Mastering Your Mind

[Joseph Maynor]

Just now, gettoefl said:

I don't say it's good for another. It is a hard-gained lifestyle choice to protect peace and harmony. Like they say all happy families are the same. All unhappy families are unhappy in a unique way.

But this takes wisdom to achieve.  And discernment.   

[gettoefl]

1 minute ago, Joseph Maynor said:

But this takes wisdom to achieve.  And discernment.   

Yes families are messy. They know our weak spot. They bring out our worst aspect. So it's always a struggle to make it work. Bit it's your blood and your mirror. So you do your best to find a way.

[eTorro]

We can't blame family members even if they're mean or too judgmental. That's the truth. We can use various people to teach ourselves how not to be. If they are abusive—some family members are bullies—we can train ourselves not to react and continue to remain calm no matter what. Keeping our cool under pressure is a form of mind training that leads to mastery of mind.

[gettoefl]

16 minutes ago, eTorro said:

We can't blame family members even if they're mean or too judgmental. That's the truth. We can use various people to teach ourselves how not to be. If they are abusive—some family members are bullies—we can train ourselves not to react and continue to remain calm no matter what. Keeping our cool under pressure is a form of mind training that leads to mastery of mind.

You give them grace and leeway while protecting your space and peace. It's a tough balance. Family is how you are who you are. So you play your part.

[Eskilon]

17 hours ago, eTorro said:

Hi.

After years of consciousness work, I got to a point of clarity. I call it 'mind mastery.'

I deconstructed lots of neurosis; anger, impatience, and whatever is of the ego.

I saw Leo's Instagram reel about mastering your mind.

Now that I have more clarity, I realized that I don't have to play the game of finances that much.

I have family members who do just that, and they're very judgmental. If you're not making money, they secretly see you as incapable or not bright. They judge based on financial success.

A family member told me to make money. They've been following me for years, and they sense that my values system changed. They notice I'm not longer hyper-active and insecure. They notice the level of calmness. 

But a thought has been torturing me: "Even though you become conscious, healthy, and strong, they won't respect you if you're not making money."

And that's true. I sensed their judgement towards me.

This is not a condemnation on my part, but I want to ask how should I deal with it. Because it does happen. Everything is seen through the lens of money, especially if you have business people in the family.

To them, you're not worthy of respect if you're not forcing yourself to make money.

But I don't care about money that much at the level of clarity.

Thoughts?

Dude, ignore them. Or if you can, move away from them. Your family is just accidental, you didn't choose them, so you need not tolerate their bullshit if you can. They are no special, just selfish human beings.

And yeah, most of humanity values success and money alot, those things became equivalent to life itself. It's stupid because these people think that success and money is an absolute good. Well, if it were all that, it couldn't be taken away by Death; it's just human bs don't pay much attention if you don't feel a calling towards those things yourself.

If you don't care to be a millionaire, so be it, you're not inferior to anybody. Everybody think themselves so important, while Death laughs at the corner waiting for it's opportunity to humble and destroy them. If you just want to work a 9-5 and do spirituality, so be it, more power to you. Don't let anyone gaslight you with their bs, either from your family, other people, or forum users. Ambition and money is not an absolute good, even though stupid people think that way, they are just lost in ego, deception and unawareness.

Be a light unto yourself. Follow your own path.

Edited 2 hours ago by Eskilon

[Joseph Maynor]

27 minutes ago, gettoefl said:

Yes families are messy. They know our weak spot. They bring out our worst aspect. So it's always a struggle to make it work. Bit it's your blood and your mirror. So you do your best to find a way.

I don't have a problem with this.  If you do, then let me know if I can help you.

[gettoefl]

3 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

I don't have a problem with this.  If you do, then let me know if I can help you.

Thanks. Every day is better. Life is endurance and determination. I'm on track with it.

[lostingenosmaze]

 

@Joseph Maynor @gettoefl