Lesson in mating.

[Majed]

Lesson in mating: sometimes a girl just want a casual hookup. If you invite her on a date, she might ghost you. Like for example if you meet a girl which is in her car at night, and she's into you, you can ask her where are you up to? Where you going towards. She might answer home. Ask her if she lives alone. Then if yes, ask her, "can i come with you?" If she's into you, she will say yes, and you'll jump into her car, and go to her house and have casual sex. Easy peasy. This is a better strategy than just taking her number and leaving.

Edited Monday at 03:06 PM by Majed

[Majed]

I know it sounds crazy, but this is the world attractive extraverted men live in. And women love extraverted, bold, spontaneous, adventurous guys.

[enchanted]

It's a good bold strategy that can definitely work sometimes and if it's something you are both looking for. I’ve had situations like that myself which were fun but they quickly get old. I would suggest that a lot of men say they want effortless casual sex, when in reality they’re looking for something that feels like they earned the attention, connection, and validation.

I think you will find that women who are too easy is a big turn off. You start to wonder how many guys she's having sex with before you. Also sex is a 20 minutes of fun but real relationships last week's, days, and years. I would suggest a long term connection is actually what you seek and why most people grow out of the casual sex stage pretty quickly. 

[gettoefl]

Casual sex is an oxymoron, the ultimate entrapment and obstacle for men as well as women. Nothing good can come of it. Except perhaps - good that's the last time I ever have to do that. Since I saw the deep damage caused. Mine even more than theirs.

[museumoftrees]

This is spot on. Especially if you do nightgame and cold approach women in venues. Often it's an insta-date/now-or-never kind of thing. She'll ghost you but would put out tonight, right now. Even if she finds you really attractive.

Edited Tuesday at 07:42 PM by museumoftrees

[LordFall]

On 2/17/2026 at 5:06 AM, gettoefl said:

Casual sex is an oxymoron, the ultimate entrapment and obstacle for men as well as women. Nothing good can come of it. Except perhaps - good that's the last time I ever have to do that. Since I saw the deep damage caused. Mine even more than theirs.

I sort of agree but also not really. Casual sex is a great way to explore your identity and belief system. Why do you think it hurt you? 

[Rafael Thundercat]

On 16/02/2026 at 1:06 PM, enchanted said:

It's a good bold strategy that can definitely work sometimes and if it's something you are both looking for. I’ve had situations like that myself which were fun but they quickly get old. I would suggest that a lot of men say they want effortless casual sex, when in reality they’re looking for something that feels like they earned the attention, connection, and validation.

I think you will find that women who are too easy is a big turn off. You start to wonder how many guys she's having sex with before you. Also sex is a 20 minutes of fun but real relationships last week's, days, and years. I would suggest a long term connection is actually what you seek and why most people grow out of the casual sex stage pretty quickly. 

Yes but most people and even woman are looking for swallow encounters for long time people understanding that they want something long term and with quality. For example, as now I am in a hostel where there is a lot of coming and going people,  I notice that girls let for the very last day or days to finally decide to fuck or kiss, because they know that they are going to travel and never see the guy anymore. One of them even told me after kissing a friend,that she only kissed him because he was leaving to his state. So here we see that women are not even thinking in satisfying. For me this is mere usage of someone as a kissing/fuckin, machine, is like masturbarion a with a dildo but in this case the dildo comes attached in a moving body with autonomy. And I am not signal virtuing since I did a lot of the same using girls for sex myself. Today I dont engange in such things. If I feel is too swallow I dont invest. As someone told me one day: I lost a lot of oportunities because of Truth!! I mean, if is not truthfull I dont feed it. 

[gettoefl]

14 hours ago, LordFall said:

I sort of agree but also not really. Casual sex is a great way to explore your identity and belief system. Why do you think it hurt you? 

For me it is abusing the sacred. Sex used well can elevate and evolve one deeply. That's its purpose.

https://ia903105.us.archive.org/18/items/alloshobooks39883p/Osho a.k.a. Rajneesh (312 Books)/From Sex to Superconsciousness.pdf

[LordFall]

4 hours ago, gettoefl said:

For me it is abusing the sacred. Sex used well can elevate and evolve one deeply. That's its purpose.

https://ia903105.us.archive.org/18/items/alloshobooks39883p/Osho a.k.a. Rajneesh (312 Books)/From Sex to Superconsciousness.pdf

You spoke literally on how it hurt you personally and you think no good comes from it. And when I asked you to elaborate you linked me an 86 page PDF my guy.

I do think sex is great and you can use it for more than just random club hookups but it's still for sure better to explore that fascet of life rather than put a sacred or superstitious label on it and be scared of it.

I would go complete 180 that particularly because it is sacred and a close union to your dual selves that it is something to explore deeply and often as it will reveal to you a lot about your psyche and collective culture that we live in if you introspect on it.