"bad person"?

[Shermaningeorgia]

I do a post-grad course at a uni. A new entrant came in the past semester. this really hot foreign lady from South America. I haven't spoken to her. mainly since I genuinely dislike hot ladies. I have no specific reasons to welcome them or like them, and society that we should have grace to racists and sexists as they are only "human". So why not? Does it hurt people's brains to apply a rule consistently? I told someone I know in a different class about this, and they said I was "out of place", and that I didn't know, so I cannot judge her that much. I said, actually, not knowing somebody gives somebody more leeway to judge, and nobody is exempt from that. 

I feel that if there is the KKK and others, then I can hate hot ladies. And somebody of actual integrity and decency should condemn me and others alike. Since there is no fundamental difference between them. 

Seems rthe only reason to like hot ladies is sex. I feel getting sex and the "baddies" is childish, and grown men should get out of that. Most people in life are average-looking anyhow and get by well enough in dates and relationships. In my mind, looks correlate with a bad character. I don't see any group of people as inherently better. I believe others should stop projecting their double standards onto others. 

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

😂🤣 bro genuinely started bringing this topic up in real conversations, jesus christ on a motorbike this shit is unhinged. Add that to the fact that you've now apparently decided to be anti-therapy as well and will only do therapy via A.I. chatbots. Holy moly dude, you gotta have some outlet dude cause this shit is mad cringe

[Lila9]

I feel that you are just upset because you desire them so much but don’t get them, so you cope by hating them and reducing them to nothing basically devaluing her in order to cope. A very common trap men fall into.

The problem is not with beautiful women, but with you. Can you acknowledge it?

This poor woman that you project all sorts of things onto has nothing to do with it. She may be the kindest and sweetest lady, but in your corrupted and selfish mind, as long as she doesn’t unconditionally admire you and doesn’t throw herself at you to sleep with you, she is the devil.

You don’t have to treat all beautiful people better than others (I too don’t understand why people treat beautiful people better than others, and I find it silly ape behavior) just have basic respect and neutrality toward everyone regardless of their looks, and don’t be an asshole for no reason.

If you desire a good-looking woman, acknowledge it rather than suppressing it, because you will keep suffering from rage, hatred, and a sense of victimhood until this is addressed.

[Shermaningeorgia]

1 hour ago, Lila9 said:

I feel that you are just upset because you desire them so much but don’t get them, so you cope by hating them and reducing them to nothing basically devaluing her in order to cope. A very common trap men fall into.

The problem is not with beautiful women, but with you. Can you acknowledge it?

This poor woman that you project all sorts of things onto has nothing to do with it. She may be the kindest and sweetest lady, but in your corrupted and selfish mind, as long as she doesn’t unconditionally admire you and doesn’t throw herself at you to sleep with you, she is the devil.

You don’t have to treat all beautiful people better than others (I too don’t understand why people treat beautiful people better than others, and I find it silly ape behavior) just have basic respect and neutrality toward everyone regardless of their looks, and don’t be an asshole for no reason.

If you desire a good-looking woman, acknowledge it rather than suppressing it, because you will keep suffering from rage, hatred, and a sense of victimhood until this is addressed.

Not at all. your assumptions are false. You larp about being wise but you're not at all. you wer raised in a temple and you think that upbringing gains you that. it doesn't. there are many ways to view life. and if ypou're that "kind", you'd say this to racists, but you won't since you're a coward with no integrity. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

2 hours ago, Lila9 said:

I feel that you are just upset because you desire them so much but don’t get them, so you cope by hating them and reducing them to nothing basically devaluing her in order to cope. A very common trap men fall into.

The problem is not with beautiful women, but with you. Can you acknowledge it?

This poor woman that you project all sorts of things onto has nothing to do with it. She may be the kindest and sweetest lady, but in your corrupted and selfish mind, as long as she doesn’t unconditionally admire you and doesn’t throw herself at you to sleep with you, she is the devil.

You don’t have to treat all beautiful people better than others (I too don’t understand why people treat beautiful people better than others, and I find it silly ape behavior) just have basic respect and neutrality toward everyone regardless of their looks, and don’t be an asshole for no reason.

If you desire a good-looking woman, acknowledge it rather than suppressing it, because you will keep suffering from rage, hatred, and a sense of victimhood until this is addressed.

This is it.

I feel sorry for this user as he runs these thought patterns on a loop.

He posts a rant - looking to achieve nothing - then leaves. Gets told by almost every member he is wrong. 

Comes back - rinse/repeat.

Its a case for the need of serious therapy. CBD would probably work. But it will be years before OP can recognise the cognitive bias AND dissonance pattern and catch himself. He wants to have the love of a beautiful women desperately but feels this is owed. And when not given, resentment. Turning into this weird 'I hate pretty ladies' protective mechanism. And thats all it is - a protection mechanism.

Edited 22 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Natasha Tori Maru]

7 hours ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

😂🤣 bro genuinely started bringing this topic up in real conversations, jesus christ on a motorbike this shit is unhinged. Add that to the fact that you've now apparently decided to be anti-therapy as well and will only do therapy via A.I. chatbots. Holy moly dude, you gotta have some outlet dude cause this shit is mad cringe

Which is interesting because therapy aims to CHALLENGE your cognitive bias and false beliefs. Chatbots tend to enhance this... in the opposite direction >.<

[Lila9]

8 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

This is it.

