Please help

[Carl-Richard]

8 hours ago, Cred said:

I have the theory

Sex addiction is compulsively seeking and clinging to intimacy. 

I have theory of how a Cred post goes:

"I have a theory. This specific thing is this very general thing. *Proceeds to give an explanation of this very general thing*. I have now explained this specific thing, even though it could be explained by a range of different concepts, not just this general one."

Edited 8 hours ago by Carl-Richard

[integration journey]

8 hours ago, Cred said:

I have the theory

Sex addiction is compulsively seeking and clinging to intimacy. It is the obsession of unity. Every person has the desire for unity but when people are deprived of intimacy they start seeking it compulsively.

I think you read my post about pedophilia, it's the same mechanism (the abyss).  Sex addiction happens, when you experienced abandonment in your life. Did your parents separate? Did your parents not give you the love you needed? Did your parents abandon you? Did you have friends in your childhood that you could count on? Where you at some point in a relationship that they suddenly ended?

When you experienced abandonment at some point in your life, you will always fear it and cling to intimacy as long as you have not worked through the trauma.

The brutal reality of the fear of abandonment is that when you cling to your relationships you tend to lose them bc humans want to feel free in relationships. And when that happens you are abandoned again and your fear becomes stronger which amplifies your clinginess. This negative feedback loop is one of the most tragic things in human experience, and it can drive you and your loved ones into suicide. So try to avoid it.

We were trying to summon you a week ago, where were you? 

[No1Here2c]

9 hours ago, Cred said:

I have the theory

Sex addiction is compulsively seeking and clinging to intimacy. It is the obsession of unity. Every person has the desire for unity but when people are deprived of intimacy they start seeking it compulsively.

I agree 95% to this.

The one discrepancy in the principles I can point out for you is that this only spirals out into addiction & compulsion without sufficient levels of awareness.

If the individual in this position became aware enough, the behavior would naturally resolve.

Other than that I can absolutely confirm the origin of the desire is stemming from and intimacy craving.

~♤~

Awareness Alone is Curative!

Utilize our unfailable Principles!

[Cred]

3 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

I have theory of how a Cred post goes:

"I have a theory. This specific thing is this very general thing. *Proceeds to give an explanation of this very general thing*. I have now explained this specific thing, even though it could be explained by a range of different concepts, not just this general one."

What's wrong with generalizing?

Finding a single principle behind different phenomena drastically reduces complexity.

This does not mean I reject precise concepts. I just like my concepts ordered in this hierarchical way. It improves thinking and makes communication and didactics easier.

[Cred]

3 hours ago, integration journey said:

We were trying to summon you a week ago, where were you? 

Wait what did I miss 😭

[Carl-Richard]

1 hour ago, Cred said:

What's wrong with generalizing?

Finding a single principle behind different phenomena drastically reduces complexity.

This does not mean I reject precise concepts. I just like my concepts ordered in this hierarchical way. It improves thinking and makes communication and didactics easier.

Only generalizing, or generalizing a lot, can cause some issues. An antidote could be listing different alternatives and then synthesizing them. For example, with sex addiction, you can list many things: trauma, personal predisposition, personal beliefs, culture, neurological issues, cognitive styles, attention, awareness, executive control, values, life orientation, suppression, transmutation, habit.

And sex addiction might not even be the right concept here. The OP seems to be struggling with some obsessive-compulsive thoughts around sex. It can often come from a desire to control or do things properly, which can come from many things, perhaps a belief, perhaps trauma, or personal experiences that cause lack of control and expressing it through control over sex can be a byproduct. Or perhaps a general cognitive style of control. And maybe you can challenge that need for control with acceptance, either by accepting the controlling behavior or relinquishing the need to control at all. What are you aiming at with the control after all? Feeling at ease with yourself? Or is the goal more important than that, is it bigger than yourself (maybe it isn't in this case)?

Edited 4 hours ago by Carl-Richard

[Cred]

@Carl-Richard

The style of a lot of my responses is akin to the fragment in Jena Romanticism. It is primarily meant to be thought-provoking rather than 100% true.  When it manages to make you contemplate about my points, it has completed its purpose, even if you come to the conclusion that the perspective is limited.