When is enough drama really enough?

[theleelajoker]

I am out with friends and I listen to what's going on in their lives. One of them tells me about his conflict with his colleague, a bitter series of disappointment, arguments and fights. He's clearly shaken by it.

There's another friend, she talks about mental health and that's she's grateful to currently be at least "halfway stable." Her voice is quite shaky and very quiet while she's says that. As if she doesn't believe in that stability herself. 

They both seem to suffer tremendously, and even when I doing fine now, I know how that feels like. 

I listen to them and I can't get it out of my head: this is all consciousness, or God or whatever name you give it, doing it to itself. 

The more aware I become, the more it seems to me that this whole reality is just a show, a drama for entertainment purposes. Problems created to have a task in dealing with them.

It could all be changed in an instant. Every misunderstanding, every conflict, every suffering.

From direct experiences, I know I'm talking to the person - or persona - in front of me, but I also know that I am communicating with something transpersonal. I know it's capable of immediately role-switching. I have experienced it many times. 

All the conflicts, all the problems could be solved instantaneously. So why stay in it? Is this really how "it" wants to spent eternity? Is that the best it CAN do? Is it what it really WANTS to do?

Personally, I feel more and more tired from these dramas. From time to time, I see the creation of drama, the process of unfolding of the storyline in a person's eyes. He or she is talking, and I am aware that the person is just making shit up to create some story arc. And I see the person looking back at me, and I know that he/she knows that I know.

Often, I get caught up in my own stories, my own role, my own character. But the more I have these moments of "knowing", the more I wonder about it.

And it's very strange because I still feel empathy. I know it BS, I know it's fabricated, and I still care.  I see the people in front of me and I think: They are having a really unpleasant experience. And I wonder: does it really have to be this way?

 

 

Sometimes, I love watching a series. The series starts great, I get interested in the story, in the characters. Then a little drama gets added and I'm engaged. For a while. And then I lose interest.

Because almost inevitably, the same thing happens over and over again: to keep tensions high, the drama must steadily increase. You know what I mean. "Woman is pregnant from lover who accidentally killed her husband without knowing while step-brother from the past appears and starts to uncover an evil plan to destroy the world while having an affair with the GF of his best friend...." ....yeah this kind of drama.

So is this really how it wants to experience life? Trump, and war, and rape, and famine, and hunger. And if there is no existential crisis going on, ok no problem we make our own mental problems. Depression, burn out, ADHD, suicide, etc etc. 

And you can't tell me that "we need to raise consciousness". It could be done, all drama ceased, right now, instantly. It's a choice. 

 

I recently had one of this role switching moments with a friend. I asked him about reality, and he replied, quite unexpectedly, "you will always wake up in some story"

When a series boils over with drama, I just stop watching it. But where else to go with my awareness than the reality around me?

What is it that "it " is actually distracting itself from? And if it wants to distract itself, is this really the way it wants to go about it? THIS IS REALLY IT? 

 

 

So what is left to do? I focus on myself and my (non) reactions as best as I can. And keep wondering: when is enough drama really enough?

Edited 11 hours ago by theleelajoker

[Natasha Tori Maru]

I know the feeling. 

I don't have the answer. This sentiment you speak of - I feel swamped by it when I am around people who take themselves SO SERIOUSLY.

We create these personas to slap over our eyes - we create little egos to survive - all because of fear. Fear is the ultimate deception. All division comes from it - it is the opposite of loving unity behind it all. 

But that fear is more real to people than love. That's where I see most getting caught. Acceptance and judgement. Most bullshit comes from this axis.

They cannot even see their 'self' is different from one year to the next. That it is not fixed. But they act like it is... Hell. I am not even vaguely the same self I was 6 months ago!

We fail from the start because we believe in separation.

[Yimpa]

The drama ends when the ego bends.

[Hojo]

 

[LastThursday]

My theory is that drama primarily comes out of emotion. Someone's actions trigger us emotionally for example, and then we justify and explain those emotions with a story and characters. And, people are addicted to stories, they can even believe them absolutely as if they're concrete fact. Some drama never de-escalates because of this.

You do have to be careful though, in not creating drama from observing drama. Even if you're not part of a drama, it can still engage the emotions negatively, and you can create more stories for yourself from there. The ultimate escape route is complete indifference to drama. But to achieve that you really have to be honest and not pretend you don't have emotions. Listen to what they're telling you, absorb any learnings and then move on. Don't make a drama out of it.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@LastThursday this is a good point.

It can be another thing for the ego to cling to if we aren't careful. Another ground or conditioning to work on. 

[theleelajoker]

I am not sure I was able to adequately make my point. 

Some clarification: 

@Natasha Tori Maru "We fail from the start because we believe in separation." --> Agreed. But why do we believe that? Because we have been told so from out birth by almost all sources. Education system, parents, work, politics, media etc etc. Very few people, and with very little power, that are sending a different message. And it does not seem to be a "bug" or "mistake" to me --> Consciousness (I'll call it "it" for simplicity), wearing the mask of individual characters,  decided that this is how the world is or should be seen. And it could change it any moment. But it doesn't, and it seems to me that this is the case bc of seeking drama / entertainment

@LastThursday "people are addicted to stories" ---> yeah, but it's not people in the end. It's "it" pretending to be people. 

[LastThursday]

1 minute ago, theleelajoker said:

@LastThursday "people are addicted to stories" ---> yeah, but it's not people in the end. It's "it" pretending to be people.

Agreed. It's also "it" pretending to be you. But I don't think you're quite there yet (not that I am either):

11 hours ago, theleelajoker said:

Personally, I feel more and more tired from these dramas.