Number 1 mistake all woman make in their first relationship.

[Osaid]

1 hour ago, ExploringReality said:

Be careful with narcissistic women and women with borderline personality disorders. That's a whole can of worms.

Yeah if you have bad boundaries or people-pleasing tendencies (like feeling guilty when saying no), then it will be easy to fall into that.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

3 hours ago, Osaid said:

Yeah if you have bad boundaries or people-pleasing tendencies (like feeling guilty when saying no), then it will be easy to fall into that.

🎯🪃

[enchanted]

17 hours ago, integral said:

This is why Owen talks about non-stop frame control because he's stuck in these immature relationships. And doesn't know how to have or select healthy relationships.

Is this a good and maybe funny example of frame control? 

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DXZzYwTjY-U/?igsh=dGZmOTcxeXFhMjB2

[lostingenosmaze]

13 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

14 hours ago, ExploringReality said:

Be careful with narcissistic people and people with borderline personality disorders. That's a whole can of worms.

 

As a bisexual, I also appreciate this correction ☺️

[Osaid]

We gotta be inclusive to all the narcissists, no one left out!

[Spiral]

You don’t need to agree to validate her feelings. She terrified of the coffee machine? Fine you can comfort her. Rationally explaining why the coffee machine is harmless isn’t helping anyone

[Natasha Tori Maru]

I didn't, and have never experienced what OP describes. In any relationship, let alone first.

 

[integral]

3 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

I didn't, and have never experienced what OP describes. In any relationship, let alone first.

Yes I should rephrase it to not sound absolutistic I figured people will understand that there's plenty of exceptions.

5% of people are mature enough not to make that mistake in the relationship.

If you are a people pleaser you're not probably not going to make that mistake.

Depending on whatever your parents instilled within your subconsciously you might not make that mistake.

A intj woman which is significantly rarer than an intj man who i also rare, might not make that mistaken in a relationship.

You're the only intj woman I've ever came to contact with. I can't even find them online, maybe ive seen some YouTubers intj women and they were blasting some business model.

3 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

I didn't, and have never experienced what OP describes. In any relationship, let alone first.

The entire gender equality movement constantly pushed by liberals that our brains are identical does a massive disservice to the life experiences most men experience when dating women.

I've dated over eight women at this point or more I can't really remember I'm not counting, this pattern is extremely prevalent, there frame of you changes depending on Petty things where they begging buildling a realistic model of reality around you and this destroys the fantasy because they're living in a fantasy world that's society has taught them some kind of Disneyland World of what a relationship should be and then when that breaks for the first time they self-destruct and destroy the relationship because their expectations are not being met, false expectations that Society gave them.

A INTJ woman might enter the relationship with realistic expectations...

Edited 34 minutes ago by integral