Being carismatic with ADHD?

[Ima Freeman]

What is a good strategy for communication and socializing if you have attention problems?

 

As someone who has the problem of ADHD (for me little attention stamina, problems concentrating singularly and being cognitivelly quick) how should I go about socializing.

I tried to be more withdrawn and silent, which gives me a better presence but it feels quite maladaptive and neurosis promoting.

 

Going out and forcing me try-harding meeting people helped me getting more friends but first I get high strung and stressed out from that and a certain portion of people just end up not holding up the contact from their side. 

And in the end it did not give me good strategies.

 

Maybe someone has good tactics and strategies for navigating society and being more carismatic as a half-wit?

[Cred]

This idea that you need to change is only going to make you less charismatic.

Seek out and socialize with other neurodivergent people. They will like you more than neurotypicals

Edited 6 hours ago by Cred

[Ima Freeman]

1 hour ago, Cred said:

This idea that you need to change is only going to male you less charismatic.

Seek out and socialize with other neurodivergent people. They will like you more than neurotypicals

I see that thats what kind of happens in my life.

Two things though

1. I have to talk to "neurotypical" people too in my life, as part of going out, education, professional life, etc.

 

2. Should people just segregate in your opinion?

 

 

[Terell Kirby]

On 3/28/2026 at 8:49 AM, Ima Freeman said:

What is a good strategy for communication and socializing if you have attention problems?

Same strategy for everyone- go out, socialize and meet people.

You may be insecure about personality quirks, we all have them. You can still go out and socialize-you’ll gain confidence the more you do it 

[integral]

On 3/28/2026 at 8:49 AM, Ima Freeman said:

What is a good strategy for communication and socializing if you have attention problems?

Let them talk about themselves. All people really wanna do is talk about themselves and their own interest..

[Cred]

17 hours ago, Ima Freeman said:

1. I have to talk to "neurotypical" people too in my life, as part of going out, education, professional life, etc.

 

2. Should people just segregate in your opinion?

I'm encouraging you to have relationships with neurotypicals but don't expect that it's easy. It requires work, and it is hard not to alienate each other but it's possible and necessary as you say.

If it is done right, there is nothing more powerful than a partnership between a neurodivergent and a neurotypical. They are meant to live in symbiosis together.

[Basman]

Just make your career your entire life and get all your socialization through work. As you get really good at your job there will be no shortage of people to talk with who want you to solve their problems. 

[Ulax]

Can practice self-amusing. Like do stuff to make yourself laugh in conversation. Rather than trying to make other person laugh.

Can make it lighter and more enjoyable.

If you don't really like that style, can just focus on self-engagement. Notice when you start getting bored/ drained by conversation and try to switch to topics that you are interested in.

Edited 25 minutes ago by Ulax