Stop looking for hookups

[TruthFreedom]

Leo has said it before. 

If a woman is into you, she will show it.

Don't be a creep. Just be yourself.

It will come to you when you least expect.

[Yimpa]

 

Zebra Intelligence

Edited 21 hours ago by Yimpa

[TruthFreedom]

Yeah and the most proloferous penguine knows that sharks have tails.

[LordFall]

Hookups are overrated but for most men you’ll need to work hard on your dating life if you want great results. Leo had an 8 hour series on getting laid and it included many action steps to consistently take and many self development steps. Not sure how you got from it just chill out it’ll come to you. 
 

In terms of specifically hookups though, once you’ve done it a few times it gets old in my experience. Relationships are more fun but more energy intensive. 

[CARDOZZO]

27 minutes ago, TruthFreedom said:

Leo has said it before. 

If a woman is into you, she will show it.

Don't be a creep. Just be yourself.

It will come to you when you least expect.

They will not come.

Approach. Do your job as a man.

[Ramasta9]

These days I am looking forward to not hooking up as much, but seeing how long we can ride out a dance before we finally give in. Sometimes the build up and foreplay is the most fun and enjoyable thing. I usually spend weeks sometimes up to a month or so with someone until we go into the naughty room, but that's just been my fate i guess, i never push because I already know whatever is destined will be, and if it comes really quick, so be it.

A friend of mine has been with a woman for 7 month now and they are deeply in love but still haven't made love. I find that highly inspiring and admirable. That is some maturity level not many are embodied in, nourished in other ways of love and support and sexual becomes rather a very sacred act, maybe to create life, maybe this is how it was meant to be, who knows but its fun to explore new ways of relating.

 

[theleelajoker]

"Chili out, they will show you"

"Be a man, approach, they will not come"

Hm I am so confused now. Sometimes I approached women, sometimes they approached me. At times she was sending me signals inviting to approach, sometimes more subtle, sometimes less. Sometimes I approached with out signals. Sometimes worked out, sometimes didn't.

Sometimes I had to work to advance, sometimes women almost literally fell into my lap. Sometimes nothing was going on for long time. 

Sometimes I had sex with my future GF first night, sometimes months passed before getting physical in any way. 

So what does that mean? So confused.

My limited mind so much want to know the formula to life! I really really want to label a fixed behavior pattern and follow that like a robot so I have a feeling of apparent control in this fluid world full of mystery.

I really really want to shoehorn reality, in particular"women" into a fixed pattern! How can I do that with the uniqueness of people, life, situations and interactions? 

Please give me some generalized statements that we can discuss, so that I can contemplate and argue about what's the right label! 

So confused, really need that formula. Maybe gonna ask the guy in Goethes Faust, he founded it, didn't he?

[something_else]

There is no one size fits all piece of advice for men's dating beyond perhaps "meet more women". 

The issue with your advice here of "just be yourself and the sex will come" is that it already assumes you are regularly meeting new women, which most men are not. That is actually the biggest hurdle most men have in dating.

In essence your advice only applies once you've already solved the biggest dating problem men have and as such it's kind of... poor advice.

Edited 8 hours ago by something_else

[enchanted]

14 hours ago, CARDOZZO said:

They will not come.

Approach. Do your job as a man.

Sorry to hear that's your experience. I find that OP is right and that women show obvious signs.

[CARDOZZO]

53 minutes ago, enchanted said:

Sorry to hear that's your experience. I find that OP is right and that women show obvious signs.

Signs is one thing. You have to approach them. Woman will not stop you to ask for your IG. 

 

[enchanted]

14 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

Signs is one thing. You have to approach them. Woman will not stop you to ask for your IG. 

 

True, I think op ment don't approach women who aren't giving you signs.