Pickup, Sexual Abundance & Emptiness

[CARDOZZO]

38 minutes ago, Valach said:

That is the typical cause yes. You crave validation and approval your mother did not give you so you go around hooking up while also this prevents you being in a relationship because being really close and vulnerable with someone is not something you were taught by your mother.
I am just describing typical example of this, not you since I don't know you.

Sure. Novelty is a deeper aspect for myself. I like to win on the dating aspect. I like to conquer.

[CARDOZZO]

2 hours ago, Valach said:

That is the typical cause yes. You crave validation and approval your mother did not give you so you go around hooking up while also this prevents you being in a relationship because being really close and vulnerable with someone is not something you were taught by your mother.
I am just describing typical example of this, not you since I don't know you.

 

Addiction is a bitch. I will find a way. I always find a way.

[Rishabh R]

27 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

 

Addiction is a bitch. I will find a way. I always find a way.

It's a cycle 😂.

[CARDOZZO]

13 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

It's a cycle 😂.

100%

Cycles of pleasure and pain. Peaks and valleys.

[Valach]

2 hours ago, CARDOZZO said:

Sure. Novelty is a deeper aspect for myself. I like to win on the dating aspect. I like to conquer.

The feeling of novelty is essentially validation though

[CARDOZZO]

12 minutes ago, Valach said:

The feeling of novelty is essentially validation though

I don't think so. It is much more complex than just "that". It is sexual novelty. It is deep entrenched in your genes.

 

[Miguel1]

Truly, the high of getting validation from having girls being deeply into you is quite addictive.

And yes, I was not loved by my mother nearly as much as I would have wanted.

[Rishabh R]

@CARDOZZO But eventually you will outgrow it. What I can suggest you for now is to focus on quality of relationships over quantity of girls.

[CARDOZZO]

1 hour ago, Miguel1 said:

Truly, the high of getting validation from having girls being deeply into you is quite addictive.

And yes, I was not loved by my mother nearly as much as I would have wanted.

Man, this is so true. It is a love drug.

[CARDOZZO]

30 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

@CARDOZZO But eventually you will outgrow it. What I can suggest you for now is to focus on quality of relationships over quantity of girls.

My brain is trained to think like a closer. I will need to retrain my whole paradigm around woman. 

[Rishabh R]

@CARDOZZO Yeah but the first change begins with mindset shift.

My college friends had a similar experience -they were going from relationship to relationship without doing the inner work and when they suffer they either suppressed the negative emotions through smoking,drinking or another relationship.

Getting a sneek peek of this kind of lifestyle makes me recognize that how happy am I while being single even though I have my highs and lows.

Edited 35 minutes ago by Rishabh R

[CARDOZZO]

30 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

@CARDOZZO Yeah but the first change begins with mindset shift .

I wish it was easy. It is like saying: you can have a million dollars NOW but I want you to drop all that to meditate on a cave for hours to transcend money.

It takes time  

[CARDOZZO]

I never thought that I would suffer from abundance/success. Now I understand why rich people kill themselves. They have everything, right? NO.

[Rishabh R]

Just now, CARDOZZO said:

I wish it was easy. It is like saying: you can have a million dollars NOW but I want you to drop all that to meditate on a cave for hours to transcend money.

It takes time  

You are absolutely right dude ❤️. To instill something better in oneself it not only takes intention but also patience and practice. Feel free to DM me since we both are followers of each other on this forum.😂

[Rishabh R]

1 minute ago, CARDOZZO said:

I never thought that I would suffer from abundance/success. Now I understand why rich people kill themselves. They have everything, right? NO.

Have you read the book called - Subtle Art of not giving a F--- by Mark Manson.

It said that some suffering is inevitable no matter what you say or do or whom you hang out with you will have some degree of suffering since it's biologically useful.(I have read the book thrice)

The rich suffer for their riches and the poor suffering for their lack of wealth.

People in relationship suffering due to their relationship while who abstain from relationships suffer due to their abstience.

[CARDOZZO]

35 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

You are absolutely right dude ❤️. To instill something better in oneself it not only takes intention but also patience and practice. Feel free to DM me since we both are followers of each other on this forum.😂

Thanks bro, I really appreciate your help.

32 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

Have you read the book called - Subtle Art of not giving a F--- by Mark Manson.

It said that some suffering is inevitable no matter what you say or do or whom you hang out with you will have some degree of suffering since it's biologically useful.(I have read the book thrice)

The rich suffer for their riches and the poor suffering for their lack of wealth.

People in relationship suffering due to their relationship while who abstain from relationships suffer due to their abstience.

Sure. I am creating this suffering. All of that. I know how to stop it. The process of grieving itself builds stronger foundations.

[Rishabh R]

Just now, CARDOZZO said:

Sure. I am creating this suffering. All of that. I know how to stop it. The process of grieving itself builds stronger foundations.

I couldn't agree more with you.👍 

[Joseph Maynor]

1 hour ago, Miguel1 said:

Truly, the high of getting validation from having girls being deeply into you is quite addictive.

It's weird.  I actually don't like this.  I try to avoid this.