooling networks. If there's facebook groups near you try that or marketplace. If you enter a relationship in a financially vulnerable position looking to manipulate someone usually that ends up in a toxic relationship with perhaps abuse against you as people can feel themselves being gaslit. There are also jobs where coworkers can pick you up type of thing and you give them gas money. 

If you're asking this I assume you don't have family that can assist you but if so that would then obviously be the first thing to try. 

[Schizophonia]

@ladelle Désolé j'ai pas beaucoup d'argent 😹

[ladelle]

23 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

@ladelle Désolé j'ai pas beaucoup d'argent 😹

🥹

[ladelle]

On 01/06/2026 at 4:34 AM, LordFall said:

I would try remote income, there's a few types of gigs like customer support, data triage/labelling, virtual assistance, or content moderation that are fully remote. You could also try carpooling networks. If there's facebook groups near you try that or marketplace. If you enter a relationship in a financially vulnerable position looking to manipulate someone usually that ends up in a toxic relationship with perhaps abuse against you as people can feel themselves being gaslit. There are also jobs where coworkers can pick you up type of thing and you give them gas money. 

If you're asking this I assume you don't have family that can assist you but if so that would then obviously be the first thing to try. 

Thank you for your answer. 

I wasn’t thinking about manipulating anyone, I was thinking about dating new people while keeping in mind that it could potentially lead to meeting someone who would not only be a compatible partner, but also someone with whom a relationship could be beneficial for my career.

That doesn’t mean I would date just any guy I dislike or am not attracted to solely for personal gain. The attraction and genuine interest would still need to be there. I would say it would be a case of killing two birds with one stone.

Edited 6 hours ago by ladelle

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, ladelle said:

🥹

How old are you

I immediately recognized that the name was French but it's not common either.

[Basman]

That's basically kind of how elites date. Very strategic (though maybe less so these days, not sure). The classic of forming alliances through marriage back when marriage was less about personal expression but as a means to survival. I think it's fine to treat relationships more like a business as long as you know what your getting into.

What that would look like nowadays in practice, especially since I think your a woman, is dating rich dudes. They are the one's with the most connections and leverage to make things happen. Though your not going to have your cake and eat it too realistically when it comes to both having connections and resources and looks. If your serious about gold digging you have to be ruthless with your results, which means you likely need to be flexible with your preferences. Past elite women would marry disgusting men for power and wealth (and then divorce them later lol). 

[ladelle]

4 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

How old are you

I immediately recognized that the name was French but it's not common either.

C’est pas mon vrai nom, je l’ai inventé de toutes pièces 😜, quant à mon âge, ça restera un secret 👀