How Can I Become an Alpha Male?

[ted73104]

1 hour ago, Rigel said:

Alpha males don’t even exist, they are just two boy man-child in a trench coat.

One of them is insecure and lacks perspective. The other is angry and bitter.

Totally agree with this description.

If you want to learn how to be an "alpha" male, you should first find how to be the truest version of your current self. Remove all of your coping mechanisms and people pleasing behavior. You have to be totally okay with being your mediocre self, and be okay if anyone finds out what that looks like.

Then if you're able to do this, you should just naturally expand your life like developing a new hobby, or joining a new social group, or even push yourself to get a next level job. You gradually push yourself to the limits and beyond, then you'll become a leader.

[Human Mint]

Alpha males introspect.

Edited 3 hours ago by Human Mint

[Jannes]

On 19.5.2026 at 3:16 AM, 9735557264 said:

 

I was raised predominantly by my mother. My father was mostly busy working. My mother is a very submissive and meek person. I think it was because her father was very strict and domineering and it was her way of avoiding his anger.

 

Additionally, I grew up in an isolated part of town. Outside of school, I didn’t have much contact with non-family members. Most of my social skills training came from TV and movies. 

 

From all of this, I have ended up as the stereotypical beta male. In the movies, the nice guy with no masculinity gets the girls and success in the end, but this is not how it works in the real world. And the timidity that may have saved my mother from corporal punishment has gotten me no respect, especially from girls.

 

I am resolute to revamp my life and become an alpha male, but I have no idea how to go about doing it. Recently, I quit working at my family’s business since most of the employees have known me my whole life and still treat me like a baby. Asides from that and reading a few articles, I really don’t know where to start. All I know is that I don’t want to swing from one extreme to the other and be overly aggressive and arrogant.

 

Can anyone give some ideas how I can shed this beta character which I have embodied my whole life and become an alpha male?

I cringed pretty hard from the title but you are describing a real struggle you have in your life that should be adressed. 

I am reading it like you dont feel confident, assertive, capable .. ?

If you feel overly taken care of then going on your own and not working at your families business is a good first step. Do something on your own, that will built some confident. Travel the world on your own and that will really give you a boost. If you struggle with socializing the only way to improve is by going out, you can make a lot of improvement if you are not that skilled at it. Consider learning pick up ..