I feel sorry for this user as he runs these thought patterns on a loop.

He posts a rant - looking to achieve nothing - then leaves. Gets told by almost every member he is wrong. 

Comes back - rinse/repeat.

Its a case for the need of serious therapy. CBD would probably work. But it will be years before OP can recognise the cognitive bias AND dissonance pattern and catch himself. He wants to have the love of a beautiful women desperately but feels this is owed. And when not given, resentment. Turning into this weird 'I hate pretty ladies' protective mechanism. And thats all it is - a protection mechanism.

Yes, unfortunately.

I hope they will be genuinely open to therapy or at least some self-introspection.

Now this behaviour may hurt only him, but too much unresolved anger and hatred for a long time has the potential to explode and it may put other women at risk.

[Lila9]

40 minutes ago, Shermaningeorgia said:

Not at all. your assumptions are false. You larp about being wise but you're not at all. you wer raised in a temple and you think that upbringing gains you that. it doesn't. there are many ways to view life. and if ypou're that "kind", you'd say this to racists, but you won't since you're a coward with no integrity. 

Ok, dude.

Obviously I would be less kind to racists, but equating attractive women with racists is delusional.

I said what I had to say for your benefit. If you dismiss it entirely, I don’t know how to help you.

Only you can help yourself if you want. Apperantly you don't want to. 

[Shermaningeorgia]

10 hours ago, Lila9 said:

Ok, dude.

Obviously I would be less kind to racists, but equating attractive women with racists is delusional.

I said what I had to say for your benefit. If you dismiss it entirely, I don’t know how to help you.

Only you can help yourself if you want. Apperantly you don't want to. 

I’m calling out your double standard. And your insistence on expressing yourself fully. Probably stuff you learnt young in a church. 

[Shermaningeorgia]

11 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

This is it.

I feel sorry for this user as he runs these thought patterns on a loop.

He posts a rant - looking to achieve nothing - then leaves. Gets told by almost every member he is wrong. 

Comes back - rinse/repeat.

Its a case for the need of serious therapy. CBD would probably work. But it will be years before OP can recognise the cognitive bias AND dissonance pattern and catch himself. He wants to have the love of a beautiful women desperately but feels this is owed. And when not given, resentment. Turning into this weird 'I hate pretty ladies' protective mechanism. And thats all it is - a protection mechanism.

It's got nothing to do with dating. 

For me, looks and character correlate. I've made it a mission in my life to get normalcy. Many denied/deny me this. And since society says "nobody is better" then it's on them for the double standard. You can assume it's about dating, but it's not. so yes, to me, looks and character correlate conversely.

Edited 10 hours ago by Shermaningeorgia

[Shermaningeorgia]

11 hours ago, Lila9 said:

Yes, unfortunately.

I hope they will be genuinely open to therapy or at least some self-introspection.

Now this behaviour may hurt only him, but too much unresolved anger and hatred for a long time has the potential to explode and it may put other women at risk.

So it's ok for you to post vulnerable stuff, but not me. Do you pretty ladies get paid to push these odd and comically odd double points and imaginary rules?

[Shermaningeorgia]

18 hours ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

😂🤣 bro genuinely started bringing this topic up in real conversations, jesus christ on a motorbike this shit is unhinged. Add that to the fact that you've now apparently decided to be anti-therapy as well and will only do therapy via A.I. chatbots. Holy moly dude, you gotta have some outlet dude cause this shit is mad cringe

Ah yes. It's the American dude who hates frivolity, and pushes lots of other odd and internalised bs. 

and follows me around to "lecture me". loooool. Anti-therapy? yes. I oppose any and all biased systems. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

17 minutes ago, Shermaningeorgia said:

It's got nothing to do with dating. 

For me, looks and character correlate. I've made it a mission in my life to get normalcy. Many denied/deny me this. And since society says "nobody is better" then it's on them for the double standard. You can assume it's about dating, but it's not. so yes, to me, looks and character correlate conversely.

This is the unconscious cognitive bias we are talking about. 

You can't see it precisely because it is unconscious and hidden. Why else do you think everyone keeps trying to express this to you? 

Don't you think it is odd everything is saying something similar? 

[Opulence]

You need to introspect on this particular issue. Maybe it's your own projection on other people who did nothing to you. Your beliefs are based on biases. You're allowed to have them but that's like deliberately succumbing to lack of clarity.

 

[Jirh]

The question is what are you?

A good person or a bad person?

[Ulax]

On 09/04/2026 at 4:19 PM, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

😂🤣 bro genuinely started bringing this topic up in real conversations, jesus christ on a motorbike this shit is unhinged. Add that to the fact that you've now apparently decided to be anti-therapy as well and will only do therapy via A.I. chatbots. Holy moly dude, you gotta have some outlet dude cause this shit is mad cringe

😂

This forum does make me LOL 

Edited 2 hours ago by Ulax